The War Against Black Male/Black Female Relationships – Part 1

Posted: February 19, 2017 in Uncategorized

Anyone who watches television or movies or reads magazines should know exactly what this post is about

When did black male and black female couples become obsolete?

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(State Farm commercial of a black male proposing to a white female)

I have NEVER ONCE seen a commercial for a jewelry company of a black male proposing to a black female

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I have watched with increasing dismay the landslide of advertising over the last two years that depicts either one of the following:

  1. A dark or brown-skinned black male with a white female (with or without children)
  2. A dark or brown-skinned black male with a racially ambiguous or bi-racial female with light skin and curly hair (with or without children)
  3. A bi-racial male and female couple
  4. A dark or brown-skinned black male alone with children who are obviously bi-racial with light skin and curly hair.
  5. Black males who are isolated from other black people and are “best buddies” with white males and females
  6. A black female (often a bi-racial female) with a white male

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(A white male with a bi-racial female)

Now, some might say, “Hey, this is racial progress! It’s about ‘diversity.'”

BUT if that was true why wouldn’t there be as many black male/black female couples as there are mixed and white couples?

Why is it so rare to see a brown or dark-skinned black male with a brown or dark-skinned black female paired in a commercial AS A COUPLE with children who look black?

And why are the vast majority of the “black females” in TV commercials bi-racial?

In fact, it is rare to see a brown or dark-skinned black female on TV at all — unless she is overweight and portrayed as someone who is sexually undesirable.

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(A dark-skinned black male proposing to a bi-racial, light-skinned curly-haired female)

Over 95% of “black children” in TV commercials are bi-racial when the VAST MAJORITY of black children are brown-skinned.

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(The bi-racial “granddaughter of a white couple)

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(A USAA Insurance commercial)

Yet, there is NO SHORTAGE of white couples in love and white parents with their children.

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WHICH KILLS THE DIVERSITY ARGUMENT AND SHOULD BURY IT TEN FEET DEEP IN THE USELESS PILE OF S THAT CREATED IT.

Yet, in spite of all the “integrated” commercials promoting interracial love, overt racism, black unemployment, murder by police of unarmed black males AND females is on the rise.

Are we really that foolish as a people to measure our “progress” (or lack of it) by the number of interracial couples and bi-racial children we see in TV commercials and TV programs? I would like to believe NOT.

An even more important question:

What are the odds that all these different and diverse companies and advertisers from insurance to jewelry retailers to mattresses manufacturers and food companies ALL promote the same IMAGES of the bi-racial person as the “new and improved  black” while deliberately excluding the image of black males and black females loving each other and reproducing with each other?

That alone should tell us that there is a very insidious and dangerous agenda at work.

It’s called PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE.

I came to the conclusion years ago that there is no independent media, entertainment industry OR corporate entity in the U.S.

They are all controlled by the hidden hands and their combined willingness to promote images that run counter to the collective interests of black males and females by making it seem UNNATURAL to be together along with the promotion of black homosexuality MUST BE part of a collective secret agenda which serves ONLY ONE PURPOSE:

To reduce our ability COLLECTIVELY to love, respect, desire and REPRODUCE BLACK CHILDREN WITH EACH OTHER.

It also attacks our collective self-esteem by reinforcing our black genetic “inferiority,” a curse that can only be removed by breeding with (superior) white and non-black people to produce smarter and more attractive “black people.”

It also increases the hostility of black females toward black males collectively for their highly visible “betrayal” — even though this betrayal is largely manufactured by the advertising and media industry.

And it increases the level of despair and dysfunction with the black female population many of who will never marry BUT who will at the same time raise the NEXT BLACK GENERATION.

If the mother of a nation is not protected and respected so she can pass that self-esteem along to her children, that nation is doomed for EXTINCTION. (which, perhaps, is the end goal?)

It is easy to see the massive self-esteem damage in the way some of our sisters reject their beautiful, God-given hair and bodies in order to imitate that which they see as more beautiful on the TV and movie screen. And how many have given up the fight to have a respectful relationship with a man because they do not believe (deep down) that they deserve one.

This self-contempt and deep-seated anger often evolves into contempt — even hatred — for her mirror images:

OTHER BLACK FEMALES

Who then become her competition for a shrinking supply of black males able and willing to commit to an “inferior” black female.

One thing that is often overlooked:

the disgust and resentment of the white collective in response to these images, both white males AND white females. Make no mistake. Contrary to all the media propaganda, the majority of white people do NOT approve of interracial relationships between blacks and whites and MAY take out this resentment in the form of more police abuse, more unjust jury trial outcomes, more black unemployment, and more discrimination against blacks, in particular, the black male.

All of which serves another purpose: to REDIRECT WHITE ANGST AND RAGE IN THE DIRECTION OF BLACK PEOPLE RATHER THAN THE WHITE ELITES THAT ARE CAUSING IT.

Another FACT:

The white birth rate worldwide is in a serious decline to such an extent that there is a worldwide panic that whites will soon be extinct.

https://www.rt.com/usa/us-white-births-census-613/

http://time.com/4585232/white-deaths-exceed-births-united-states/

But, unlike black people collectively, when whites collectively see something that threatens their survival

THEY ACT TO PROMOTE THEIR OWN SELF-INTERESTS

Regardless of how cruel or unethical their methods might be.

ANYTHING THAT HAPPENS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN IS NOT AN ACCIDENT OR A COINCIDENCE, BUT IS BY DESIGN.

As I have explained in detail in all my books, by programming the highly melanated black male to breed with white females instead of other equally melanated black females, he will create bi-racial children who for the most part will:

  1. will look nothing like him or his family members
  2. will not be part of the black struggle against white supremacy
  3. who will in all likelihood be greatly white identified
  4. will divorce themselves from their “black side”causing a fracture in the continuation of the black family (whereas whites work hard to maintain a family legacy that continues for GENERATIONS)
  5. and will in all likelihood marry and breed with a white person until the third generation will look and function as white people, effectively wiping out any connection to their “black side” WHILE INCREASING THE WHITE POPULATION WITH MORE GENETICALLY MELANATED (FERTILE) ‘WHITE PEOPLE.’
  6. And one of the most important points of all is WHY THE DARKEST-SKINNED BLACK MALE IS USUALLY THE ONE WHO IS PORTRAYED WITH A WHITE FEMALE:  BECAUSE OF HIS MELANIN. By impregnating the white female, the dark-skinned, highly melanated black male is actually INCREASING the fertility of future white generations because there is a great likelihood that his bi-racial children will MARRY AND BREED WITH A WHITE PERSON.

In essence, the black male who breeds with a white female (and the black female who breeds with a white male) will BUILD NOTHING THAT CONTRIBUTES TO FUTURE BLACK GENERATIONS.

Not a power base.

Not an economic base.

NOTHING that will help to eliminate the system of white supremacy.

And are promoting their own genetic self-genocide.

This has been MY experience based on many years of observation. Others might disagree.

Now, the only question that must be asked is what is the END GOAL of their agenda toward the most melanated people on this planet?

And what should be our intelligent, self-respecting response?

Do we CONTINUE to financially support the advertisers who so disrespectfully promote our own demise?

Do we CONTINUE to let the television babysit (program) our brown and dark-skinned children and watch programs and commercials that make them obsolete?

Or do we start challenging these images by TALKING ABOUT THEM with other black people and come up with an action plan that hits them in their POCKETS and lets them know that we are not the brain-dead, remote-controlled black robots they take us for?

I will end here so all can digest what has been written as food for thought.

One more thing:

Please share this link with others.

We must stop being armchair quarterbacks OR accept the dire consequences of our apathy and our share of the blame for what happens to us as a people.

Comments
  1. @ everyone
    Another super sickening trend I’ve ovserved especially in print media: why we ALWAYS gotta see a Black person hugged up on a white? You rarely see Blacks being so affectionate with each other in such a manner…all gleeful and jolly. Or, we gotta see whites leaning up on Black people as a support? For example, you’ll often see ads with a white entity with an elbow or forearm posted up or propped up on a Black person. Dastardly!

  2. Timothy says:

    @Sister Courtney

    I have listened to the video from Harvey. First, I don’t agree with his usage of profanity. Here are my views. In terms of relationships between black men and black women, there is much work to be done in order for us to make our relationships to be better. He seems to minimize the massive misogynoir in society while he obsesses with promoting the inaccuracy that black man are mostly the ones being persecuted in the black community. The truth is that both black men and black women are victims of the system of racism. He also omits the massive misogynoir that many black women experienced back during the Civil Rights Movement and the Black Power movement. For example, many black women were not allowed to give long speeches in the 1963 March on Washington. Even Ella Baker spoke out in favor of egalitarian leadership in black civil rights organizations. I do believe that both black men and black women have the right to fight in the front lines for freedom. He is right that white women benefit heavily from affirmative action and white women have white privilege. The racism of many white women have been minimized and ignored by mainstream society.

    Yet, there is gender economic inequality that must be addressed and we must address many social issues in order for us to achieve justice. It is disgraceful that most white people voted against their economic interests, but it is our responsibility to defend our black interests. Shamira Irbrahim is a black women who had questions about the Women’s International March, but she is still pro-freedom and pro-social justice. Harvey ignores her article, so tons of black women know what time it is as it relates to white women.

    Tons of black women aren’t being manipulated in following the status quo. It is true that many black people (among both genders) have sold out and have been compromised. This isn’t representative of every black person though. There is nothing wrong with women’s rights and justice either. The problem is that the oligarchy have used policies that grown the mass incarceration state, poverty, police brutality, and other evils in our community. The oligarchy uses capitalist exploitation to harm black folks while promoting divisions instead of true unity in the black community. The black man collectively is never the enemy. The black women is never collectively the enemy. The system of oppression is the true enemy. Both black men and black women have to create many discussions to honesty show their views, concerns, and ideals in order for real solutions to form. Defending black women is not being a “simp.” It is being real.

    A patriarchal supremacist state is never going to work since oppression doesn’t lead into more morality. True morality is respecting rights and eliminating racial, economic, and gender oppression. That’s morality. Harvey should be reminded that the strongest supporter of black men are black women. Black women give birth to black children, aid black men in college on many occasions, and supported black men (from actors to scientific scholars) for a long time. He needs to show more appreciation of the sacrifice and contributions of black women. Harvey is right about the viciousness of white society, but he ignores the massive support black women have shown to black men since the beginning of human history. This fight for freedom is not easy. We must continue to stand up and keep our eyes on the prize.

    The video is long.

    Thank you for showing the information Sister. 🙂

  3. Trojan Pam says:

    Again and again, I have asked people MULTIPLE TIMES not to post profane, anti-black videos or links that advertise the ignorance of certain youtubers and that feed the flame wars between black males and females without contributing ONE THING to healing the damage between black males and females.

    If some people feel compelled to post whatever they want, I suggest they get their own blog.

    I will delete these videos and if it continues I will block the person that continues to do it

    You may post PERSONAL COMMENTS from your own experiences but I will not be a form of advertising for ignorant, profane anti-black people.

    This is the last time I will say this before I block the offenders.

    • Courtney H. says:

      @ Trojan Pam:

      I’m sorry. I posted that one vdo in response to The original BlackWoman’s comment as an example if what she was talking about regarding this gender war in our community. I won’t do it afain.

      • Trojan Pam says:

        @ Courtney

        You have shared a lot of important information but I would like to stay away from profane, anti-black commentary on YouTube. I believe it does more harm than good and I do not want this blog to promote those YouTube channels. However, feel free to express your own personal opinions.

        All I ask of everyone — including myself — is to do it in a respectful manner and anyone who can’t complete a sentence without profanity and posts that madness publicly is not someone I want to promote.

        Remember, even a fool can mix a little truth in with a whole lot of lies.

        I caution black females, especially, to guard their minds and spirits against the poison certain black males are spewing out into the universe. It will sink into your unconscious without you even knowing it.

        And we should not fool ourselves into thinking these males (and females) are talking about “other black females.”

        No, they are talking about you and me and our mothers and sisters and daughters and nieces and friends and they are their own worst enemies because there is no way on earth you can spew out that much poison without poisoning yourself.

        The rotten fruits of their hateful rants will visit their doorsteps in the near future, that I guarantee you.

        • Courtney H. says:

          @Trojan Pam & Timothy:

          Thank you much for your responses. I have to admit that I told people on your last post that I would wean myself from those foo km s on YouTube, and don’t watch their videos as much as I used to do, but now I realize that I have to cut them off cold turkey. You’Re right that these folks get into our consciousness when we don’t know it. Getting away from people like that is a way of improving ourselves.

          Again, thank so much.

          • Courtney H. says:

            Oops! It should read “those fools on YouRube.”

          • Trojan Pam says:

            @ Courtney

            What makes these videos so dangerous is:

            1. The white supremacists are masters at programing and mind manipulation and they use all kinds of methods to get inside our heads

            2. We have no idea who these You Tubers really are, if they are black, OR who they work for.

            3. What you watch and listen to becomes part of your brain matter, part of your conscious AND subconscious mind and part of WHO YOU ARE. I know people would like to think they are “too smart” to be programmed but that is EGO talking.

            Our brains are SPONGES and they absorb EVERYTHING we see and hear and feel. We are ALL programmed in ways that would shock us if we really understood how deep it goes.

            4. People sprinkle in bits of truth to hide the STINK of their lies.

            5. Garbage in, garbage out, bottom line.

            I’m glad that you’re moving away from this kind of abusive AND self-abusive behavior.

            We need to preserve our energies for more constructive and self-respecting and black-self-respecting activities

          • Timothy says:

            @Sister Courtney

            You’re Welcome.

            Life is journey and we are constantly in favor of the improvement of the black community. Part of that journey is to promote overtly pro-black messages since we encounter so much negativity in the world. It is very paramount that black men and black women not only establish positive relationships, but fully understand the vindictive, heinous nature of the system of racism/white supremacy. We can easily articulate our views on Africa, on relationships, on history, on culture, etc. excluding the distractions that racists show. I certainly wish the best for you like always.

            This is a fight for our literal survival as we have to address our problems if we want any resolution or solutions. Also, we all made mistakes and we grow. Within ourselves as black people, promoting more positive energy deals with reducing conflict, helping our communities, speaking up against injustice, and continuing to live our lives in the positive way. The best allies of righteous black men are righteous black women and vice versa. The relationships of Malcolm X and Betty Shabazz, Dr. King and Coretta Scott King, Medgar Evers and Myrlie Evers-Williams, and Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee outline black relationships dealing with sacrifice, love, togetherness, activism, and strength. Those relationships are the types of relationships that we want to flourish.

            Thank you for your words Sister Courtney.

  4. K. Smith says:

    Just as I was reading this blog, I saw a new pharmaceutical commercial with an ambiguous biracial woman and two biracial children. The male was lightskinned and/or biracial. Just yesterday I went to brunch by myself, and witnessed a party of three black males (one brownskinned, two biracial looking) with a white woman. They refused to even make eye contact with me, which was interesting since the space was small and every other person in there seemed to make eye contact with each other. Just something I noted.
    The reign of the biracial atheletes and entertainers has of course begun. They were gradually introducing them, at first. One here, one there. Blake griffins, and colin kapernicks. But yesterday, while watching march madness, I saw an entire starting line-up that was biracial (well, 4 out of 5). They are replacing the brownskin atheletes with these half white hybrids.
    But yeah, I stopped watching tv some years ago. i’ll watch a movie or sports sometime, but not television or news. It’s very anti-black, and causes all kinds of mental illness in black people. I try to tell folks sometimes, but they dont wanna listen. A lot of black people just aren’t smart enough to understand what’s going on. First, you have to have an understanding of basic psychology. The lack of intelligence is cultivated through diet, lifestyle, poisoned water, self-hate, etc. It’s just a vicious cycle. I hate to see older self-hating blacks that feed into colorism, and hatred of other black people.

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ K Smith

      The programming is so obvious that it’s hard to understand why most of us do not see. I have also noticed the increasing number of blacks with a white parent in professional athletics.

      And, I have had the same experience on an increasing level — the refusal of black males to make eye contact with me. It was puzzling at first and then it began to be annoying as I found myself starting to do the same thing more and more often: PUT YOU ON IGNORE. Now that is not “counter-racism” in action but it is human.

      I feel that some of it is due to anti-blackness, confusion, fear and guilt. They know something is wrong with their behavior, otherwise they wouldn’t be defensive about it, but their confusion is so great, they can’t find a way out it

      But the one thing I do know is the day when the white system, racist man and/or racist woman put that foot up that “A”, WE (black women) will be the FIRST ones they come to for help

      I have seen this happen over and over again. The black female as the rescuer of black adult males and black boys. And even when I see black men come to the aid of other black males or boys, there is usually a black female involved AND had she not been there, I believe the efforts would have been less.

      This is not to put down anyone BUT i will speak the truth about what I have witnessed.

      You’re right, many if not most black people have no real interest in understanding our–their–oppression and have been hypnotized by our endless, almost fanatical TV and movie watching to the extent where our BRAIN COMPUTERS have turned to jelly.

      Sometimes, the best you can do is to make sure that you keep your own head straight and minimize contact with toxic people.

  5. Victor Palmer says:

    Labelling a non-white person dark skin is part of the problem.

  6. Miss Pam

    Last night, I had an hour long conversation with a female friend of mine about this topic. According to her logic:

    When you feel powerless and trapped, you invent things to give yourself power. For black males, who cannot be “real, functioning men” in this racist system, he “invents” his power by lording over black females (he knows he CANNOT do this to a white one) who are (usually) smaller and weaker than he is. Therefore, he is “The Man.”

    For the black female, who cannot function as “real functioning women”, they turn to education, education, education (something she knows many black males DO NOT possess) , church ( “Jesus loves me!” ) and shopping to feel as if they are worth something.

    His way is dominant.
    Her way is submissive.
    Both are Destructive.

    I told her what’s missing in our community is cross-validation.

    Men chase women.

    NOT the other way around.

    Women ALLOW themselves to be caught by a man that has “proven” himself.

    Thusly, his manhood (healthy aggressiveness), sexuality and virility is validated and her femininity (healthy passivity), sexuality and ability to give him children is validated.

    BOTH want the same thing.

    It’s just in different ways according to Nature.

    When you do not value your self and mirror image, the next step is subtle suicide.

    • Victor Palmer says:

      Your comments make a lot of sense.

      The real fight is not allowing your emotions to prevent you from thinking.

      You direct your emotions to logic and that will help you to understand what the system of white supremacy is, and how it works.

      Slavery never ended! The same thing that happened to your grandmother and grandfather is still happening to you 24/7.

      America is not a person. America is an idea that hasn’t been realized.

      Americans don’t practice racism. The white People who practice racism are the practitioners of the global business system of white supremacy, which is functional racism.

      Logic based thinking will teach you how to act as a prisoner of war, because that is what you are.

      You have been living in captivity for over six centuries with no justice whatsoever!

      We are yet to be Americans.

      Replace racism with justice!

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ diaryofanegress

      who said:

      “When you feel powerless and trapped, you invent things to give yourself power. For black males, who cannot be “real, functioning men” in this racist system, he “invents” his power by lording over black females (he knows he CANNOT do this to a white one) who are (usually) smaller and weaker than he is. Therefore, he is “The Man.”

      For the black female, who cannot function as “real functioning women”, they turn to education, education, education (something she knows many black males DO NOT possess) , church ( “Jesus loves me!” ) and shopping to feel as if they are worth something.

      His way is dominant.
      Her way is submissive.
      Both are Destructive.”

      I repeat it because I believe this is an accurate and brilliantly stated truth. The roles of male and female have become distorted in this society. Confusion reigns supreme which brings about hostility and counter-productive behavior of which we are witnessing right now.

      Unfortunately, most people seem to get ALL their cues from the mainstream media/entertainment industry and its influences has been a total disaster, especially for the victims of white supremacy

      • @ Miss Pam

        Thank you.

        A reader emailed me to ask me “what should I do?” I made a suggestion to her. A simple one.

        For one day a week, can you turn off the TV and keep it off?

        She answered “I don’t think that’s gonna happen.”

        I asked her why.

        She stated, “I need it.”

        That made me pause. And think. HARD.

        What is TV doing to us that we’re addicted to it? What kind of invisible rays are being emitted into our brains that we simply cannot tuned it out even for one day?

        Something I learned to do, which was the hardest most difficult thing I’ve EVER done in my entire life, is to separate my emotions from logic.

        When I began to do this and approach each situation from a 100% analytical approach, answers suddenly came to me. The reason why whites have had the upper advantage over us for 500 years is because they STUDY us in depth.

        What makes us tick. What we like, hate and RESPOND to. They put out BETA tests to gauge our reaction over certain situations and then formulate plans to further enslave us. And we keep falling for it. This is why EVERY race has said, “Black people are the dumbest race on earth.”

        Every man knows, intrinsically, that their women are:

        1. The real leaders of their community
        2. That they cannot live without their females
        3. Without women, that look like them, they will die

        Why is this important?

        By convincing certain black males that he can live and function without the aid, love, guidance and support of his mirror image, you convince him to commit passive suicide.

        This is one of the many, yet most effective ways, to rid the planet of black people.

        BUT…

        Black men know this too even though they deny it. How do I know?

        They erupt in mass panic, volcanic rage and terrible desperation when they see a black female, who is “put together” and VERY desirable, CHOOSE to give her time, energy and seed (womb) to a white/ non black man.

        They simply cannot fathom or handle this. Hence the childish name calling and adamant rage towards her. I’ve heard black men on the bus and in Dunkin Donuts harshly criticize Kerry Washington for playing a FICTIONAL character who loves to “F that jew.” The same goes for Viola who is married (?) to a jew ( I don’t watch these shows so I’m guessing ).

        What we need to do, starting now, is turn the dial to the most destructive invention ever made to the LEFT, learn to meditate to heal ourselves and begin to forgive each other because we are BOTH to blame in this mess.

        • Trojan Pam says:

          @ diaryofanegress

          Once again, you’ve provided a ton of food for thought. I have to agree, the most destructive mass mind weapon being used against black people is the TELEVISION and all the excessive video/movie watching,

          Plus all the wasted, brain-crushing internet entertainment and YouTube foolishness, and that also includes the FACEBOOK-ing of meaningless personal trivia (look at what I ate!) and “selfies”

          taking us all back to a STAGE of ADOLESCENCE where the world revolves around us

          Our reckless disregard for our own survival is due to a great degree to all that movie watching with Denzel and Morgan Freeman and Chris Rock and Viola Davis and Kerry Washington and Tyler Perry, etc, because in the movies, racism is all but a distant memory, and black people are treated as the equals of white people and the world is such a wonderful integrated paradise, where white women LOVE them some sexy black men and white men WANT them some hot black women

          At least that’s what the movies tell us, right?

          And we suck it right in, hook line and dynamite

          Because I’ve actually HEARD grown (over 40) black males on my job say how much white females love black men

          Yet, they are also constantly complaining about the way “white people” treat black males

          including stories about white females falsely accusing black males of rape or being “prejudiced”

          AND

          How racist one of our WHITE FEMALE managers is

          ?????

          And everywhere I look, black males by the droves are breeding and dating white females, shopping at Wal-Mart, or dining at restaurants, or shopping for groceries

          And I suspect, more and more black females are throwing up their hands and their skirts, saying, what the hell, if I can’t beat him, I might as well join him in my own sexual and psychological suicide

          because in MOST CASES, in fact, the vast majority of cases, these tragic “relationships” or “arrangements” as some prefer to call it SELDOM lead to marriage and seldom LAST.

          In the end, the black male has “dropped” a ton of “biracial” babies to be raised by often RACIST white females and has moved on, and the black female has another “secret” she has to keep for fear of being judged a “white man’s whore”

          (Funny how the black male is never described as the white female’s male whore…)

          In any case, reality has a strange way of sneaking up on the foolish, naive, apathetic, and unsuspecting and laying you out cold and flat on your back especially when war is being waged against a group of people and they fail to come together for their own survival.

          You don’t have to be a genius to guess the ending to that movie

  7. dana carter says:

    I dont think BM worship of non black women pushed BW to date WM. These BW always wanted to date WM. You marry and procreate with what you value. Many BW value WM. I have seen many BW with white men who are either way past their prime, starting their 2nd family well into their 50s/60s after have a white one or WM who the white community threw away. I mean you never see a white man in his prime, well to do go into an average black neighborhood looking to meet BW or even taking a BW out of her neighborhood to make her a stay at home housewife. It just doesnt happen but the reverse does. Many times, BW have to bring everything to the table (good job) to date a WM that is not as successful as she is. WM do not treat BW as damsels in distress but more so perhaps an equivalent to their white male co worker I would say. The role reversal in these relationships is quite blatant. BM on the other hand will “save” a poor/average white women. Any sane black person who’s open to dating all races would reject the trash of that community but this is not happening. The trash of the White community happens to be very successful in many circles in the black community.

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ dana carter

      I disagree with the first part of your first comment. Yes, there are black females who desire WM over BM, but I believe that number is small.

      Keep in mind that being “curious” about WM or WW is not the same thing as preferring them over all black people.

      A lot of what happens between black and white people sexually and socially is curiosity on both parts. The problem is that black people often put whites on a pedestal (and the white person often knows or expects this).

      However, when you have a situation where there are LARGE numbers of unattached black females in the midst of a growing number of black males who are dating and breeding and marrying non-black females, not counting the men who are homosexuals, or in prison or in the ground…

      then it is logical to assume that black females will begin to seek OTHER ALTERNATIVES to being alone. As ANY human being would (!)

      Add to that the PAIN OF REJECTION by the men of their own group (something I have experienced on many occasions, and it is very painful indeed, to see black males who clearly do not want black females) —

      then the motivation is ALSO fueled by resentment (and revenge of a sort) and a desire to reject black males in the same way they have rejected us. (I have also had those feelings).

      I do agree that black people in general do not get the “cream of the crop” whites as mates. But that is understandable in a white supremacy society where being “white” adds points to what a person has to offer (if anything)

      Do not misunderstand, I am NOT suggesting that BW “date” WM, I am simply doing the math.

      If there is a shortage of what you need in one place, you go looking somewhere else OR do without

      there are only two choices.

      • @TojanPam

        I agree with your assessment above. Most black women’s first choice is a black man, but because of so much anti-black woman sentiment amongst too many black men, I just can’t understand how black people are not seeing that at some point black women WILL respond. For every action there’s a reaction and if I’m not mistaken that’s Murphy’s Law, right?

        Many black people are now in their feelings about more black women dating, marrying out, but didn’t bother to think or ask “What will all this anti-bw bashing and abandonment by too many black males for the last 50-some years has done to the psyche of many black women and girls and when will it be enough for many? Then you have many black women speaking up about all these years black men have been dating, marrying out there have been no state of the unions or talks of black unity and preservation, only now that black women are doing it more.

        Many black women see this as black people insulting the black woman’s intelligence that black women would not eventually see through all this. This one-sided loyalty and sexual/gender double standards WILL NOT stand; it will only further the divide. Yet black people want to pretend that none of this is happening or how much of a MAJOR problem it is.

        I say all of this and other comments just to state the truth of what’s going on, not to point the finger (or promote IR) cause I’ve said before black women have had a hand in all this too.

        • Trojan Pam says:

          @ TheOriginalBlackWoman

          I agree wholeheartedly. We are being taken for granted but we (BW) are somewhat responsible for this by allowing ourselves to be used and to not have standards for how we allow ourselves to be treated. I have long advocated that black women have limits and not support ANYONE who doesn’t not validate OR support us.

          Especially when it comes to our sons and male companions

          Yeah, it’s cold but real

          People take you for granted when they do NOT appreciate what you do for them

          but I also realize we are ALL being manipulated by outside forces via the media, music, movies, TV commercials, etc.

          The powers that be want us to fight because we become a helpless, self=hating, insane black populations

          that will not be able OR willing to defend ourselves when the REAL HAMMER falls on our heads.

          WE MUST BE SMARTER

          • @Trojan Pam

            I co-sign 100% especially with that BW are also responsible how we are treated within the “community.” This subject is being had by BW all over the BW blogosphere and social media spaces. Black Women tend to grade black men on a curve due to black men’s oppressive state under the system of racism. All the racism white supremacy in the world cannot make me except colorist and misogynistic attitudes and behaviors from black males, not even my close male relatives.

            I also believe (as many other black women that black people condition black women to just take any type of treatment from black men. I’m many times floored at the (mis) treatment and treasonous behavior black women will put up with black men and IT HAS TO STOP.

            You and I are not the only ones telling black women to stop with the support without reciprocation. Black Women don’t put up with racism/sexism/misogynoir from white/non-black men so why should we put up with colorism/sexism/misogynoir from Black Men. Putting up with this behavior from either a white/non-black man or a black man is NOT GOOD for the saftey and well-being of black women. Yet, black women tend to rationalized this behavior from black men, thinking that it will change their behavior and thinking towards black women, IT WILL NOT, only with the help of God can change self-hating black males change their thoughts and behavior towards black women. But until then, Black Women are going to have to learn how to cut off treasonous black males, family included without guilt.

            • Victor Palmer says:

              ” Black Women don’t put up with racism/sexism/misogynoir from white/non-black men so why should we put up with colorism/sexism/misogynoir from Black Men. Putting up with this behavior from either a white/non-black man or a black man is NOT GOOD for the saftey and well-being of black women.”

              Black females don’t put up with racism/sexism/misogynoir from non-white males.
              Well now, I would like to know how that is done, because as long as racism remains in the place of justice. We will continue to be exactly as we are.

              Black People don’t seem to get the connection between sexism and racism. The idea come from the same source, is the racists. The racists believe in dominating their females with violence.

              • @ Victor Palmer

                From what I see black people are all up and down social media, youtube, the blogosphere, etc. ALL DAY LONG EVERY DAY discussing about how racism and sexism is connected and how white supremacy racism influences our thought, speech, and actions towards one another, however black people continue treat other black people like dog crap. I’m tired of black people discussing the affects of racism,colorism and sexism on us, yet make no effort to change our behaviors towards one another. If you know your behavior is destructive you MAKE THE EFFORT to change it.

                If we know that white supremacy racism affects our behavior how about put in the effort to change and STOP following what the racist do???

                If I know and understand white supremacy is affecting how I see and treat other black people it’s up to me to examine my behavior and change it. Many black men talk about the connection between racism and sexism, but continue to co-sign or remain silent in the face of misogynoir towards black women and girls, whether it’s from white/non-black men or other black men. Black Women are also guilty of remaining silent and co-signing misogynoir towards black women and girls. I could go on and on.

                All of this is exactly what Dr. Fuller is trying to get us to understand? We can’t change the racist aka white supremacist, but we can change ourselves that is if we want to. Let’s stop acting like our oppressors. We don’t have be to be like them we have the power to change. There’s no excuses at this point.

              • Victor Palmer says:

                VGQ!

              • what does that stand for?

              • Victor Palmer says:

                Listen to what Mr. Fuller say. As a victim of white supremacy. We as nonwhite People are entitled to express how we think racism should be ended.

              • Victor Palmer says:

                “victims guaranteed qualification”

                Don’t forget to click on the link below!

    • Epi says:

      @ Dana Carter:

      Not sure what geographical area that you live in or community, but in my “circle” as you called it, what you describe as “the trash of the White community happens to be very successful in many circles in the black community” is NON-EXISTENT in my community. As I am sure that you are aware, “water seeks its own level.” Which is why this is not found in my “circle.” That same “higher earning power” that is found is in some White locales or communities IS also found in some Black communities or locales as well.

      So your assertion is WEAK and ill-informed. Blacks also ascribe to this same dictum. If this was your “nickel-slick” way of attempting to state that we, as black women, accept anything or anyone coming our way out of desperation, “you need to get out more often.” MOST black women, although there are some that do, DO NOT desire White males, financially secure or not. They are just not desirable to us. That’s it, that’s all.

      Yes, I said THAT.

      Epi

      • dana carter says:

        And what BLACK city do you live in? I’ll wait.

        • Epi says:

          “Your wait is over.” I reside in a LARGE city, in a MOSTLY black enclave. And YES, the median income is OVER 90,000 annually AND most of the black males and females that are married, are married to OTHER BLACK MALES AND FEMALES and are working professionals.

          Epi

  8. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of this?

    Enjoy! 😀

  9. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of these?

    The last one is almost two hours long, and I have to admit that I haven’t watched it.

    Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      The videos talk about censorship and other issues. The second video in essence made the greatest points. We have to make a distinction between legitimate censorship and bad censorship. Legitimate censorship is about banning speech in the Internet that includes hate speech against black women, speech that threatens people, and speech that advances cyber bullying in an evil fashion. We have a lot of healing to do. The major part of healing is acknowledging facts and being honest about our condition as a community. The fact is that on average, black males have bashed black females a lot more than vice versa. I see this in real life. Also, it is a fact that black men collectively and black women collectively are not responsible for misogynoir in our community. Some people just believe in permanent pessimism and embrace negativity. Many people want to ignore any positive story in the black community. We know that we have a crisis that is serious and we have a long way to go, but losing hope is not a solution. Losing all forms of hope is no answer. An answer is fighting back and using activism to make things better no matter what. One thing that I reject is to blame every black person on Earth for every problem in the black community. That’s disrespectful. There are many black men who speak out and fight against misogynoir. The deal is that we have to do a whole lot more to combat misogynoir. We haven’t done enough. So. I’m fine with hate speech videos against black women being banned. I don’t believe in videos, from righteous Brothers who uplift black women, being banned. That’s wrong.

      The so-called “gender wars” are not only anti-black, but it distracts from really fighting the system of racism/white supremacy. You will notice that many people who talk about the gender wars rarely if ever discuss about international solidarity among black people, building STEM Fields, promoting solutions, fighting poverty, defending the environment, honoring the ancestors, establishing infrastructure, helping the black youth, defending black women, and being inspired to fight oppression. Negative energy never works. We need more stronger, positive energy to get the job done.

      Those are my thoughts. Thank you for showing your information Sister Courtney. 🙂 .

    • @Courtney
      I can only imagine what is being said in these videos based on the titles and what I’m reading in the blogosphere and social media about the shutting down of black woman hating channels. These men and their followers want to continue on with the black woman bashing campaign not because its “free speech” but because like white supremacist in black face that they are they hate black women and want to poison people’s minds and further ruin the reputation of black women. We hate black women so let’s get everybody else to hating them too is the agenda. It’s about “hate speech” not “free speech.” I believe Mrs. Nelson explained the difference between the two.

  10. chuquestaquenumber1 says:

    If you want to see another aspect of BM/BF relationships,go to YouTube. You will see a battle between BM/BF that has gotten real ugly. Certain BM would attack BF . These BF got a BF atty Sophia A Nelson to go after BM. I’m for BF fighting against harassment,unfortunately its gone towards BM that are undeserving. I guarantee that BM will retaliate against BF and undeserving BF will suffer. It will get worse before it gets better.

    • @chuquestaquenumber1

      I’m saying this in with all due respect and in all honesty. We need to get the facts straight before we share news. Black Women DID NOT go find Mrs. Nelson, one of the He-Man Black Woman Haters just happened to bark of the wrong tree this time. Long story short……..

      Mrs. Sophia Nelson was consistently attacked by one black male on youtube name Obsidian of the Obsidian Network. She talked about how he was calling her names and using her image which is copyright violations/infringement. She said that she found out that he has been doing this for years without her knowledge; she’s just finding out about it. Listen to her speak on it in this video below

      Because of Obsidian and other black males like him, Mrs. Nelson decided to take up the mantle of fighting against anti-black woman defamation. And I’m here for it 100%. Black Women have asked, begged, and pleaded with the black “community” to stop the debasement of black women by these black males on Youtube for over a decade to no avail. So what are black women to do? We can’t sit back and allow the image and the likeness of black women to be continually defiled by sadly (too) many males in our “community”. Many black people sat back, laughed, subscribed, shared, just participated in every way possible in these males’ public debasement of black women.

      Black Women ARE TIRED. Black Women didn’t start this gender war on youtube. Uncle Tommy and the HE-Man Black Woman Haters Club drew first blood.

      The ONLY reason why these males are fighting back because they want to continue to profit off the abuse of black women. The abuse of black women has become a business you. Black Women HAVE EVERY RIGHT to address and take legal action; like I’ve said above black women have tried to resolve this issue with black people, but many black people didn’t give a damn. You say that undeserving black males will suffer, they only have their bretheren to blame. because black people did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to stop this.

      • chuquestaquenumber1 says:

        Actually Sophia A Nelson was contacted by her friend Christelyn Karazin about Obsidian and others BM who harassed and bashed her. One of Obsidians followers put up Christelyn Karazin address and phone number. She asked him to delete the comment. He said No and laughed. You are correct about Obsidian picking on the wrong one ,he didn’t think Sophia had muscle. She proved him wrong. While I’m for Tommy Sotomayor, Obsidian,Oshay Duke Jackson etc.receiving punishment,a good guy in my opinion like New Possibilities unjustly got caught up. Yes Black males can make money bashing Black females . That must stop. I just don’t want to see the wrong BM suffer. It’s also interesting how Angel Ramirez Jordan who only defends Black Women got his channel taken down. I hope this clears things up.

        • Timothy says:

          @chuquestaquenumber1

          Great Points.

          • Victor Palmer says:

            I have been listening to your discussions about the so called relationships of black males (BM) and black females (BF).

            I didn’t really understand why Mr. Fuller is so very serious about the correct usage of words. The words we use affects our thoughts, speech and actions.

            Now when the words we use are not correct. The words we use causes us to be confused. Confusion and deception is the major weapon that the white People who practice racism use against non-white people globally.

            The arrangements between black males (BM) and black females (FM) are not going to be as we want them to be, because we as the non-white people of the world are living in an artificial construct called the system of white supremacy.

            As you mentioned regarding the people activity of entertainment, which includes: smartphones, internet, Television ( Tell- a- lie-vision). The white People who practice racism are waging war against through the people activity of entertainment. For example TV commercials.

            I think besides the education we received as children and as adults is responsible for the animosity between black males and black females, that is one of many reasons why our so called relationships are not relationships. Mr. Fuller has made this comment many times.

            This construct has imprisoned us for over six centuries.

            As a prisoner of war. I don’t have relationships with black females (BF). If I can find a black female (BF), because the racists have created an environment in which having any kind of true relationship is next to impossible under the global business system of white supremacy/racism, so I have to be aware that my arrangements with a black females (BF) will not be as it suppose to be, because I am living within an evil system.

            Sometimes as I listen to the discussions. Everyone who is posting is talking as if racism doesn’t exist. The discussions refer to relationships that don’t exist, because a black male cannot promise or protect a black female from anything that racists man and racist woman decide to do with any of us. Racist man and racist woman have trained us to be victims. We need to break this training. By codifying our thoughts, speech and actions.

            So, in closing my suggestions is wherever anyone is trying to post whatever you want to say. Try to keep the discussions within the context of the system of white supremacy/racism.

            I would recommend read over the revised edition of the United Independent Compensatory Code/system/ concept.

            So then the discussions become more like we are educating each other about how white supremacy works and what it is, instead of gossiping or belittling and demeaning each other, as a consequence of our perpetual states of confusion and/ or our miseducation.

            Replace racism with justice!

        • I believe Angel’s channel got taken down because the HMBWHC (He-Man Black Woman Haters Club) including their black and non-black following didn’t like him praising and uplifting black women. It’s a sad day in hell when black males don’t want to see black men uplift black women. I can see non-blacks not liking it, but it’s very sad to the 3rd power to see black males being overjoyed to see black women getting bashed. smfh.

      • Victor Palmer says:

        There is no gender war between black males and black females, but the built in animosity between non-white people cause conflicts, because we are confused.

        The white People who practice racism created deception and confusion to mistreat and subjugate non-white people. I can see that it is working.

        Non-white People are confused and don’t know they are confused.

        I have been listening to your discussions about the so called relationships of black males (BM) and black female (BF).

        I didn’t really understand why Mr. Fuller is so very serious about the correct usage of words. The words we use affects our thoughts, speech and actions.

        Now when the words we use are not correct. The words we use causes us to be confused. Confusion and deception is the major weapon that the white People who practice racism use against non-white people globally.

        The arrangements between black males (BM) and black females (FM) are not going to be as we want them to be, because we as the non-white people of the world are living in an artificial construct called the system of white supremacy.

        As you mentioned regarding the people activity of entertainment, which includes: smartphones, internet, Television ( Tell- a- lie-vision). The white People who practice racism are waging war against through the people activity of entertainment. For example TV commercials.

        I think besides the education we received as children and as adults is responsible for the animosity between black males and black females, that is one of many reasons why our so called relationships are not relationships. Mr. Fuller has made this comment many times.

        This construct has imprisoned us for over six centuries.

        As a prisoner of war. I don’t have relationships with black females (BF). If I can find a black female (BF), because the racists have created an environment in which having any kind of true relationship is next to impossible under the global business system of white supremacy/racism, so I have to be aware that my arrangements with a black females (BF) will not be as it suppose to be, because I am living within an evil system.

        Sometimes as I listen to the discussions. Everyone who is posting is talking as if racism doesn’t exist. The discussions refer to relationships that don’t exist, because a black male cannot promise or protect a black female from anything that racists man and racist woman decide to do with any of us. Racist man and racist woman have trained us to be victims. We need to break this training. By codifying our thoughts, speech and actions.

        So, in closing my suggestions is wherever anyone is trying to post whatever you want to say. Try to keep the discussions within the context of the system of white supremacy/racism.

        I would recommend read over the revised edition of the United Independent Compensatory Code/system/ concept.

        So then the discussions become more like we are educating each other about how white supremacy works and what it is, instead of gossiping or belittling and demeaning each other, as a consequence of our perpetual states of confusion and/ or our miseducation.

        Replace racism with justice!

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ chuquestaquenumber1

      I do not go to youtube to see the worst about BM/BW relationships. I go by what I see and hear.

      I believe viewing these videos is usually more toxic than helpful and that black people are being abusive toward themselves by constantly viewing this madness.

      We don’t know who these YouTubers are, or whether they are being PAID to create gender wars

      But, to each his or her own

  11. @TrojanPam

    I had to post the above video of Mrs Sophia Nelson speaking out about the bullying she has experience and how she’s taking action to show the above poster that black women ARE NOT doing this out of spite.

    • Courtney H. says:

      @ TheOrginalBlackWoman:

      I hope that you don’t think that I posted the above videos in any way to bash Black men or Black women. I in no way want to add to that. I just posted the videos to show perspective from one YouTuber that both Black men and Black women should not blame one another for the gender war, or punish one another. I posted them to have people comment and to further discussion.

      I haven’t watched the video with the attorney yet, but I agree with your comments about how Black women have been bashed by Black men and how that has not abated. I also agree with your comment that our community did nothing to stop all this misygnoir. I greatly appreciate your input.

      • @Courtney

        I disagree with the Youtuber to some extent about the gender war. Nobody pushed or held a gun to Tommy Sotomeyor and these other black woman bashing black males heads to and made them say the things they said about black women and a lot of self-loathing low self-esteem black women supported these channels by watching them and donating, nobody’s making them do so. So no, I disagree that black people have no accountability in this matter black people need to take some accountability in this gender war and that’s not absolving white supremacy’s role in it either, but many of us happily participate in our own oppression and many of us need to be held accountable.

        • Courtney H. says:

          @TheOriginalBlackWoman:

          Thank you for watching the videos and commenting. And I agree with your comments.

  12. chuquestaquenumber1 says:

    @Trojan Pam
    You asked for self reflection. What mistakes I’ve made and how I’ve corrected them.

    I am against swirling (IR sex). I would enjoy when Tariq Nasheed and others insulted her because of her swirling. I realized she is still our sister and shouldn’t be subjected to vitriol and harassment. That’s why I signed the petition she and Sophia A Nelson started to stop cyber bullies.

  13. @TrojanPam & Everybody

    I want everybody to know that what’s happening on Youtube is bigger than the black gender wars. It started when Google & major companies complained about Youtube allowing the ads of major brands to be featured within channels & videos that contained hate speech and not just the channels of black males who posted videos of hate speech towards black women, but towards ANYBODY(S) groups and individuals who were posting hateful videos about other people and groups which includes misogynist, white supremacist, etc of all colors.

    Youtube is now de-monetizing ANYONE who is spewing hatred on their platforms. Youtube is loosing money and we know that white people WILL NOT ALLOW other white people to cause them to loose money. Mrs. Sophia Nelson just happened to come along at the RIGHT time and call for this campaign against cyberbullying. It’s like the universe has aligned all of this to happen at the same time.

    Black Women DID NOT start this de-monetizing hate speech channels to “silence” black males like these males are claiming. This is one of the many, many lies being told on Black Wome. Black Women just decided that this was the right opportunity to fight against this cyberbullying of Black Women. I (we) believe that this is the universe working in favor to stop this very dangerous vitriol against black women and girls that’s putting our lives in danger. Black Men and Women DON”T own Youtube so when Youtube decides to make changes to their rules and policies we have NO POWER to stop it.

    Just needed to make this clear.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister TheOriginalBlackWoman

      Also, I have listened to the video from Sophia A. Nelson. She is very clear that her goal is to eliminate cyberbullying against black women. She is a honorable person to defend the humanity and autonomy of black women. Sophia Nelson also said that she plans to use legal action against those harassing her too (as she should). Not to mention that Sophia A. Nelson has made it clear that she loves black families and the black community. Her actions are done out of love for black people. I’m glad that videos as found in Youtube that show anti-black women hate speech are being shut down. That hate rhetoric is a form of poison that black people in general don’t need to witness. We still have an epidemic of misogynoir in our communities. In your previous comments here, you made the accurate point that we must not only condemn the evils of misogynoir, colorism, and racism. We have to take steps to combat such evils too in our own lives. Accountability is a principle that is important to promote in everyday living. Tons of black women have made great contributions in human history and their accomplishments ought to acknowledged and respected. No black person can be truly free unless black women are free. Black men and Black women have the right to have justice. The hate videos against black women being increasingly gone is Karma coming to the black male haters of black women. We have to be mindful of what we say, do, and think. This is a physical and emotional battle for black liberation.

      Thank you for your explanation on Youtube too (as we don’t own Youtube).

    • Courtney H. says:

      @ TheOriginalBlackWoman, Brother Timothy, and everybody:

      I just finished listened to the video by Sister Sophia A. Nelson. She is very intelligent and articulate,and told 1000% truth. She is simply defending Sisters who are being threatened and hated online. I half-way listened to a video by PBT earlier about John Ridley’s “brownwashing” of the British Black Power movement in that miniseries. PBT — as usual — used it as an excuse bash Black women and claim that Black women really had nothing to do with the Black Power movement in this country. One Black woman called him out on it, and called herself a feminist to show that she was in charge of her life. He didn’t really answer her long address to him, and accused her of being part of the white supremacy structure because she identified herself as a feminist. Then I listened to the video by Sister Sophia, and it was a breath of fresh air. I’m sure she would hold her own against PBT in a debate, but knowing how he reacts, he would not really answer her questions.

      I believe that these Black male YouTubers (like Sister Trojan Pam has reminded us) that they are being paid to attack Black women to divide the community. How can you call yourself pro-Black when you consistently condemn your other half? It’s infuriating! And it’s sad!

      Thank you for posting this video, because it is something that we as the Black community really need — to tell the truth about this “gender war” that is being foisted upon us!

      • @Courtney H.
        If these males are in fact getting paid (which I don’t think that is the case all the time, you may disagree) then it tells you that they probably already hated black women. They will use the excuse that black male rappers used for years that basically they are sooooo weak and the white man was sooooo influential strong and he/they made them bash black women calling us bitches and hoes. It’s like these dudes can’t think for themselves while they won’t acknowledge the role they have played in the destruction of the black woman’s image and likeness. I see for many anti-bw black males, it don’t take much to turn on black women. I’ve been discussing this issue of such widespread disloyalty and hate that too many black men have for black women with other black people, especially with some black women and we believe that there’s more at play here than the influence of racism white supremacy which many black people wouldn’t consider because many black people are in denial about the role we play in our own oppression. I will not discuss it here tho, I’ll leave it at that.

  14. Courtney H. says:

    Here is an interesting article that is slightly related to this post:

    https://kushiteprince.wordpress.com/2017/04/10/black-storytellers-should-they-have-a-black-spouse/

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Thank you for showing the link. I will certainly read Brother Kushite Prince’s article (and watch the videos). Also, it is important to show important about the black women in the Black Power movement in the UK. Olive Morris was a black woman who worked in the Black Power movement and she defended housing rights (in the UK). Claudia Jones in the 1950’s and in the 1960’s fought for the human rights of black people. She was a friend of Paul Robeson and she knew Dr. King. Claudia Jones was ahead of her time and Malcolm X praised her too. Claudia Jones believed in racial justice, economic justice, and gender equality. Beverley Brown and Janet Davis worked in Black Power and Black Panther organizations in the UK. Jacqueline Nassy Brown, Tanisha Ford and Kennetta Perry are Black women scholars who lived in that time period too. Althea Jones Lecointe and Barbara Beese were black women leaders back then. There is no excuse for Ridley’s treachery. So, the truth must be known. If self hating directors like Ridley (who refuses to show black women leaders in his production, which is a disgrace. We can response by not supporting him) won’t do it, then we will do it. I thank the Creator for giving us discernment. We will continue to fight for justice.

      Thank you for showing the link. Have a Blessed Weekend Sister Courtney. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy:

        Thank you for reading the link and responding. This could be interpreted — as some of the comments on Kushite’s blog have stated — as another attack against Black couples. I used to think of John Ridley of being a good producer and director, but my opinion of him has dropped.

        Thank you for dropping knowledge about those Black women leaders in the civil rights movement in the U.K. I didn’t even know about them. That’s why we have to study our history, because it is not taught in the schools.

        I agree with all of your points in your response. May you have a blesses Easter weekend, too, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          @Sister Courtney

          Thank you Sister for your words. The great thing about learning something new is that i can’t help but to share this information to others. That is part of what life is all about.

  15. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    Brothawolf has a great post about toxic masculinity, which is related to this post:

    https://brothawolf.wordpress.com/2017/04/19/10-examples-of-the-problem-known-as-toxic-masculinity-that-already-happened/

    Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I agree with Brothawolf definition of toxic masculinity.

      There is a serious problem where males enact acts of unjust violence and murder. Toxic masculinity is evil since it promotes brutality, sexism, and harm against innocent human beings. It is also evil and an antithesis to true manhood as true manhood is about taking responsibility, self control, and helping your neighbors. More men have to use self reflection and check males who do advance toxic masculinity. More people are talking about this issue, which is good. Also, there should be more action to fight against violence, murder, and other evils. We have a long way to go, but I don’t lose hope for the future. I will continue to have hope.

      Thank you for showing the link Sister Courtney. 🙂

  16. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    II have to admit that I haven’t watched this video, but here is another video by Sister Sophia A. Nelson:

    Enjoy!

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I have listened to the video from Sophia Nelson. Her words were to the point, eloquent, and powerful. She has made it clear that anti-black women haters who spew threats against people will be watched and prosecuted. She has legal experience and she has the resources to rightfully punish those who slander black women. Also, it is important for more righteous men (as she has stated) to stand up against misogyny and other evil done by evil males. That is important since the only way that this evil cancer of misogynoir being ended if more real men check misogynists and haters in public and in private. We are in a crisis in our community. We, as black people, have the power to defend our people and to make a real change. Her words were fair, accurate, real, and authentic. We are human beings and we have every right to use our democratic power to enact progressive change. Part of that change is to sign petitions and to use our voices to eliminate the voices of anti-black women haters who not only lie about women, but have threatened women in the Internet. That is intolerable. Sophia Nelson has praised black men who are doing what is right too. I support the spiritual power and the great insights of Sister Sophia Nelson.

      Thank you for showing the video. 🙂

  17. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    This video is somewhat related to this post:

    Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I have listened to the video. The video has the narrator who has stated the obvious. The picture is a form of overt propaganda and warfare against Black Love. As the narrator has stated, many of the white women are not dates of the black men, but they are in the picture since the people in the picture wanted to promote the myth that every black man lusts after white women. Many white women back then were involved in the Maafa and slavery just like many white men. So, we also should continue to reiterate the point that white women have white privilege and racism among white people is not limited based on gender. The black men can easily refuse to be in the picture. We need to rebuild black relationships. The marriage ceremony shows how we can’t unconditionally support celebrities. We have our own independent minds and we must understand the tactics of those who run the game. Unapologetic Black Love is not shown in the mainstream media or in public en masse for a reason. Black women are beautiful and owed dignity and respect. The powers that be wants the black community controlled and pacified. Yet, we have to find ways to fight back and promote liberation for our people. Thank you for showing the video.

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy:

        You are welcome.

        Thank you for watching the video and commenting. I think this is one of Chris’ best videos; I have been watching it over and over recently. I agree with all of your remarks. This wedding photo is promoting the agenda that Chris is talking about. Black love is very rarely shown, while this kind of wedding is being promoted. Again, thank you for watching the video.

  18. Courtney H. says:

    @ Here’s another good video from Sister Sophia Nelson:

    Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      It is certainly a great video. Sophia Nelson and another woman have shown the truth in an uncompromising, compassionate fashion. We need healing in our community. We need to both reject anti-black woman slanderers and stand up for black human rights at the same time.

      Enjoy your Weekend Sister.

  19. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    Here is a good video:

    Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      Hello Sister Courtney. 🙂

      I have listened to the video and here are my thoughts. To make change, we must accept hardcore truths. One very real truth is that we have an epidemic of anti-black hatred in the world, especially anti-black woman hatred. That is a shame. The Sister in the video was fair (as she acknowledged many Brothers doing what is right), to the point, direct, and honest with her views. She is right to outline the critical point that nothing will change unless repentance exists. She wants black men to support black women, be leaders, and fight for change. I agree with her. Also, it is important for more black grown men mentors to teach these truth to black boys and black young men, so they should realize that the true enemy aren’t black people of the opposite gender. The truth is that the real enemy are white racists and the system of racism/white supremacy. Being righteous and upright is always a prerequisite for justice. Revolutionary change is needed in our world, but it must include moral character, integrity, and genuine repentance (as many males unfortunately use feminism as an excuse to try to escape their own responsibilities as grown adults. Some use feminism as a crutch to blame problems when many problems in our communities have nothing to do with feminism. We believe in equality among all sexes). The Sister in the video was eloquent and articulate in describing her views. Her words should motivate any black man and any black person in general to go into the level of forming more solutions in our world. Black men and Black women have work to do. We are in the same journey for our liberation as black human beings.

      Thank you for showing the video. Bless you Friend. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Bless you, too, friend.

        Thank you for watching the video and watching. I agree with everything that you said. The Sister is telling the truth about the hatred of women worldwide, and how we aRe all responsible for our nehavior. The step of facing a pRobles is to acknowledge that it exists. Once we get beyond that step, then the healing can begin. Again, thank you for your wise words.

        May you have a blessed day, Brother.

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