A BW asks: What should BW do who can’t find a decent BM?”

Posted: February 27, 2015 in Uncategorized

I received an email today from a young BW who said:

“I have notice many conscious black women I have talked too are having trouble finding decent black men. Its bad enough if we dated outside our race, but its black women that are in their late thirties want to have families but can’t find decent black men to start families with.

We have heard we can find good black men at the our jobs, social events and etc. but we are still not finding them anywhere. What should black women do who want to have children & start families, because their second option is to produce a family with a non black men. Especially when these black women are in their mid to late thirties.”

This wasn’t the first time I’ve received a question like this. Unfortunately,  I don’t have an answer or a solution that will immediately solve the problem. I’ve even heard a similar complaint from black males seeking an honorable black female they could marry and start a family with.

The one thing I won’t suggest we do–no matter how tempting it is–is to bash black males. The truth is our relationships have been damaged since we were brought to these shores as chattel slaves. And another truth is this is not a problem restricted to black people. The white divorce rate is OVER 50% and it would be higher if there weren’t children and money and property involved.

In fact, the black male/black female relationships are patterned after the DEFECTIVE WHITE EXAMPLE OF male/female relationships. Look at the battles going on between white males and white females, including the “women’s liberation movement,” and the rate of white spousal murder and domestic violence.

I wrote about the problems with BM/BW relationships in my second book, “Black Love Is A Revolutionary Act.”

But back to the email…

I do have some suggestions that won’t immediately produce a “good black man” or a black prince charming with a diamond ring and a marriage proposal in hand BUT there is something I think MUST BE DONE by black females IF we are to change the direction of black male/black female relationships.

Keep in mind that I am NOT bashing black females–who are the most mistreated females on the planet bar none–but we have to understand that we are PART OF THE PROBLEM. That means we are also PART OF THE SOLUTION to healing our relationships.

The biggest culprit, of course, is the SYSTEM OF RACISM/WHITE SUPREMACY that devastated our families, our self-respect and self-esteem over a period of 500 YEARS.  So, while we are busy throwing non-productive stones at each other, the next time we pick up another rock and take aim, we should remember:


Here’s my list of 10 things BW can and need to do — starting NOW:

1. STOP SUPPORTING TV SHOWS, MOVIES, AND ENTERTAINERS who demean, degrade, stereotype, marginalize black females, and make us INVISIBLE in the lives of black males.


Will Smith movie with WW(check out the title: “Never Lose Focus”  — what are they are telling the BM he should be “focused on”?)

This includes MOST Denzel Washington, Samuel Jackson, and lately, most Will Smith movies — and movies like “Red Tails” where not a single black male was involved with a black female.

Why in the God’s green earth would BW spend our hard-earned money just be be disrespected and demoralized by watching a black male love, rescue and support ANYBODY BUT US?

Now, try to imagine the masses of white female audiences supporting Tom Cruise OR Richard Gere if they only made movies showing them making love to black women.

You can’t imagine it because it WOULD NEVER HAPPEN.

And if we continue to support these “products” — aren’t we teaching black males, our boys, our girls, and the rest of the world that WE DO NOT COUNT – not even to ourselves?

Are black women willing to give up a movie or a CD or a TV show that marginalizes or degrades us?

Only we can answer that question. If the answer is NO – that we aren’t willing to make even a small sacrifice to respect ourselves then we should expect to get more of what we are already getting and in fact, for things to get MUCH WORSE.

2. STOP Bringing white females around your family and friends.  Years ago, a BM told me once that somebody should tell sisters to stop bringing white girls around black males because those girls are not their friends and are only coming around to get with a black male.

I have found this to be true the majority of time and one of my personal experiences happened years ago. There was a black male, Lee, who lived two doors down from me. One time he invited me to go out with him and a group of people from his job.  He was supposed to meet up with this black female he was dating at a black club. When we got there, she was already there, sipping cocktails with her “white girlfriend.”

To make a long story short, Lee wound up hooking up with the white female “friend” of the black female he was “dating.” Shortly after they moved in together, I ran into the white female in a grocery store.

Her body language clearly telegraphed that she wasn’t comfortable with black people–the same vibe I got in the club. While we went through the fake motions of having a “friendly” chat, she said something that confirmed my earlier suspicions. That she was a RACIST.

She said, “Lee is not like other black men.”‘

Holding back a sigh, I asked her what she meant.

And she said, “Well, he’s not ignorant.”

My point is she pretended to befriend a black female to get next to a black male. It didn’t matter one whit that this was the man her black “friend” was dating. Nor did her being an outspoken RACIST stop her from sexing black males.

And I advise black males NOT to take this as a compliment. It is far from that. It is part of the sexual dynamics of racist man and racist woman to sexually sewer, control and exploit their black victims, ensuring that their victims will be too confused and self-hating to EVER present ANY threat to the system of white supremacy — and it’s about time we understood that.


 3. STOP Supporting Demeaning TV shows like “Empire” where two black males are with non-black females and males.
And if you think that’s extreme, find ONE TV show that is popular with white females where the white males are NOT romantically involved with anything BUT white females. My money says you can count the number on ONE FINGER.

 Empire 3educated black male married to WW

empire 11Homosexual relationship with non-black male


4. STOP SUPPORTING rap music, movies, and TV shows that degrade ALL black women AND hold up dark-skinned black females for public ridicule.

big momma house 1 Martin 1 WandaJacksonempire 8Empire 4Empire 10

5. STOP Calling other black females bitches and hos then expecting black males to respect us.

Thanks to mass media, and black “reality” TV shows, I have observed an INCREASE in the disrespect black females show for each other in public and in private. We often don’t speak when spoken to, or we take a dislike to another black female who has DONE NOTHING to us other than exist on the same planet.

I believe this happens for the same reason black people disrespect other black people. Once you are convinced you are nothing then it easy to assume the same about someone who LOOKS LIKE YOU.

I also believe that black females see OTHER black females as unwelcome competition for a shrinking pool of available, heterosexual black males actually interested in dating and marrying black females.

Regardless of the reasons, we need to understand that we are TEACHING OTHER PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US by the way WE treat OR disrespect other black females. We are making our situations worse NOT better.

6. Eliminate anti-black language from your vocabulary that we learned from racist white people.

I hear other black people address other black people with comments like, “black ape, monkey, gorilla, good hair, pretty eyes (meaning light-colored eyes), black and ugly, niggers, niggas, black bitch, ho, and nappy headed. When we address other black people with these foul names we are saying the SAME THINGS ABOUT OURSELVES.

7. Restore the DIGNITY to Black Womanhood by respecting ourselves.

Black women used to be the most conservative women in America because we had to be. But with integration and mass media images and movies and music, many black females have adopted styles and behavior that telegraph our LACK of respect for ourselves.

When we parade around half naked in front of our sons, brothers, nephews, and other young and impressionable black males we are TELLING THEM that we are just PIECES OF BLACK MEAT to be consumed like a meal and I have NEVER ONCE seen anyone eat a piece of food and then show respect to it later.

When we wear hairstyles and hair colors that DO NOT FLATTER our naturally beautiful skin tones or natural hair, we are TELLING everyone who sees us that we wish we were anyone BUT OURSELVES.

8. TEACH our black sons and nephews and grandsons to LOVE and RESPECT black females by setting a good example.

I have watched black females encourage their sons to disrespect young black females. NOT teaching them to RESPECT and PROTECT black girls and women is a GUARANTEE that our sons will one day become one of those “not good black men”  for the next generation of black females coming up. Why would we want to continue the black legacy of failed black families and relationships?

9. STOP Letting black males use us sexually and STOP, STOP, STOP having babies with men who will NOT COMMIT to us. This is NOT a condemnation of the BW who already have children.  Sometimes we have to do the best we can with the hand we are holding.

HOWEVER, to deliberately have a child with a man who is either already MARRIED or is not committed to you shows a gross lack of self-respect for ourselves AND the welfare of our future children.

Also, be aware that RACIST WHITE MALES are the white males MOST LIKELY to sexually proposition black females. Do not be fooled by the false imagery on TV shows like Scandal. Olivia is simply playing the role of an educated, sophisticated WHITE MAN’S WHORE.

10. NEVER allow ANY man to pit us against another black female he is sexually involved with. The odds are HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT EITHER ONE OF YOU — and it makes no sense to blame the “other woman” for what HE is doing to you.

A GOOD BLACK MAN will NEVER PIT YOU against another woman. You will ALWAYS know where you stand with him. Right by his side.


There is no easy answer to solving the problem that possibly millions of black women are dealing with BUT the beginning of solving any problem is ADMITTING our role in it AND to stop supporting our own mistreatment. We not only owe it to ourselves we owe it to all the black girls coming up behind us– our daughters and nieces and granddaughters and even those girls we do not know.


I sincerely hope the answer to that question is NO!

And I hope black males will take to heart everything I have said above.

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  1. Sharon53 says:

    I just wanted to comment and thank you for some of your statement when you said:
    “The truth is that many black women have been leaders in the black community long before the modern feminist movement existed in America.” That is so true.
    However, even in America, if you look at the news footage during the 1960s, you will see black women marching BESIDE black men for the betterment of people. Black women often took the backseat while the black men were more out front but they were beaten, fire-hosed, bitten by police dogs, spit on, called the N word just like the black men. Harriet Tubman is another example, who risked her life to get us to freedom, not to mention all those others who are unknown who resisted the slavemaster also.

    Thank you for speaking out against the misogynism that is so pervasive among many black men. Sadly, this mindset was picked up from the slave-master and it appears to have become epidemic with black men after desegregation in the south in the late 60s and early 70s. I grew up during this era so I know what my experiences and observations have taught me. In fact, I believe this is what has led to some black men becoming serial killers. If there were black male serial killers back then, I never heard of them.

    I was not familiar with this Harvey person until I started listening to his videos in this blog. I am not sure how old he is but if I am not mistaken I believe he made some kind of statement that black feminism in the 1980s created a lot of the problems in the black community. Brothers were making this same statement back in the early 70s and the crazy part is most black women were still very traditional at that time. All we wanted to do was to get married and start families and to be honest with you I never knew any black feminist. I thought that was something for white women anyway. If there were any black women marching and burning bras for feminism I personally never saw that back in the day.
    It was not like it is now wherein so many black women have homes and cars. At that time, we still lived at home with our parents and we depended mostly on public transportation or our families or boyfriends to give us a ride. One of the things that caused things to go tail-spinning out of control is that back then they began to do news programs about the problems that feminism was causing in white relationships and somehow black men would watch this stuff and start getting upset and making comments when this stuff was really for whites and not blacks. This shows how TV can influence people and over-rule their reality.

    A lot of talk was also going on back then about how black women does not experience racism and how the white man will give black women a job and not them. That was not entirely true because there were some jobs for black men and if it was true, why are some black men making black women the enemy? Could it be because they are afraid to divert their frustration elsewhere so they beat up on someone who is just as marginalized as they are? Black women can’t control who hires who because we don’t own large corporations to employ people. One thing to note is that back then most jobs were gender-defined, i.e., there were jobs women did and jobs men did. Today because of technology, jobs are not as gender-defined. For instance, back then, men just did not type so a man would not have been caught dead behind a typewriter unless he was gay. Today with the computer and keyboard, men can now out-type women.

    I also believe that when white women became more vocal about feminism and white men started getting upset about it, whites’ relationships started becoming more chaotic. And just like everything that affects whites, affects blacks twice as much and this chaos spilled over into black men/women relationships.
    It may have something to do with black women working outside the home but we have always had to do that since we were brought to this country as slaves. Maybe some black men’s circuits have gotten criss-crossed and they have forgotten about all that and decided after all that black women should not work outside the home, as if we have a choice. And you know the strange thing is, some black men don’t care about the woman working anyway, they just don’t want her having her own money, especially if she is making more than he is. It comes down to another thing that keeps us in bondage, and that is being in love with that almighty powerful dollar bill.
    My comments are not to blast black men but to voice my opinion about my experiences and observations. Both black men and black women need to take a strong look at how we both personally and collectively contribute to our own victimization.

  2. Sharon53 says:

    Not sure what is going on with my posts but I posted this earlier and it seemed to disappear. Now I am posting it again.
    I just wanted to comment and thank you for some of your statement when you said:
    “The truth is that many black women have been leaders in the black community long before the modern feminist movement existed in America.” That is so true.
    However, even in America, if you look at the news footage during the 1960s, you will see black women marching BESIDE black men for the betterment of people. Black women often took the backseat while the black men were more out front but they were beaten, fire-hosed, bitten by police dogs, spit on, called the N word just like the black men. Harriet Tubman is another example, who risked her life to get us to freedom, not to mention all those others who are unknown who resisted the slavemaster also.
    Thank you for speaking out against the misogynism that is so pervasive among many black men. Sadly, this mindset was picked up from the slave-master and it appears to have become epidemic with black men after desegregation in the south in the late 60s and early 70s. I grew up during this era so I know what my experiences and observations have taught me. In fact, I believe this is what has led to some black men becoming serial killers. If there were black male serial killers back then, I never heard of them.
    I was not familiar with this Harvey person until I started listening to his videos in this blog. I am not sure how old he is but if I am not mistaken I believe he made some kind of statement that black feminism in the 1980s created a lot of the problems in the black community. Brothers were making this same statement back in the early 70s and the crazy part is most black women were still very traditional at that time. All we wanted to do was to get married and start families and to be honest with you I never knew any black feminist. I thought that was something for white women anyway. If there were any black women marching and burning bras for feminism I personally never saw that back in the day.
    It was not like it is now wherein so many black women have homes and cars. At that time, we still lived at home with our parents and we depended mostly on public transportation or our families or boyfriends to give us a ride. One of the things that caused things to go tail-spinning out of control back then is that when they began to do news programs about the problems that feminism was causing in white relationships, black men would watch this stuff on TV and start getting upset and making comments when this stuff was really for whites and not blacks. This shows how TV can influence people and over-rule their reality.
    A lot of talk was also going on back then about how black women does not experience racism and how the white man will give black women a job and not them. That was not entirely true because there were some jobs for black men and even if it was true, why are some black men making black women the enemy? Could it be because they are afraid to divert their frustration elsewhere so they beat up on someone who is just as marginalized as they are? Black women can’t control who hires who because we don’t own large corporations to employ people. One thing to note is that back then most jobs were gender-defined, i.e., there were jobs women did and jobs men did. Today because of technology, jobs are not as gender-defined. For instance, back then, men just did not type so a man would not have been caught dead behind a typewriter unless he was gay. Today with the computer and keyboard, men can now out-type women.
    I also believe that when white women became more vocal about feminism and white men started getting upset about it, whites’ relationships started becoming more chaotic. And just like everything that affects whites, affects blacks twice as much and this chaos spilled over into black men/women relationships.
    It may have something to do with black women working outside the home but we have always had to do that since we were brought to this country as slaves. Maybe some black men’s circuits have gotten criss-crossed and they have forgotten about all that and decided after all that black women should not work outside the home, as if we have a choice. And you know the strange thing is, some black men don’t care about the woman working anyway, they just don’t want her having her own money, especially if she is making more than he is. It comes down to another thing that keeps us in bondage, and that is being in love with that almighty powerful dollar bill.
    My comments are not to blast black men but to voice my opinion about my experiences and observations. Both black men and black women need to take a strong look at how we both personally and collectively contribute to our own victimization.

    • Courtney H. says:

      Good afternoon Sister Sharon53. 🙂

      Thank you for your comments about so-called conscious Black men who hate on Black women. I do not know if you have seen these videos or not, but they are all examples of Black men bashing Black women. The narrator, BigBKelTheGreat, has several videos in which he blames Black women for all of the problems in the Black community. As bad as Harvey is, this dude is 10 times worse.

      Here are three of his videos:

      • Sharon53 says:

        Sorry for the late response but I had problems posting on the site. However, I want to thank you for the videos. I will watch them as soon as I can get a chance and give my comments on them.

        • Sharon53 says:

          Courtney, thank you for sharing the videos of BigBKelTheGreat. No I had never seen these videos, nor have I ever heard of BigBKelTheGreat. First and foremost, he does not realize it but when he puts all the blame on the single black women in the community, he is doing exactly what ‘massa’ wants him to do. Massa is doing everything under the sun to keep black men from being men. He and all the other misogynists are actually putting the black woman in the driver’s seat when they place all the responsibility on her shoulder. Being a man means being responsible. The men are supposed to be the leaders in any community. They are the ones who set the standards in the community. The women basically instill the standards. If the women and children have gone astray, take a look at the men. It does not matter what a woman does or does not do, men are still responsible for their behavior. I would like to know what he is doing to remedy these problems in the black community, other than spewing all this hate toward black women. And what about the baby daddies; what are they doing other than spreading their seed? What are they doing to fix these problems in the black community? Just to show you how confused he is, I noticed at one point in one of the videos, he jumped from beating up on single black women for being ‘the problem in the black community’ to making the same ignorant remark about a sister because she is in a leadership role as state attorney.

          As far as the bed wench back during slavery, who knows why our people did what they did under those circumstances. Yes, there were black women who may have been used to snitch but there were black men who did the same. There also were black women and black men who resisted slavery though quite often it was futile. I would like to know what he would have done under those horrible circumstances. He also did not really show any historical documentation to prove his point. Mostly all I saw was a bunch of clips from movies which may not be accurate anyway. Back then, the way I see it, our people were slaves and whatever they did was not really consensual. They had no choice. It saddens me that we cannot empathize with them and instead either point fingers and blame or like some have even taken to making jokes about slavery. We are in a very frightening state today and the sad part, unlike our ancestors, we do have a choice.

          • Courtney H. says:

            @Sister Sharon53:

            Thank you for your excellent to those videos! You broke them down beautifully!

            Brother Timothy also gave excellent commentary last year after I had posted the **Beware Massa*s Bedwench** video; he reiterated some of the comments that you have made. For example, Timothy mentioned that BigBKeltheGreat was embracing white supremacy by attacking Black women.

            One thing about these so-called conscious brothers is hypocrisy. They attack Black women, but ignore the lack of responsibility for the men in our community, just like you said. This is pure misogyny! How come they are not condemning the males (because they are not men) who are impregnating these women and not taking care of these children? It*s the same kind of double standard that Whites use against Blacks.

            As for slavery, I do not have to add to your comments. You are right to state that these videos do not support his point of view, since they are nothing but propaganda.

            I agree that it is sad that we many of us have not learned from the experiences of our ancestors.

          • Courtney H. says:

            @ Everybody:

            I have not watched this video, but I would like some feedback. Thanks!

            • Timothy says:

              @Sister Courtney

              I will listen and make a commentary on the video soon Sister Courtney.

            • Timothy says:

              @Sister Courtney

              Good Afternoon Sister 🙂

              I have listened to the victim.

              The video is made by a misogynist first. Misogyny is a scourge and it’s evil. To blame single mothers collectively for every problem in our community is the height of absurdity. We know that racism, economic deprivation, deindustrialization, gentrification, the great Recession, and other factors (not single mothers) caused many problems in Baltimore and in other cities of America. Now, we have to make a distinction between what he got right and what he got wrong. He’s right that some people in the black community are criminals, degenerates, and violent gangs who do evil are wrong. No one supports murder, assault, and any injustice. Children should be encouraged to cut grass, do chores, and other positive activities.

              Yet, he fails to see that the vast majority of black people in poorer communities are not murderers, rapists, and criminals of that nature. In fact, many of the super wealthy are filled with murderers, rapists, imperialists, and other evil people that this video omits. He omits that the origin of our oppression is not black people collectively. It is the system of racism/white supremacy. We can promote ethics, a code of conduct, and righteousness in our communities while fighting racist oppression at the same time. Many people refuse to advocate pan-African solidarity and other progressive solutions since some people want to blame the black poor collective instead of promoting a living wage, universal health care, or investments in our communities to help the suffering.

              He talked about “Men Don’t Make Babies” as a means for him to blame women for the bad actions of some people in our community. The truth is that the fathers who left their children and don’t take care of them should not be respected. Mothers who don’t care for their children shouldn’t be respected either. I find him to be really disrespectful to mock the tragedy of a black man dying (who was Freddie Gray) as an excuse to promote his anti-black woman agenda. To blame black single mothers (and not white racism and bad economic conditions) for oppression is a common tactic of misogynists. Single mothers are the victims of oppression and many single mothers are honorable people. Some single mothers exist as a product of divorce or death in a spouse, so to assume that single mothers exist in one monolithic box is the height of misogyny. I have noticed that this male doesn’t show footage of a lot of activists talking about police terrorism, racial profiling, standing up for economic development, and other important issues. For him to call black people “pumpkin heads” so his immaturity and his anti-blackness (while hypocritically claiming to be against the news media who vilifies black people).

              For him to compare some black people to “gremlins” shows his disrespect. Men don’t make babies, but many males haven’t fulfilled their responsibilities to take care of their own babies. He certainly refuses to expose police terrorism in our communities. Police terrorism have unjustly murdered black men, black women, and black children. To solve crime, we have to look at its root. The root is economic deprivation, poverty, austerity, broken families, and other socioeconomic factors. So, we have to have love the black people since no revolutionary lacks love for the poor. To be a revolutionary is to love the poor and the oppressed.

              He wants to condemn the rebellion in Baltimore, but he won’t condemn the white riots in America. Also, the slave revolts (which were about fighting against tyranny courageously) in the Americas were a lot more violent than the Baltimore rebellion. I don’t agree with innocent property being harmed, but riots are the voices of the unheard. We have to figure out the causes of riots in order for solutions to come about. Also, men don’t make babies, but many males refuse to take care of babies. So, the video was a mixture of misogyny and some accurate information. We need solutions and the speaker of this video wants to demonize the black poor (he spewed anti-black stereotypes) instead of using context when describing the black poor. Some black people are doing what is right and some aren’t. He seems to blame black women more for the issues in our communities than black men when both genders suffer at the hands of white racists.

              We are in this together as Brothers and Sisters.

              Thank you for showing the video Sister.

              You’re a Blessing. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      Hello Sister Sharon,

      You have made many great points too. I never mentioned extensive information on feminism in this forum until now. I will mention more history about feminism later on. I do feel it is certainly time to mention its history. It is true that we have to eliminate misogyny from the conscious community. The conscious community will be strengthened even more when misogyny is gone. The conscious community is making a huge comeback in terms of awareness since the late 1980’s and the early 1990’s. The slave owners’ doctrine of the disrespect of the feminine and the masculine energies is part and parcel of the agenda of the system of white supremacy (which abhors true, strong black manhood and true, strong black womanhood). A black man has nothing to be ashamed of in terms of his manhood and black women have every right to show her femininity without apology. I never grew up during the 1960’s. I grew up during the 1980’s and during the 1990’s.

      My parents did grew during the 1960’s and they told me stories about Jim Crow, the Vietnam War era, etc. The great point that you made is that back in the day, there was a high level of camaraderie among black men and black women. Fannie Lou Hamer said that she was walking side by side black men not in front or behind. I have her quote. That point should be stressed completely as you have accurately outlined. You can see black people loving each other. Black men did show great legitimate leadership like Vernon Johns, Malcolm X, James Forman, Dr. King, etc. They spoke the truth, faced dogs, were called the N word, etc. Also, women stood in the front lines too like Septima Clark, Diane Nash, and Ella Baker. Ella Baker was born in VA. Ella Baker is the mother of the modern day civil rights movement. She was the Mother of SNCC. Ella Baker was just as great as Dr. King, but she was not well known as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. As late as the 1970’s, there was strong unity, love, and a cultural love for Africa shown overtly by black people. Today, we deal with massive self hatred and other problems. Feminism has a long and diverse movement. Its modern history began in the 19th century. Some feminists sincerely want equality among all genders and others do indeed hate men collectively.

      Because of the white domination of feminist movement in the mainstream level and because of some white feminists ignoring how evil racism and imperialist are, some black women are womanists instead of calling themselves feminists. Some black feminists include people like Bell Hooks. Many white people people who called themselves “feminists” or suffragettes were racists like Carrie Belle Kearney, Carrie Chapman Catt, Rebecca Ann Latimer, etc. So, many white women want to maintain their privilege at the expense of the rights of others. White men in power had no choice but to give white women more privileges as a means for them to show a veneer of “progress” when the power structure stays intact. Women, irrespective of color, are oppressed by sexism. No woman of any color should be disrespected or oppressed because of their gender. Also, it is true that black women and women of color suffer an additional oppression of racism as well. That is why people of color, who are women, have every right to stand up against sexism, white supremacy, imperialism, and all injustices. The similarities and the differences between men and women ought to be respected. Just because we have differences as men and women doesn’t mean that we’re less human. We’re all human. The job situation that you have described has to do with automation too. As early as the early 1960’s, the American economy started to unravel after the post-WWII boon. Service jobs began to replace industrial jobs. More white folks started to move into the suburbs. Deindustralization grew. Urban renewal harmed communities.

      As early as 1964, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. talked about this issue and he predicted that black people will struggle to get jobs unless the issue of automation was rectified. Today, many men can type really fast. Technology has evolved so fast that jobs deal with computers and less on industry per se. As you have mentioned, jobs are less divided by gender. The social movements of yesteryear and the economy brought massive changes in America. Many corporate bosses play some black men and some black women against each other, so they could blame each other instead of the cruel economic system in the first place. We have to have ethics and follow progressive, cooperative economics as our ancestors did in Africa. Any economic system based on extreme exploitation, centralizing wealth into a few hands, and denying a living wage for those who earned it legitimately is an economic system that I will never respect as a black person. I fully realize that your words were not meant to demonize black men, but you were describing the situation that we live in today. Too many people want to minimize the suffering of black women while acting like black men are totally infallible. The truth is that both black men and black women have suffered indignities, bigotry, and other evils and we should work together in solving our own problems.

      Sister Courtney did an excellent job of showing a link about a great black doctor, which shows the strength of strong black men. Black Men and Black Women deserve respect and justice. Courtney is a great person.

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good evening, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        I really enjoyed reading your response to Sister Sharon53. She is absolutely right. I will not repeat anything that either of you said, because your comments on spot-on (also, it is kind of late).

    • Timothy says:

      Thank you for showing the link. I will read it today.

      Yes, Black Love is a powerful force that racists can’t stand. Black Love is truly Beautiful.

    • Thanks for all the love. ❤

      • Courtney H. says:

        Brother Kushite Prince:

        You are welcome. 🙂

        @ Everybody:

        I listened to this video earlier today. Any comments?

        • Timothy says:

          Good Evening Sister Courtney 🙂

          I have listened to all of Harvey’s words.

          Here are my views.

          The video was interesting and it mentioned many issues. He spoke many truths and he outlined views that I don’t agree with obviously. One theme is about the difference between the expectations of what we want as a people and the reality that we experience presently. Many black people wanted the President to act as a super revolutionary person (which was our expectation), but the reality is that the policies of the White House are more centrist, and more neoliberal than our fundamental desires. He is right that the President could have talked more explicitly about race, because his strongest supporters (then and now) are black people. Over 90 percent of black people voted for the President in 2008 and in 2012. He is right that black people have a huge power. Rev. Jeremiah Wright was thrown of the bus when the Reverend told the truth about Western imperialism and other evils in society. We just need to cultivate our power it in a higher level, so we can be free.

          He’s right to condemn the voter ID laws in many states of America. Even the state of VA passed a Voter ID law. Such laws in various states restrict the type of IDs in which people can use, which limits the days in which people can vote, and studies have shown how it can harm the voting opportunities of the poor, minorities, and the elderly. He made an interesting point about expressways. Many corporate people have intentionally used gentrification and expressways (which was called urban renewal back in the day) as a way to harm communities of black people including the poor. He’s right to mention how some city officials make sure that mostly white, richer communities are heavily funded while mostly poor and black communities are treated with total disrespect by the political establishment. He’s right to expose the corruption in many cities. We need more solidarity as a community. Also, there will not be another Malcolm X or Dr. King.

          Yet, that doesn’t mean that great black leaders won’t exist in the future. Never say never. One of his major arguments is that voting matters and we should vote. My view is that people have the right to vote or not. People should vote their conscious if they choose to vote. Voting locally to help your own community is fine with me. People who decide to not vote (out of sincere moral principles) should not be ridiculed because of their decision either. People, who vote or not, have every right to talk about issues. Voting can help people, but voting is not enough. We need radical change. We need to grow organizations, networks, and institutions (that we control as black people) that will benefit our people more directly. Also, we need to grow our economic and political powerbases. Additionally, there is nothing wrong with being a strong black man. There is nothing wrong with being a strong black woman either (regardless of what any misogynist says). Harvey omits that the females who assaulted the innocent girl are not representative of a majority of black women. It is never embedded in black women to give up (as said by Harvey), so I disagree with Harvey on that issue. In this generation, there are tons of black women from the ghetto, from the suburbs, from the rural communities, etc. who never give up.

          No one reasonable is defending the people who assaulting the girl, so Harvey is acting desperate on that point. People have the right to agree or disagree with feminism, but some folks (like those males who call themselves “conscious”) use “feminism” as a clutch to blame the black poor and blame certain black women unfairly (when the super wealthy have corporate giveaways, committed environmental crimes, committed evil wars, etc.). There is nothing wrong with authentic self-reflection. We need to do it in our lives. Also, many black people do push back. We pushed back during the 1960’s and black people have pushed back against evil today. The police have murdered black people and a wide spectrum of people worldwide. What Burge did was evil in Chicago. Numerous black political groups involved in the Black Lives Matter movement have demanded proposals and have outlined many goals (and I have seen their websites talking about policy positions). There is nothing wrong with boycotting and Harvey is correct to advocate that.

          It is true that black women have been vilified by mainstream society (and its instruments of evil). We all know how reality shows, various TV shows, etc. have demonized black women in greatly, offensive terms. These same shows have demonized black men too. All of those shows that degrade black women are wrong. Harvey seems to ignore that black women never started the system of oppression. Yes, black men never started the oppression, but he ignores how black women are the victims of racism and sexism combined. That fact is something that no one can refute. Many black people do understand the mistakes made by some black men and some black women. In fact, some black women (including Sisters in this forum) have issued critiques about some of the actions of many black women too.

          The deal is that we do have to look in the mirror without blaming black people for everything under the sun. Black females are not embarrassments. Black women are great people. Black self-haters are embarrassments. I don’t agree with him using slurs. There is not right. It would be greater to express empathy with black people suffering instead of calling some of them slurs and disrespectful names. A young girl who was victim of a brutal assault is not the W word. She is a Sister who need confront, solidarity, and respect. In this generation, we have to start helping our people who are suffering and hurting. Our people are hurting and they need words of wisdom, so that they can get up and walk into the next level of social consciousness. That’s real talk. Also, advocating grassroots organizing, developing economic power, etc. is different than no doing anything. Therefore, the big picture is that we should improve our lives and use positive activism, cooperative economics, etc. in fighting for our freedom. We can be free by using our own power. It is as simple as that.

          God Bless you. 🙂

          • Phazex says:

            @Sharon 53:

            Your commentary was wonderful and I agree whole-heartedly!

            Sistas were and are leaders in the black community,”long before feminism reared its head.” How well I recall a certain entertainer that gave a speech during my college graduation that “you women would have to be the leaders in our communities because you do not have the men to do this.” I did not agree then and I do not agree now with this entertainer’s statement. Granted, we were being educated and trained to become leaders, but you hit the nail on the head in a nut-shell. There was a time when sistas could get a job when brothas could not, agree or not. My grandparents bear witness to this. They did what they had to do to make ends meet and survive ensuring that the “next generation” could pick up the torch, so to speak, to bring out the next generation. That next generation was my father and my mother. White males have always perceived and treated the white female as “another one of their possessions.” Back in the 60’s and 70’s when the white female rebelled and became active in the Women’s Liberation and other feminist movements, she had an “advantage” that sistas did not have: she could return home and HER fight was not the fight of sistas. We were too busy marching right alongside our men to obtain not only voting rights, etc. but basic God-given rights as well. Long story short, my father hailed from the southern region of the United Snakes and would not become the submissive black man that was the dictum of that era. With family in tow, he relocated where he did not experience as much adversity. I wonder how many here recall (and hate) hearing our people state to, “play the game to get along?” The apple did not fall far from the tree because, “like father, like daughter!”

            You are correct. Black males should not have listened to the “idiot box” (TV) and deluded into thinking that “sistas” did not want to stand with them. TV can influence one’s thinking when one begins to internalize and then indoctrinate what is being shown. There are many variables as to why the dynamics of many of our bros. and sistas relationships are in peril, the sexual revolution, for example, but the main culprit is WHITE SUPREMACY.

            “When Amerikka catches a cold, Black Folks get the flu.”

            Truer words were never spoken. For example, when it is reported that, say, the unemployment numbers are high, these stats are for white people. ‘So imagine what it is for black people? Many of our black people ARE in love with that “amerikkan government dollar” and will place it above all else.

            Bottom line, there will not be another MLK or Malcolm X. Saving ourselves is the call of the day, We as black people should become more cohesive, look after our own interests (after all, we are an after-thought on others agendas) Our Black people are well aware that the “guvment” views us as monolithic and that we are not “at the top of the list” in meeting our interests and needs. Decades later, we are still viewed primarily as laborers and consumers and yes, “merely store-keepers” for those in management, director roles, etc. More importantly, as indigenous people in this country, OBSERVE our position in this land and realize that your brotha and your sista is NOT your enemy. Many things and acts that we see from them are only “symptomatic” of WHITE SUPREMACY. We have a lot of ground to cover and I see that many here are doing just that.

            Whether light, bright or da… white, or blue-black? We are ALL hated equally under the same microscope. The problem involves MORE than white hateful, pedantic behaviors. Collectively, we can attain MUCH. We must devise our OWN agenda. Out.


          • Courtney H. says:

            You are welcome, and God bless you, too, Brother Timothy. 🙂

            Thank you for your detailed response to this video. The video is complex. We must fight against laws that are unjust and that are trying to keep us down.

            The reason why I believe that voting is so important is because many died so that we can have the right to vote. That should never be forgotten. If people do not vote, that is their choice. However, to not vote and then complain when you see things that you do not like is kind of hypocritical to me. That is just my opinion. If you do not vote, do not complain. Instead, act and get involved in your community.

            Too many so-called conscious brothers are misogynistic, and blame Black women for all of the problems in the Black community, which is stupid as h*ll. Black men and Black women must stand together. We did in the 1960s. Womanism just means that women should be treated equally. Real men understand that. 😀

            As Sister Trojan Pam has said many times before, we need stop pointing fingers at each other, and look at who is really to blame — white supremacy.

    • Sharon53 says:

      Thanks for this video. This brother is so brilliant, words cannot describe him. He is so onpoint and just like all brilliant brothers, I believe the white supremacists silenced him. He was only 54 years old when he died under “mysterious circumstances.” Anyway, I will definitely keep this video in my Favorites so that I can listen to it again and again as I need constant reminders like this.

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Sister Sharon54:

        You are very welcome. I am glad that you enjoyed the video and the brother*s words, and that they are inspiring you to learn and to live.

    • Timothy says:

      Thank you for showing the story Sister Courtney. 🙂

      First, we all send prayers and condolences to Erica Morales’ husband and the rest of her family. She lived a strong life and she gave birth to beautiful children. Erica loved her children and her husband a greal deal.

      Carlos Morales is a strong man. He is taking care of his children, he is acting courageous, and he is brave to tell his story publicly. His story is a human story and it shows love. Love for children is one of the greatest expressions of love in Universe. The love from children is a blessing and I wish more blessings for Carlos Morales and his quadruplets. That story certainly can give more people compassion in their spirits and it reminds people on the precious value of human life.

      RIP Erica Morales.

      • Courtney H. says:

        You are welcome, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        We do send our prayers and condolences to the Morales family. (RIP Erica Morales.) This is a tragedy that happens a lot.

        The reason why I linked this story is because it is a story of familial love — of a husband for his now-transistioned wife, of a father for his four babies, and a mother-in-law for her son-in-law, her transistioned daughter, and her four grandchildren. This family has a lot of support for one another (as well as the financial support from GoFundMe, which shows that a lot of strangers care, the compassion that you spoke of).

        I agree — the love of parents and children is a blessing. These people will continue to receive blessings and they are already blessed by the love they already have for one another.

    • Sharon53 says:

      Sorry, I posted this in the wrong spot about Dr. Amos Wilson. Thanks for this video. This brother is so brilliant, words cannot describe him. He is so onpoint and just like all brilliant brothers, I believe the white supremacists silenced him. He was only 54 years old when he died under “mysterious circumstances.” Anyway, I will definitely keep this video in my Favorites so that I can listen to it again and again as I need constant reminders like this.

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney. 🙂

      The article is very interesting. It shows the diversity of the black African Diaspora. This Diaspora is found all over the world in China, Australia, the Pacific, etc. The more we learn about the black African Diaspora, the more we learn about ourselves. That is why it is always important for us to keep our eyes on the prize, which is liberation for black people. I haven’t heard of Yvonee Kanazawa and Ding Hui. Many Afro-Asians do suffer discrimination and bigotry and we are totally opposed to racism. I wish the best for these human beings. Also, we should always love our Blackness. We face white supremacists who want us gone literally and we have the God-given right to advance our Blackness and to fight for freedom and justice as black people.

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good Afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for reading the article. It is very interesting. I enjoy learning about the Black Diaspora. You are right — the more we learn about the Black Diaspora, the more we learn about ourselves. People throughout the Diaspora are fighting for their freedoms and rights. It is good to know that we in the U.S. are not the only ones.

          • Timothy says:

            That’s an interesting article. The statement from Marie Nakagawa (about beauty) represents the truth that beauty is diverse. Humanity comes with many differences. We should not view these natural differences as justifications for mistreatment of others. We view differences as assets and valuable traits which represent the diversity and the unity in the human family. She is following her dream of participating in modeling. We have made our views on biracial human beings clear. They are human beings and they deserve to be treated with dignity and with respect. It is a shame that Marie has suffering bullying in Japan. Racism and prejudice is a global phenomenon that must be extinguished. It is certainly right to defend the concept of altruism as we are all in this together. Black people the world over are asserting themselves and seek freedom.

  3. Sharon53 says:

    Timothy, thanks for your insightful comments.
    I agree with your comment that the conscious community is making a huge comeback in terms of awareness. For a while, it seemed like everyone was in a coma. I am glad to see younger blacks speaking up and against the injustices going on around us. I am really disappointed in a lot of the older blacks who came along when racism was more overt. It’s as if they have decided to bury our history and not pass it along to the younger crowd. Racism is extremely insidious and it takes on different forms. It was once more overt, then it became covert and now it is back to being both overt and covert. The white supremacists probably are looking at the fact that we don’t have the cohesiveness we once had and are deciding to show their true colors again.

    Thanks for all the information you shared about the feminist movement. I am a history fan and not sure why I am not familiar with Ella Baker. It seems like historians have been deliberate in omitting black women as being crucial in the civil rights movement.

    You are correct when you say today we are dealing with massive self-hatred and other problems. I have to remind myself of that constantly when we start that blame-gaming and finger-pointing when it comes to our problems. All the love and camaraderie we once shared has faded away and yes, the white supremacists are behind it all. In retrospect, it seems to me that things began to really get out of sorts when integration of the schools in the south took full swing in the late 60s and early 70s. I entered a white school for the first time when I was 15 years old and it only took 2 years to see a change in the way that the black students treated each other. It was so subtle that no one noticed it. In my class, it was 3 black females and 8 black males and prior to entering the white school, we were so close that we appeared like family. We all came from two-parent households also but when I went to our 40th year class reunion, only 1 of the black male students was still married and only 1 of the black female students was still married. During the 60s era, this was almost unheard of in the black community where I came from. Divorce was almost not an option. Once they shut our school down, the next to go was the few black businesses we had. This was a rural south area and many black people had farms. We had a black barber shop, black beauty shop, a black service station, and a juke joint (LOL). All of that is gone.

    Another thing I believe has been used to change us that is subtle and seemingly non-threatening is our music. The music I grew up with made you want to fall in love. Some of the music of today makes you want to fight. I don’t care what people say but I believe music, just like images on TV, can change an entire nation of people. That is because people are not on the defense when they hear music; they are in an entertainment mode and is being programmed without realizing it.

    Something else I don’t think people notice that much is how the teachings in today’s churches are shaping us. The church was once the cornerstone of the black community. Now the pulpits are filled with pimp preachers trying to line their pockets with your hard-earned money. From what I see, most of the congregations are filled with black women who are not being taught sound biblical doctrine. They are being brain-washed instead and this is creating a communication problem between black men and black women. I have worked with some of these women and it is hard to relate to some of them. They seem to be in a fantasy world. If you try to talk to them about social issues, they are quick to tell you to start thinking more positively and some will disassociate themselves from you.

    Anyway, it is so refreshing to be able to dialog with you and all the others on this forum because it seems the socially-conscious like us are a dying breed.

    • Timothy says:

      You’re Welcome Sister Sharon53,

      You have outlined a lot of wisdom yourself.

      There are more black people who have awareness about what is going on like the cruel, malicious agenda of white supremacists. One problem is that too many people are deluded into believing in the myth that we are either free or we don’t have a long way to go. The events of Ferguson, the death of Eric Garner, and the massive police killings of Brothers and Sisters alone should tell us that we are in an emergency for our survival literally. There should be no naiveté and delusion at all. Some elders are doing what is right and others are under the delusion that the youth are to be blamed completely for the situation that we are in. In fact, the youth is the reflection of the actions of previous generations. That is why many of the youth (and enlightened elders) are standing up against evil. In history, the youth have been the vanguard of revolutionary change. We need power and power is not about token economic gain. Real power is about us owning resources ourselves and independently as a way for us to help our people independently (and without control by the system of white supremacy). That’s power.

      Racism is overt now, but racism is also being showed covertly including in more deceptive ways as a way for the elites to say that we are experiencing massive “progress.” I see that you’re a history fan and that’s great. Ella Baker was a strong hero who talked about grassroots organizing in the community. Grassroots, participatory organizing is part of her philosophy (which SNCC embraced). Many people have omitted the great contributions of black women in the freedom, civil rights struggle. Septima Clark and other Sisters were great heroes that people have the right to know about. We need consciousness and revolutionary thinking in order to cause black people to be truly free and liberated.

      Like you, I do wish we as a community could mimic the same level of Black Love and Pan-African spirit that existed during the 1960’s and the 1970’s. That was a beautiful thing. Black Love and Black Unity are great concepts that we loved as human beings.

      I never been into a massively integrated school until 1994 (filled with white kids, Filipinos, Hispanics, etc. There are a lot of Filipinos in my area). In elementary school (back during the late 1980’s and during the early 1990’s), the vast majority of the students were black. We also sang the Lift Every Voice and Sing anthem in the classroom, so people in our school were fortunate to have access to black culture and black history. After the 1960’s, changes exiisted in America. There were legal rights in the law, but that was not enough. There must be economic freedom too not just political freedom. One of the weaknesses of 1960’s (For the record, I don’t support Jim Crow apartheid as Jim Crow apartheid is just as evil as any other form of oppression) was that it didn’t take into consideration black infrastructure. A lot of black owned shops, stores, and other businesses were either shut down or displaced after the 1960’s. Also, there was the growth of gentrification, economic inequality, bad trade deals, the War on Drugs, etc. (all caused by the system of white supremacy) which contributed to the oppression of our communities as well. From 1968 onward, the political elites allowed a select, small class of black upper class and rich people (to flourish) at the expense of the suffering of the black working class and the black poor. That is why we ought to oppose not only racial oppression, but we should oppose class oppression as well.

      Music carries heavy powerful influence in society. It can be used for good or for evil as we know. Today, there are greatly conscious artists like Sister Ntjam Rosie (I love her music), India Arie, and other people. Yet, some of the corporate-controlled mainstream artists do promote the usage of the N words, violence, misogyny, death, and other negative things.

      Back in the day, artists like the Dramatics, the Temptations, the Emotions, Donny Hathaway, Gladys Knight, Roberta Flack, and we can go down the list (LOL) have shown range, emotion, love, grace, gentleness, strength, consciousness, and other positive aspects of our lives. We can listen to their records and won’t be bored, yet some music today harbor a more tension filled, vulgar spirit.

      You’re right on the megachurches too. Even during the days of Dr. King, many preachers talked about social issues, spiritual inspiration, and economic justice. Today, the prosperity gospel dominates many pulpits where some preachers lust for money. Creflo Dollar once seeking money for getting a new jet is just one example of how evil the Prosperity gospel is (which is a notoriously false doctrine). We certainly need revolutionary action where we know about the greatness of Blackness, the evilness of white racism, and we ought to advance the dignity of our Brothers and our Sisters. We are fighting for real social change without scapegoating all black people and we show compassion to our black people. There must be a radical redistribution of economic and political power.

      • Sharon53 says:

        Hi Timothy,
        Thanks again for your wise statements regarding the matters of black Amerikka.
        Yes, I have heard many older blacks make the statement that they don’t know what is wrong with today’s youth. We need to take a look in the mirror and we will see what went wrong. You are on point when you say “the youth is the reflection of the actions of previous generations.” Any thinking person would realize that but then so many of us are just not thinking like we should.

        As we both agree, racism is both covert and overt but it seems so many of us have our heads buried in the sand in such a manner that we can’t even see the overt racism, so you know we can’t see covert racism coming at us. That is a dangerous place to be. Some of us think that progress is having a six-figure job or attending an Ivy League School. Material and educational gains is not real progress. As you stated ‘there must be a radical redistribution of economic and political power.’ We need to own corporations so we can employ each other, have our own schools so that we can teach our history and culture along with the 3 Rs, etc. We need unity, first and foremost, in order to bring about all this. Many people shun the thought of unity and will accuse you of having a 60s mindset if you start talking about unity. But if you look at groups that have solidarity in this country, their communities are prosperous. The Jewish community is one such community to look at.

        Yes, I am a history fan. Some people are against remembering history but it is even scriptural to look back. Remembering history keeps you from making the same dumb mistakes and you have an appreciation for the ways you have been blessed.

        Integration did not affect my way of thinking as much as it has some people. I was 15 years old when integration of the schools took full swing in the area where I lived. So by that time, I had already been grounded in what was left of our culture. It does affect me in some ways, like it does all of us, but I don’t feel I have that white-identified, slave-mind like so many of us have.

        As far as the megachurches are concerned, sadly I don’t see that going away. They are so popular around Atlanta that it seems there is one on every corner. If you drive around the city, near black areas, you will see a lot of billboards put up by these churches. Most of them appear to have mostly black women in their congregations also. Not only are the ministers raking in the dollars, they are not teaching sound, biblical doctrine. It reminds me of a cult and the teachings are definitely brainwashing. I am somewhat familiar with this because I attended a church like that over 30 years ago and what I found mostly being taught was what I call ‘white folks psychology.’ Nowadays, when I listen to people, I can hear this same stuff in their conversations. The only answer I have for it is that the members start studying the scriptures for themselves and stop taking the pastors’ words as if he has a ‘hotline’ to heaven.

        • Timothy says:

          You’re Welcome Sister Sharon,

          In essence, we have to look at the past and history. History is a gateway or the aspects of how life was and we can use it, so we can develop strategies to establish a better future. Many elders have shunned the youth and that arrogance (in some refusing to give the youth true wisdom) has contributed to many of the issues that we have witnessed today. The people perish for the lack of knowledge and many have not taken the time to teach the youth about their heroes. I learned a lot from the elders. Also, I never knew many of the unsung heroes of our people until I went into college. To be fair, many elders are doing what is right, they are mentoring, and they are being involved in the lives of so many in our communities. Self-reflection is always important. We have to analyze ourselves and the world around us if we want solutions. One contributing factor in seeing what we witness today is the growth of a more materialist, self-centered culture that has gravitated some people into embracing selfish-individualism. Many individuals have to realize that freedom is not easy. We have to fight in order for all of us to be free and exist in societal tranquility. Caring for one another or altruism is a basic, natural principles that we all love and cherish.

          The overt and covert mechanism of racism are abhorrent and evil. Many skeptics deny covert racism, which includes micro aggressions and even overt racism (like the comments from the Univision host). Many of our black people have to wake up and see that the struggle is not over. Just because we live in 2015 doesn’t mean that the fight for racial justice is completed. We have a long way to go. Certainly, real progress is about the establishment and growth of our own infrastructure (beyond having certain privileges that our forefathers and our foremothers fought and died for), which is used to help our own people positively. We want positive change whereby a black child doesn’t have to worry about being told white supremacist lies about his or her own identity. We want the dream of economic justice to be a reality where our people don’t have to get paid part time wages for full time work. Black unity is so important. Forever, I will believe in Black Unity as we were born as a product of that unity. Being united is better than be divided. Jewish, Hispanic, Indian, Irish, German, Polish, Arabic, and other communities of different ethnicities have promoted this communal solidarity for years (you will notice that no one in public calls these people racists for using the common sense action of building up their own infrastructure and growing the confines of their own communities for their own selfless interests). We have the right to do the same.

          We need to own our own resources, so our people can not only have jobs with a living wage. They can develop farms, schools, and other parts of civilization in a higher level, so our descendants can inherit what black people have established. That’s power.

          Yes, all black people should reject the white-identified, slavery mentality without question. Megachurches have grown even in the past 10 years. They have huge influence in politics, economics, etc. They do believe in the false doctrine that wealth alone determines spiritual vitality and that being poor is a curse from God (which is ludicrous). Spiritual individuals can have a connection with the Creator without the pomp and circumstance. Black people have lived under segregation and integration. The common denominator is that the same system of oppression is still around. That is why we are fighting against the agenda of the one percent, so our Brothers and our Sisters can live in a world where discrimination is gone and justice can flourish. This is why we fight. We not only want freedom, but we want justice too.

  4. Sharon53 says:

    Phazex, thanks for your comments:
    I agree that the white man treats the white female as another one of his possessions. One thing I don’t forget though is even though she rebelled against this sickness with the feminist movement, she is still on the white man’s side when it comes to racism/white supremacy. For example, from what I have seen over the years, she wants the black woman to support the feminist movement but do not give black women any support when black women get mixed up in controversial matters involving sexism such as Anita Hill, Desiree Washington, Robin Givens, to name a few. No one really knows what all went on in those matters but white women are often front runners opposing the black women. I know this because I have heard them talking among themselves about it. But when a white woman gets mixed up in similar matters, they sing a different tune, and something gets done about it.

    I agree with you when you say the white woman’s fight is not the sistas’ fight. I personally don’t know any hard core black feminists but one thing I think caused a huge problem is when black women bought into that “strong black woman” stereotype handed down to us by feminist Gloria Steinem. I absolutely hate stereotypes, even those we like, and this is one that is extremely socially-destructive. I had never heard black women being described as strong until around the mid-1970s. I never heard my mother, nor any of her friends use the term and from what I know of from reading our history, none of our leaders like Harriett Tubman used that term. It was always confusing as to what a ‘strong black woman’ actually is. Yes, we are resilient and endure a lot but I believe that the strong black woman tag is used to marginalize us and create problems with the black man. It is if some of us are saying we have more back-bone than our men which is a slap in the face to our men. The thing that is ironic about this is back in the 70s, I actually heard many black men make statements that they wanted them a strong black woman. However, today many black men deny having said that. Yes, black women may have perpetuated it but black men supported it at that time. Something odd about this also is that I rarely hear the younger black men of today make statements that they want a strong black women. I hear them say to each other to be strong but not to a black woman.

    I agree with your statement that “we as black people should become more cohesive, look after our own interests (after all, we are an after-thought on others agendas).” Sadly, many of us think we live in a post-racial America and don’t see a need for unity.
    Like you said “whether light, bright or da… white, or blue-black, we are ALL hated equally under the same microscope.” Someone else also said, “We may have come here on different ships, but we are all in the same boat.”
    Thanks for all your wisdom on these matters. It is so refreshing to blog with others of like-mind.

  5. Phazex says:

    @ Sharon53:

    Strong Black woman? I wish I had a dollar for every time I have heard this term….as well as “real” Black man.” Especially referencing black men in terms of relationships. Hell, I could retire young (as I plan to anyway!)

    “Strong” black women and “real” black men are merely “evolved” individuals from my standpoint .And, I must admit that I sort of cringe each time that I hear these statements

    The white female, as other non-white females have need stood in solidarity with black women unless it was conclusive of THEIR agenda. Just think…every other ethnic has benefitted from our fight(s) for justice and freedom such as Affirmative Action, which I believe was dismantled in 1996?
    The victors? White females and Asians.

    In addition, I DO agree with Courtney’s stance on “pimpin Preachers.” I do not sit in judgment on an individual’s realm of spirituality, but my opinion only, if our black masses put as much faith and WORK in themselves as some do these pimping, pacifist preachers, place our faith in Spirit instead, many may wake up from that semi-conscious nap. If anything, Preachers and other so-called leaders should illustrate to our people how to “elevate” their thinking.



    BECAUSE we have forgotten our ancestors,
    Our children no longer give us honor.

    BECAUSE we have lost the path our ancestors cleared kneeling in perilous undergrowth, our children cannot find their way.

    BECAUSE we have banished the God of our ancestors, our children cannot pray.

    BECAUSE the old wails of our ancestors have faded beyond our hearing, our children cannot
    Hear us crying.

    BECAUSE we have abandoned our wisdom of mothering and fathering, our befuddled children
    Give birth to children they neither want nor understand.

    BECAUSE we have forgotten how to love, the adversary is within our gates, and holds us up to
    The mirror of the world shouting,
    “Regard the loveless.”

    Therefore we pledge to bind ourselves to one another to embrace our lowliest, to keep company with our loneliest, to educate our illiterate, to feed our starving, to clothe our ragged, to do all good things, knowing that we are MORE than keepers of our brothers and sisters.

    We ARE our brothers and sisters.

    –Maya Angelou

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney. 🙂

      I have looked at the link and some of the comments. I haven’t heard of the show until now. The storyline seems similar to the show Scandal, but in reverse. In Scandal, a white male President (who is married) kissed a black woman. Now, this show called “Murder in the First” has a white male kissing a married black woman. Some people love controversy in TV shows and this show is no exception. It is not a secret that many of these modern day shows outline black women as filled with dysfunction & lust for adultery when black women are creative, diverse, and do experience unique experiences just like any other human being. The comments, as found in the website, are accurate in saying that a black woman should be portrayed as normal human beings. In this Western society, many black actresses are used as fetishes and they are exploited in an anti-black fashion. The intellectual curiosity and the great power of black women have not been fairly displayed by Hollywood or by the entertainment industry in general. Black women suffer the two evils of racism and sexism. Certainly, black women have every right to express their own stories (with their own power) and to display self-determination. The system of white supremacy is all about the promoting the lie of white superiority and promoting the lie of black inferiority. The Creator gave us a brain to critically analyze information and to devise strategies as a means for us to solve our problems.

      If our ancestors created advanced civilizations for thousands of years, then we can certainly develop our power, so we can solve our problems as Brothers and Sisters. Hope is a great thing including action. We have to have hope, faith, and do constructive action. That is what life is all about.

  6. Courtney H. says:

    Oops! An earlier article about the same screen couple on this show was published. Here it is:


    • Timothy says:

      Hello Sister Courtney,

      I have read the article.

      I have not heard of the show until now. Therefore, I don’t know too much of the story line. One storyline (out of many) involves an interracial relationship between 2 human beings who are people of color (one man who is multiracial with Asian heritage and one black woman). It is a show about the police investigating cases. The show made Ari’s character a married woman. My view is that IRs are realities in our world, but I do feel that there is a lesser amount of stories showing Black Love than 10-20 years ago. When I was growing up, shows showing Black Love were very common. Nowadays, some people think it taboo to even publicly speak in favor or Black Love. This show outlines issues relating to how homicide investigations work and it shows how people in that world are humans just like anyone else.

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for reading the articles. The commenters, especially on the second article, are telling the truth about how Black women are being placed in dysfunctional relationships in movies and on TV. I have no problem with seeing IRs in movies and on TV, because they are a part of life, but so are Black/Black relationships. And I agree with you, because you do not see those relationships as much as you used to about 10-20 years ago.

        I understand Spike Lee said in an interview years ago that seeing Black/Black love relationships made White people uncomfortable because they are threatened by Black male sexuality (I think that is why he made the movie **She Hate Me**). There was an article in Ebony years ago in which the late Gregory Hines said that sex scenes between Black couples made White people uncomfortable, so that is why you do not seek them a lot in movies.

        I like shows that depict people as having faults and foibles, because that is reality. I have watched episodes of **Murder in the First**, and it is well-acted, and I am glad that it has been renewed for another season. I wonder how the adulterous IR will be played out. I agree, however, that Black women should not be depicted in dysfunctional relationships only.

  7. LBM says:

    I’m becoming more and more uncomfortable with the description of “threatened” and “fearful” when it comes to how whites feel about black males. Black males, for the most part, have done nothing to establish these emotions in whites. Whites, males and females, are pretty much “handling” black males as they deem useful. I’m not at all sure it’s wise for us to take up the labels they employ as “justifications” for their twisted abuse. How does this so-called “fear” and “threat” live alongside the promotion of increased IR relations?

    The real fear is of Black males and females getting together productively. Let any sizable number of black males, especially highly melanated ones – start espousing that they want progeny IN THEIR OWN IMAGE….THEN we’ll see the definition of FEAR. But presently, it’s something,but I don’t think “fear” is the word.

    I stand open for a better understanding of “threat” and “fear” though.

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ LBM

      I agree, I refuse to subscribe to the false notion that whites are afraid of us. That is just a flip the script propaganda to excuse their horrific behavior toward us. Unarmed black people have been pumped full of bullets because a TRAINED AND FULLY ARMED white policeman who was “afraid” of the big, bad monster 10 year old boy holding a bb gun.

      Yet, they aren’t too afraid to sex us into the next century.

      I agree, the real fear is black people seeing through the lies and getting our MINDS right. Of black people putting our fear on the back burner and demanding justice. Of black people refusing to be sexually involved with whites as long as a white supremacy system still exists.

      what they’re afraid of is JUSTICE — instead of JUST US.

    • Sharon53 says:

      LBM, I hear what you are saying when you say “The real fear is of Black males and females getting together productively.” Whites become very insecure when they see us getting along. I have noticed this quite a bit with white women. That is the reason why I think the white supremacists are working over-time to push the interracial thing on us. It is one of the main things they are using to keep us divided and conquered. It appears to me they started this mainly with black men back during the civil rights/black power era because I believe it was easier to target our men because of the forbidden fruit syndrome (people crave what they can’t have). The white supremacist does not mind sacrificing a few white women to achieve their devious goals and most of these white women are those the white males don’t want anyway. To add to the mix, with all these immigrants in this country now, black men can pick from Asian and Latin women also. They are nothing but honorary whites anyway and this works to the white supremacists’ advantage also. Anything will do to keep black men and black women apart. Well, guess what, they know some black women will eventually get tired of being alone and will accept relationships with whoever gives them some attention. After all we are human too with needs and desires just like anyone else and they are beginning to push the interracial thing on us more now. Any time someone comes up with something so devious as this, it has to be based on fear and not love. The sad part is they try to make this seem like a good thing for us and so many black people are taking the bait.

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Sister Sharon53:

        Here is a video describing what you just discussed in this post!

        • Sharon53 says:

          Thanks for the video. I never made the connection between the Obama presidency and the promotion of black female/white male relationships in the form of films, TV series, documentaries, and news magazine articles. However, I have to agree with the narrator of the video in most of his comments on this subject. At the outset of the Obama presidency campaign, it was refreshing to see a black couple in public holding hands and appearing to be really in love with each other. To show you how influential this was, I began to notice more and more black couples in the area where I live began to walk and hold hands and display affection for each other in public. I never noticed this before that much with black couples probably because at one point in our history, we were not allowed to show affection in public with each other because it supposedly offended whites.
          I suppose the white supremacists decided to nip this in the bud by promoting all this interracial propaganda by showing black women will not be able to find suitable black male companionship because so many of our black men are in jail, dead, on the down low, and the list goes on. It is good to know some of us have our thinking caps on. I just wish that it was more of us.

          • Courtney H. says:

            @ Sister Sharon53:

            Thank you and you are welcome.

            I thought that this video is very interesting, which is why I posted it. I agree with all of your comments. Thank you for taking the time to watch the video. Prince Solomon makes some pretty good videos.

  8. LBM says:

    “…. it was easier to target our men because of the forbidden fruit syndrome (people crave what they can’t have)”

    I hear you Sharon53 but make note that black males were historically accustomed to having the women of whatever land they entered. Remember that when we were (in masse) brought here the white males were european, not yet “American”. So they had a collective memory of their females desiring “Othello”. Wasn’t nothin’ “forbidden” about it. At some point we’ll have to take a fresher look at some of the revisionist history that we’ve been fed – some even by our own scholars. Much of the Crusades wasn’t so much about religion as it was about the nappification of those european lands where black males were “civilizing”. Much to be said but I think you get my drift. When white males were stressing about black males wanting their females, it went a little further back than the Civil Rights movement or the “new world” plantations. It could even be speculated that it’s related to why the savage white males were/have been so sexually foul with black females.

    So we (especially our males) will have to painfully look back and see that sexing with those creatures has come back, and back again to kick us in the face in too many ways.

    • Sharon53 says:

      Thanks for your historical feedback.
      I would like to comment on your comments when you said “…make note that black males were historically accustomed to having the women of whatever land they entered. Remember that when we were (in masse) brought here the white males were European, not yet “American”. So they had a collective memory of their females desiring “Othello”. Wasn’t nothin’ “forbidden” about it.”
      First, whether they were European or American, they were and still is, of the same mindset. Second, black males may have been historically accustomed to having women of whatever land they entered and the white man may have had a collective memory of their females desiring ‘Othello.’ But personally I think something more is going on here other than racial memories. How do you explain this hate that some black men have developed for black women causing them to desire all these other women? I don’t know of any other man under the sun who rejects the women who look like the woman who gave birth to him. I know most black men are not twisted like this but it appears to be more of this today than it once was and I am deeply concerned about it.

      • LBM says:

        “How do you explain this hate that some black men have developed for black women causing them to desire all these other women?”

        No Sharon53, don’t put that on black women! WE are not causing black men to do any such thing. Black men have lost their standing on the world scene. They are being dominated by the whites and thus are trying their damnedness to be like them rather than conquer them. As we are closest to black males, the mirror of their defeat causes them to behave unwisely. It’s not black women, it’s the evidence of their defeat. What does a male do when a male creature takes his woman right out of his bed?If he doesn’t deal with that creature, how is going to deal with his black woman?

        • Sharon53 says:

          It appears there has been a misunderstanding of something I posted. I never said nor implied that black women are the reason some black men have developed a hatred for black women and are now choosing non-black women over us.
          I was merely posing a question to you to get your feedback on the matter because you stated in an earlier post that “black males were historically accustomed to having the women of whatever land they entered…” That may be true but what does that have to do with this growing hatred for black women that some black men harbor today? It seems from my perspective that at least through the 1960s, there was an affinity between black men and black women even though white men had access to black women back then. So why did we not hear this misogynistic, name-calling of black women back then? The white supremacists are 100% behind this and they are using all kinds of tactics such as the media, education, etc. to do it. It is institutionalized, built into the system.
          Trust me, the last thing I would do is blame black women and black men for the many problems we have today even though I feel it is still our responsibility to do what we can to resist this oppression.

  9. Trojan Pam says:

    Here’s a video worth listening to about the Middle East.

    (keep in mind that Israel and Obama are NOT at odds. It is a SCHEME to make sure that Obama (aka black people) will stand alone and take the blame for what they are TELLING him to do. In fact, during Obama’s first term there was an article in a major newspaper where an Israeli politician said, “We’re not worried about Obama, we tell him what to do” and now, I can’t find that article (?)

    I wonder why?

    They are creating distance between Israel and the White House even while the White House follows their marching orders, in order to lay the BLAME on that black person in the White House (which is the ONLY purpose Obama serves). Do not be fooled.

  10. Adeen says:

    When you address Black women, do you mean Black American women? From reading the posts, I believe that Black American women are being addressed here. I don’t mind at all. I happen to be American born of Jamaican parents aka Jamaican American woman but nonetheless a Black woman.

    I truly believe that isn’t in Black women’s best interests in mind to wait around for a Black man. And it isn’t any use for a Black woman to waste her time and beauty on waiting around for Black men. By far and large, Black men aren’t waiting around for Black women. Black men date and marry whoever they want whether the woman is a Black woman or not. Why can’t Black women do the same?

    It is time for Black American women to broaden their dating options to include men of ALL races in their dating pool. And start vetting men based on their character and what they bring to the table and stop looking at race. Women back home in Jamaica and other Caribbean countries have no problems with dating and marrying interracially and have been doing so for centuries. However Black American women have been socialized to have this false obligation/ racial loyalty to a non existent community that tells them to date Black men exclusively much to their own deteriment. Black American men aren’t waiting on them and are dating and marrying interracially in larger numbers. I don’t believe Black American women should date and marry who they want to spite Black American men but to find true love with a man who is compatible with them regardless of his race. And many Black American women will have to date and marry outside out of their race to find a compatible mate to settle down with and spend the rest of their live with.

    I support and advocate for interracial dating not because I believe that dating interracially will solve the problems Black people face in a White supremacist society. Dating and marrying interracially will not solve any problem with race a Black person will face in society. We will always face discrimination no matter who we date and marry in society however I support interracial unions because I truly believe that you can find love outside of your race and be happy. And retain ethnic and racial pride in their race, ethnicity and culture.

  11. LBM says:

    “First, whether they were European or American, they were and still is, of the same mindset.”

    That’s for sure. I was only trying to make the point that the original white “americans” were indeed europeans with the same history. With, as you said, “the same mindset”.

  12. LBM says:

    “Black American men aren’t waiting on them and are dating and marrying interracially in larger numbers”

    “Larger numbers” is true but relative. Black males aren’t getting married at any significant rate higher than black women and the majority who do marry are marrying black women. The dysfunction/divorce rate between black male/non-black females unions is as high if not higher than the average. Non-black women are being left with children as well and are being assaulted by black males also.

    Some of us WANT relationships with people of our own “race” and some of us WANT children that look like us – it’s not a question of ” broadening options” it’s a question of desired survival as a species.

    I know I won’t be happy if we have a situation here in America as in Britain where most of the “black” children are actually not black. I wouldn’t be happy if most black men looked like Obama and “black” women looked like Alicia Keys. Some of us won’t mind at all, but some of us are still interested in self-preservation. Those who want to go elsewhere should do so without maligning the females or males of their group. Those who want to go elsewhere should not assume that those who don’t are denying an option that we don’t consider to be an option. I’m not going to eat a pig foot because there’s no ribeye steak.

    • Timothy says:


      We have every right to preserve our black heritage indeed Sister. There is nothing wrong with a black man and a black woman respecting each other and loving each other.

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I remember the show Missing years ago. I didn’t remember the love scenes, etc. The only thing that I have remembered about the show is that Vivica A. Fox had a leadership role on the show. It had a short run. I didn’t know that the show has an IR scene like that. IRs are realities, therefore it is not uncommon for the show to show a scene like that. Some in Hollywood have promoted IRs as being superior to strong black relationships, which I don’t agree with. The show Missing has more positive storylines than many of the shows on TV today. Vivica A. Fox is 50 years old and she looks very young for her age. By the way that she talks, you know that she is from the Midwest. She’s from Indiana. Vivica Fox is a very talented actress. My philosophy is that I don’t believe in harassing people and demonizing people unfairly involved in IRs. Likewise, I do believe that people have the right to believe in Black Love as well. Black Love is a blessing.

      Solving our problems involve unity, solidarity, and standing up for truth (along with defeating the system of white supremacy). We have to keep on eyes on the prize.

  13. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think about this?

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I will make my commentaries on the video very soon.

      Have a Great Day Sister.

      Bless You.

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney

      Here is my take on the video.

      The video was interesting. Some people in the conscious community do act extreme while sincere people in the conscious community are sincere, strong, and real. Also, there is nothing wrong with being conscious at all. A person that acts arrogant, looks down on people, and act like they are superior to other black people are not part of the conscious community by definition. The narrator talked about a black woman that he had a discussion with. This black Sister said that the Black Woman is God. First, there is nothing wrong with a Sister calling someone Brother. The truth is that black children are produced by the Black Man and the Black Woman. The narrator talks about the black man being the initiator, but inventors have existed among both genders. There should be balance, but there should be no misogyny. It is interesting that this narrator refuses to expose misogyny (or the belief that black woman should be second class citizens or black women should blamed for all of the problems in the black community). That lie of anti-black misogyny is blatantly white supremacist Eurocentric propaganda. White supremacists readily support the attack on not only black men, but the attack on black women as well (via TV, media, etc.). The Black Woman is God ideology didn’t start out of thin air. For the record, many conscious people don’t agree with the view that the Black Woman is God, so the conscious community is diverse.

      Whether one believes that or not, that proclamation existed in response to male oppression against black women. It existed, because there has been the imbalance of male supremacist doctrines in the world. Many Sisters are tired of being oppressed, so many use that concept of the Black Woman is God as a way to promote their female human dignity. There are many black womanists who are not men haters. They just hate injustice. The black woman is partly right that white supremacists (who were slave owners) lusted and sexually exploited black women. The black male narrator is right that white supremacist also wanted free labor as an excuse to establish the international slave trade. Capitalism and slavery have a long history as documented by the author Eric Williams. Also, feminism is not monolithic. History shows that ancient Africa has a combination of matriarchal and patriarchal societies (as found in ancient Nubia, Ghana, Nok, Songhai, Mali, etc.).

      The deal was that the Maafa and white supremacy promoted the violation of the rights of women in Africa in a higher level (via slavery, sex trafficking, etc.). European and Arabic imperialism harmed black people too. There was Charlottee Maxeke who founded the Bantu Women’s League in South Africa in 1918. There was the great freedom fighter Sister Ndate Yalla Mbodj. Many people who believe in the Black Woman is God don’t deny the value of men. Also, there are freedom fighters like Lilian Ngoyi who are fighting for black human rights. The male narrator is wrong to assume that he doesn’t want black people to not know about the Pyramids, not know about different tribes, etc. We should do more than reject self-hatred and know about our blackness. We should know about African tribes, African history, and pan-African culture. I do agree with him on criticizing the propaganda from Empire. I do agree with him that we should reject arrogance. He also mocks the Ankh symbol, etc. He talks about simps.

      The real simps are those who believe in Eurocentric misogyny, who wants to blame women for everything under the sun, and who wants to ignore misogyny in the world in general. The truth is that both males and females have the responsibility to improve our lives, have self-reflection, and to help others. A real man will support equality among men and women. A real man would support men and women to reach their highest spiritual and social potential.

      Also, we shouldn’t be arrogant. We should be humble and have integrity, but there is no shame in being in the conscious community. The narrator is right to expose the mistake of Common when Common said that he if we will extend a hand of “love” to the white establishment then our problems will be solved. I disagree with some of his vulgar language that he has utilized. I wonder if that narrator would say those vulgar words to a strong black man’s face or a strong black woman’s face. So, he shows a mixture of truth and some stereotypes. I’m more concern about police brutality, racism, discrimination, etc. than whether a black woman wants to call herself a Goddess or not (which she has the right to do). In the final analysis, black men and black women should definitely unify in common cause to defeat the evil system of white supremacy (so, a system of justice can transpire). Black male bashing is evil. Black female bashing is evil.

      In my spirit, I wanted to mention this point too. There has been an increase of an attack on the conscious community in the past 5 years. This tells me that the conscious community is growing in influence. Therefore, evil people want to stop the growth of the conscious community. More people are waking up about black history and their black culture. So, we have to keep on going. Regardless of the slander against the conscious community, I support the real conscious community 100 percent.

      Instead of some people wanting to demonize black women like simps, they should encourage black women, support black women, and defend black women as strong, intelligent, and great human beings. That’s the point. That’s real talk. We need more unity.

      Thank you for showing the video Sister.

      Bless you Sister 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good evening, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you watching the video. I thought that it was very interesting, too.

        Like with any other community or movement, you have a lot of diversity. I agree with you about the fact the while most people in the conscious community are sincere, some are not, and they make the rest of the community look bad. These people have ulterior motives, and they need to be called out (like wanting to be a part of a movement to get sex).

        I agree that there is nothing wrong with us calling one another **Brother** or **Sister**. We do it here all the time. It is showing that we are part of the community and we acknowledge that one another. However, we have to call out misogyny, because too many Brothers and Sisters refused to do so, and misogyny is part of white supremacy, and it has been used to divide the Black community.

        Thank you for mentioning the Sisters who have fought against white supremacy and misogyny. We need to learn and know about these Sisters.

        I also agree that the conscious community is being attacked more and more because it has become more vocal and visible. There is a lot of fear in this country of people waking up and coming to their senses.

        Again, thank you, Brother for watching the video and responding. As usual, your words make me think. 😉

        Have a great day, Brother. 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          Good Evening Sister Courtney 🙂

          You’re Welcome Sister.

          Yes, many people who claim to be in the conscious community have ulterior motives (like seeking greed, sex, etc. That is wrong). We ought to condemn misogyny and misandry.

          You’re words make me think as well. 😉 We learn and we grow as human beings. Having these discussions can help us and help other human beings throughout the Earth. This is why the Creator caused us to live our lives. We live to help our people and be a blessing to others.

          Have a Great and Blessed Day Sister Courtney. 🙂

          • Courtney H. says:

            Good evening, Brother Timothy. 🙂

            Thank you so much for your kind words. I really enjoy these conversations with everyone on this site. I have learning so much from everybody. **Each one, teach one,** right?

            (I know that is a cliché, but it is true.)

            I agree with everything that you said about the consciousness community, so I do not have to add anything.

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      Thank you for showing the link.

      You kind of know what I’m going to write about this issue. 🙂

      First, the video (in the link) advances the lie that black women are more “submissive” to white men than black men. The truth is that black women historically have been the greatest ally, and friend of black men. Black women have supported black men since the birth of the black race. Black women have been in the front lines of the abolitionist movement, the civil rights movement, the Black Power Movement, and the Black Lives Matter movement. Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee is one example of a black couple being loving and honorable. Essence has tons of black couples being loving, respectful, and excellent.

      Also, only a minority of black men and a minority of black women are involved in those pictures as found in those links. Most black people (regardless of gender) won’t support the Confederacy or things of that nature at all. So, many “faux” male conscious people exploit issues in the black community as a means for them to demonize black women overtly or “on the low.” So, these new group of anti-black women misogynists try to use “consciousness” as a cloak as a means to disrespect and stereotype black women in general. These misogynists are evil without question. Real conscious people like Sister Soujah, Dr. Fuller, Solomon Comissiong, and others should be acknowledged and respected.

      Also, self hatred is wrong and evil. Self-hatred must be opposed as a freedom is not just about economic & political freedom. Freedom is about mental liberation as well. Many males (not men) who constantly complain about black women have low self-esteem, have been victims of racism, and have other social insecurities. Therefore, it is annoying to see males slander black women and we have to stand up for black people among both genders. We have to stand up for the Sisters and promote unity in our communities. We have to develop our strategies and see the big picture. We are attacked by the system of white supremacy, because WE ARE BLACK. The big picture is that we are fighting the system of white supremacy and we need solidarity based on racial justice & pan-African unity.

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for reading the article and watching that crazy video and then making comments. That video was disgusting! It was trying to say that Black women are nasty to Black men but are submissive to White men. It was pure misogynistic propaganda!

        Thank you for reminding us of how Black women have for the longest time stood with and by Black men. I do not know how many of us have to repeat this, but it is the truth.

        I agree with you that Black men who put down Black women have self-esteem issues, and those Black women wearing the Confederate flag clothing have self-esteem issues as well. There are a lot of people in our community who need a lot of help. I am glad that those of us here are awake, as well as the people on that blog who called out that video propaganda as well.

        Have a blessed weekend, Brother.

    • Mariama says:


      Of course, I cringed. This reminds me of “Ghetto Gaggers,” but a “cleaner” version. I really believe black women are now viewed as the universal sex dumps. Thanks in part to Hollywood, and of course and unfortunately the type of black women who dont care about “image” and how it affects the community and newer generation. I also feel that these “kinds” of black women feel honored to have the attention the most racist kinds of white men. Others, I believe suffer from a serious lack of self-esteem and/or are trying to “pay back” black men who have hurt them.

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Mariama:

        Good afternoon, Sister. 🙂

        Thank you so much for reading the article and watching the video. I agree with you that black women are seen as sexual fetishes. The media have played a large part in this, I agree. People with low self-esteem will do anything to get attention, and if that means being in a relationship with a white supremacist (of any color), then it is **so be it** with them. That is really sad. I also believe that some Black women behave in this manner because they are trying to get back at Black men who have hurt them (and some Black men do the same to Black women).

        I really hope that more of us wake up.

        • Shanequa says:

          @ Mariama & Courtney H

          I do agree with both of your statements that black women have become the universal sex dumps & sexual fetish. Majority of these black women suffer from servere low self esteem issues an the only way they think they can gain any attention is by sexually exploiting themselves. I’m so tired of seeing young black girls & teenagers do those “drop it like its hot” or “thot” poses all over social media. Sometimes you have the black mother encouraging their own daughters to do those poses. The oversexualization of the black woman’s image is out of control. I’m tired of being views by the world as a oversexualize black whore. I’m tired of hearing from young black girls is the only way to be desired or beautiful is to sexually exploit themselves. I was watching a telvision show about a high school teenage female black dance team. The teenagers were dancing to provocative & the uniforms, makeup & hair wasn’t age appropriate.

          What’s even worst having a decent conversation with a black men has become impossible to do now without mentioning the word sex. Before I can get to know a person they are already considering me as a sexual fetish. I had a conversation with a black man that went pretty well, before that one week of talking to him end, he mention about penetrating me. The discussion we were having was about the homosexual lifestyle that is running rapid in the black community. I mention that it isn’t normal for a man to penetrate another man in the anus. The next statement that came out of of this man mouth was “I want to penetrate you lol.” The topic was about homosexuality but was switch to having sex with me. He later ask me, “I hope you wasn’t offending but I do want to penetrate you but right now we’re getting to know each other.” I was upset & laugh it off an kept it moving.

          • Courtney H. says:

            @ Sister Shanequa:

            Thank you for response to the article and the video.

            Black children are not seen as children, period. Black girls are oversexualized by society. That is the reason that white supremacist called the teenage baseball player Mon*e a **slut.** Kids are wearing clothes that are not age appropriate, and you are right, a lot of parents are encouraging this behavior! It is sickening! So many of our daughters are being raised by parents (usually mothers) who were raised by parents who were also too **grown**.

            And they are just copying White society. I remember about six years ago, these 10-year-old White girls were appearing on some dance contest show and they were dancing to the song ***I*m a Single Lady** and wearing skimpy sequined bikini tops and bottoms. There was a national uproar! When the parents were interviewed (I think on GMA), they blew off the controversy and acted like, **What*s the big deal?** No wonder a lot of White girls are whores! That is why a lot of young Black girls are behaving in a sexualized manner — they are copying White society.

            It is disgusting that the Brother wanted to talk about sex with you and you have not known him for a long time. Too many people equate being in a relationship to sex. Society is sexualized, period, and the media play a large part in this.

            Yes, I watch programs dealing with sexuality (like **Scorned: Love Kills** on ID), but I am mature. Sexuality is being pushed on people who are not mature.

            Here is a video about how the homosexual agenda is being pushed on the Black community, and how Black gays are being used by White society to put down the Black community. Beware — this video contains a lot of profanity.

            Here is another video about how homosexuality is being pushed onto the Black community:

            • Timothy says:


              I remember the story when one white supremacist disrespected Mo’ne Davis. That was sick and evil. If they can disrespect black children, then they or white racists are lower than low. I don’t need to add anything more to your comments since you broke down the truth is an amazing, eloquent way.

              Have a Great Weekend Sister Courtney 🙂

              Goodnight Sister.

            • Shanequa says:

              @ Courtney H

              I remember reading a article about the young black female baseball player being call profane names. It really pissed me off. Europeans & non blacks love calling BLACK Africans especially our children profane names. I remember about seven years ago I was on myspace an it was a clip of a young beautiful black girl couldn’t be over the age of four parents were recording her cursing. It was a comment by a grown white man call the child a “Nappy head bitch.” When anything pertaining to young black children Europeans or non blacks are quick to attack a black child just look at the news comment on social media.

              Black Africans have been around Europeans for so long that we are mimicking there deviant ways. What’s even more sick we have parents that have facebook or instagram pages that will post sexual deviant pictures on their pages when their children are on there friends list, can see those pictures & comments on there newsfeed. We have too many black men & women that had children at a early age or until adulthood which haven’t properly mature mentally to be responsible parenting children. I’ve seen black mothers who are strippers will post pictures on there instagram pages of their children but will then post pictures of themselves nude or in their stripper uniform. Out of respect for your children & yourself certain thing should be kept behind close doors not for the world to see.

              • Courtney H. says:

                @ Shanequa:

                Thank you for your response. You are absolutely right about how Black children are so disrespected by Europeans and other non-Blacks, and how, because of our proximity to them, we are starting to adopt their ways.

                I remember there was a story a few years ago about a Black church in the Atlanta area that was accused of abusing the children in the church. One of the preachers said that they spanked the kids in front of everyone in the sanctuary because they didn*t want them to be like White kids doing drugs and what not. (Even though a friend of mine did say that the church elders were in fact abusing the children.) Black parents are long known to be more strict when it comes to disciplining children than White parents. My late parents were very old-school, and I thank God for that. Too many Black parents nowadays are raising their children like White parents, which is why they are starting to act like crazy.

                Again, thank you for your response. May you have a blessed weekend! 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I read the article. I read the article rather easily.

      This issue is very important and many black women including women in general has dealt with the evil of street harassment. I agree with the article 100 percent. Black women should never be harassed or stalked by any human being (regardless of skin color). Black people can work together and fight injustice, but no black person should be violated of privacy, human rights, or autonomy. We want freedom not oppression. No means no period. More black men do have to speak up about this issue. Black men have to stand up against any male who seeks to violate the space or the human rights of any black women.

      It is a shame that Sister Mary Spears was killed by an insecure murderer. Mary Spears was a great mother. The story of Mary Spears shows the world that things must change. There is nothing wrong with peacefully saying hello to people, but no male is entitled to harass or mess with a women in any fashion at all. Both genders should discuss about these issues, we have to condemn street harassment, and we have to fight for the truth. True relationships should exist voluntarily and they ought to be based on common ground, love, respect, and just treatment.

      More people should read the article and be aware that we have an epidemic of Sisters being mistreated by evil people in society. This mistreatment should end and enough is enough. Misoygnists even blame the victims for their oppression, which is sick and wrong. So, we have to defend victims and work to establishing solutions. Also, there are many black men and black women who are fighting for real change and are caring for black people. These human beings should be acknowledged, respected, and supported.

      Thank you for the link Sister Courtney 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good morning, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for reading the article — it was kind of long. However, it is an important issue.

        Street harassment is real. There was a lot of controversy last year when that woman made that video in NYC of the strange men speaking to her on the street. It was later revealed that only footage of the non-White men was shown, when White men spoke to her, too. However, this should not downplay the serious of street harassment against women AND girls.

        So-called conscious Black men like Tariq Nasheed and Jason Black try to downplay street harassment. In fact, Tariq Nasheed has said that laws being passed against street harassment are going to replace stop and frisk laws as excuses to arrest Black males. We do have to be careful about how new laws are used.

        We have to take this issue seriously because women are being killed! I had never heard of the case of Mary Spears (RIP) until I read that article that was linked. This woman left behind a family, including three young children! We need to stop blaming the victims.

        One point that the article stressed is that while Black women have stood up for Black men to wear whatever wardrobe they want, Black men have not supported Black women regarding being able to walk down the street in peace. This is a double standard that needs to be challenged.

        Again, thank you for reading the article. I greatly appreciate your comments!

        May you have a blessed day! 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

          I agree with your words.

          Street harassment is a very important issue that we have to confront as a people. People have died as a product of sick people who can’t take no for an answer. I have heard of the story of the woman in NYC showing a video about street harassment. People who were black and non black harassed her. People, who perpetrate this abuse of women, exist in every color. This is a serious issue. Women and girls have been the victims of it. I don’t agree with Tariq Nasheed and Jason Black on this issue and on the issue of relationships. Tariq is just wrong on this issue. Sister Kirsten West Savali wrote an article that refuted Tariqi’s arguments on this issue completely.

          Street harassment is totally wrong just like stop and frisk laws (as found in NYC and all over America) are wrong too. Any law should be fair, just, and reasonable, yet law alone can’t make people see right. There must be just laws and social activism in stopping street harassment once and for all.

          I heard of the story of Mary Spears before. No victim should be blamed for the actions of criminals. Double standards exist in society. It is fair for Black men to support the right of Black women to walk down the streets in peace without harassment just like Black women allow Black men to wear a diversity of wardrobe. I can’t add more to your words since you’re exactly right. Freedom means that both black men and black women should be free completely.

          Have a Great Day Sister 🙂

  14. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    Here is a story about a so-called man of God who used his position to seduce one of his parishioners:

    Beware — this video deals with sexuality. Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I have looked at the whole video.

      The video is strange and it proves the old saying that the truth is stranger than fiction. First, RIP to Pauletta as she was a woman was murdered. Pauletta wanted to uphold honor and dignity in her household. She was a moral person who was the victim of the evil of her own husband. The ex-preacher Tracey is a disgrace. The role of a pastor or any spiritual person must adhere to self-control, respect for people, and integrity. Tracey represented none of those characteristics at all. He exploited his power to not only commit adultery (which is bad enough), but he was involved in murdering his own wife. Tyonne is wrong too. She exploited William for her own sexual purposes. She used to be a nurse and it is truly wrong for her to use manipulation. That is why anyone desiring to be a pastor or a religious figure in general in my opinion should use fasting and prayer including other actions of extensive preparation before doing their job. William was exploited and he was also wrong for killing his own step-mother. That is purely abominable. These actions of dysfunction are not representative of true spirituality.

      These actions are representative of religious deception and nefarious behavior. Numerous spiritual traditions condemn murder, adultery, lust, and deception. Pauletta caught the faux pastor cheating multiple times. It’s a shame that folks like Pauletta are mistreated like that. The Megachurches, the greed, and the refusal to stand up for justice represent the need for a spiritual awakening among some. Also, the video has the pastor talking about temptation, which is a Freudian slip that outlines his own problems with temptation. A story like this is a lesson and warning. It warns people that evil never benefits anyone, especially in the long term. Stories like these are signs that folks have get right with God. We look at special times in our history. There are blood moons coming up (like the major one in September 28, 2015), we see wars everywhere, there is a resistance against police brutality, and we have more people waking up. On an inspirational note, we are blessed to live in this Earth. Our ancestors are heroes. Nothing happens by accident. We certainly comment here for a reason and we have opportunity to be wise, use discernment, and to help our neighbors.

      Those basic ideologies are what the Creator would want to do while we’re living on this Earth for less than 150 years. Black people definitely deserve justice.

      God Bless you Sister. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Sorry it has taken me so long to respond to your comments on this video.

        I agree with what you said about Tracey*s hyprocrisy and how he used his position as a man of God to seduce women in his congregation. RIP Pauletta. She was definitely a victim of a no-good, low-down man who was basically a false prophet.

        Tyonne was wrong, too, because just like Tracey, she used manipulation to satisfy her own lusts. They both used William to get him to get rid of his own stepmother. This is not different than the story about the White woman who had own teenaged daughter to kill her husband so that she could be with a Black man who was not planning to leave his wife for her anyway, as well as the story about the White woman who had her Black teenaged lover kill her husband for the insurance money. I mentioned before that anybody who uses other people to do his/her dirty work is a coward!

        The program **Scorned: Love Kills** blows me away because of how low some people will stoop just to get some sex. It is really scary, actually.

        Again, thank you for watching the video and responding to it.

        Have a blessed week, Brother. 🙂

  15. Mr. Mitchell says:

    This comment section seems to be about attacking black males; very little is said about black females. Even the advice given to black females is a subtle attack on black males. Am certain that the same black females who criticize black males for dating interacially also date interacially. Black females, it seems to me, want to have their cake and eat it too. All this talk about not supporting black actors who date interacially and who star in shows and movies promoting females who are other than black is a lopsided argument because no calls are made to black females to not support black actresses who date interacially and who star in shows and movies promoting males who are not black… Shows like Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder and other shows that promote white male black female couplings.

    Black females look to settle with black males after said black females have been around the block with all races of men–including white males; black females want to settle with black males once said black females are pazt their prime–like the black female who emailed Trojan Pam in the article; black females look to exploit the conditions of the black community and play the race card when it is convenient for them to do so–when they are ready to settle down.

    I have seen more bf/wm interacial couples than I have bm/wf interacial couples–at least here in NYC. And these are some of the best looking sisters the black community has, who ultimately date interacially. I believe black females have latent desires and fantasies and fetishes about sleeping with white males than black males have about white females, but this facet about black female sexuality is conveniently ignored.

    • Timothy says:

      @Mr. Mitchelll

      The fact is that no black person, regardless of gender should be falsely generalized. What the people in the comments are doing are outlining their views. They are courageously telling their stories. Also, there are many black females and many black males who love black people and will not date or marry interracially. Sister Trojan Pam has criticized shows like Scandal before too. She even wrote commentaries on the necessity for black women to have self-reflection. All black people need legitimate inspiration, advice, etc. to move forward. The fact is that the black man is not the enemy. The black woman is not the enemy. White supremacy is the enemy and the sooner we eliminate the gender war distraction from our minds, the better off that we will be as a people and as a community. When I look at the marches who protest black men being murdered unjustly by the police, I see a lot of black women there. When I look at parents picking up kids from schools in this nation, I see black men and black women there protecting children. Black women give birth to black human lives and they made a huge contribution in the black liberation struggle in general (from Harriet Tubman to Winnie Mandela). Therefore, not all black women are monolithic and there are many black women with great character and great strength.

      Nationwide, BM are involved in IRs more than BW. No one here is attacking black men collectively. People are criticizing black males who sellout. Also, black women who sellout are wrong too. There should be no excuses for degrading or selling out your own people. Calling out misogyny and calling out others who hypocritically claim to be against white supremacy, but then bash black women is the right thing to do. Misogyny and male chauvinism has no place in any revolutionary movement period. The white supremacists (not all black women) have played the race card of “black scapegoating” from the jump and they own the deck. It is a vicious system that has advanced the anti-black agenda for centuries. A black woman doesn’t own most of the major corporations in America, they don’t create every law passed in this country, they didn’t establish the War on Drugs, and they didn’t create Jim Crow. Therefore, we have to see the real point. The real point is that any black person (regardless of gender) who makes a serious mistake should be called on it, but not all black women and not all black men should be unfairly generalized for the errors of a few. That’s the point.

      I know many black females who don’t seek to exploit the black community for a nefarious purpose. These black females that I know seek to improve the conditions of the black community. At the end of the day, there should be unity, a development economic plus political power, and collaboration with black people of African descent worldwide. Liberation not misogyny is the goal.

      • Mr. Mitchell says:

        @ Timothy:

        I was speaking specifically about the commenters on this post; I was not generalizing. My comment was targeted towards those individuals who spew hypocrisy.

        The black females protesting police brutality are typically black females who are not in their sexual prime. And even though those black female protesters are invaluable assets to the plight of blacks, the black females in their sexual prime who date IR counteract the efforts of the black female protesters by virtue of laying with the enemies of justice.

        Indeed, Harriet Tubman and Winnie Mandela are exceedingly rare women. Today, we have the likes of Olivia Pope (albeit she’s a fictional character based on a real person).

        And while there are black male sellouts so, too, are there black female sellouts. Both should be equally called out.

        And as I have said: the black females who use the plight of the black community for their gain are usually in a state of desperation because their biological clocks are ticking. If a black male believes such a black female may be the correct choice to raise his child(ren) after she lived a life of sleeping with white males, then so be it. Personally, I don’t see such an opportunistic black female raising my children.

        • Trojan Pam says:

          @ Mr. Mitchell

          I am completely puzzled by your comment, “The black females protesting police brutality are typically black females who are not in their sexual prime.”

          First, what difference does it make about the age of these black females? Secondly, it was a black female college student who initiated the Jena Six protests about the young black boys who were being railroaded into prison by whites for a school yard fight. And if you look at most of the black protesters you see black females of all ages. You seem to have a bias against older black females. Why, I don’t know but I do know it’s unfortunate especially if you are an older person yourself (which I get the impression you are).

          Olivia Pope is a FICTIONAL CHARACTER. I do not understand how this fits into the conversation

          And I’d like an example of the black females who use the plight of the black community for their gain. Please give us a few names. Unless of course this is being subtly directed at me. And if it is, I’d like to hear your opinion.

          Frankly, Mr. Mitchell, there is no way to know what men ANY woman, young or old, has slept with. Just as it is impossible for us to know what kind of women you’ve slept with. I think you need to examine your own attitudes about black women before you get involved in a serious relationship.

    • Trojan Pam says:

      @ Mr. Mitchell

      One thing I’ve noticed is very few black males participate in my blog. I believe this is due to my being a black female. That being said, if black males do not participate in the conversations then of course the black female perspective will dominate the conversation.

      Understand also, that these women are speaking from their own personal experiences, as I do. So, let me address your points.

      1. I don’t think it’s logical to assume that black females who criticize black males are dating interracially themselves. I am not and many on this blog do not. In fact, my blog seems to REPEL black females who want to date WM.

      2. Do black females want to have their cake and eat it, too? Yes, indeed, and so do black males. In fact, so do most people.
      3. You said, “All this talk about not supporting black actors who date interacially and who star in shows and movies promoting females who are other than black is a lopsided argument because no calls are made to black females to not support black actresses who date interacially and who star in shows and movies promoting males who are not black.” == Actually, that is not true. I have repeatedly condemned TV shows and movies that show black females as the sex objects of white males, one of them being the show, “Scandal.”

      Now I will admit that many black females are not bothered by those images JUST AS many black males are not bothered by the images of black males sexing non-black females. let’s be honest about that.

      One other thing I’d add is black females overall remain fans of black males who cross over to the light/white side. they still buy their CDs, they still patronize their movies, etc. I personally DO NOT and will not.

      But, the reverse is not true. An example is Halle Berry who, as soon as she starred in a movie with a white male, black males told me they would never see another one of her movies. Then, after she had the baby with a white male MOST of the BM I knew said they were through with her.

      Black females seldom draw that line– and I think it’s high time we DO. And I suggest that black males do the same when it comes to us. Just like white people do.

      4. You said, “Black females look to settle with black males after said black females have been around the block with all races of men–including white males.”

      I disagree with that seeing that young black females are having the same problems as older black females. I don’t think black males can talk about someone having “been around the block” with as much interracial sex that black males collectively are having.

      If you doubt this, look around at all the white females with ‘black” babies. Who did they have sex with? On the other hand I don’t see all that many black females with so-called bi-racial babies (but unfortunately, that number is growing)

      And as far as being past their prime, what does that mean? That older black females have no value and do not deserve a man? Some have been married or divorced. Some are widows. And at the rate black males are dying at younger and younger ages and being imprisoned and coming out of the closet, there are all kinds of reasons there re so many single black females.

      Let me ask you a question. Should black males who are past their youth and who indulged in sex with white females be cast out of the dating pool? I’d really like an answer.
      5. You said, “I have seen more bf/wm interacial couples than I have bm/wf interacial couples–at least here in NYC. And these are some of the best looking sisters the black community has, who ultimately date interacially.”

      I believe this is due in part to the shrinking pool of available black males, many of who– when they become successful–do not date black females. And frankly, a lot of black males are put off by very attractive, successful black females.

      I know, I know, most BM will deny this but I’ve seen this behavior in action, where a sister with the entire package is shunned because the men think she’s “high maintenance” or “stuck up” without having exchanged one word with her.

      I’ve even heard men say their reasons for rejecting such women is “too many men are in her face so I don’t want to deal with that.”

      I’ve known many very attractive black females who have said black males don’t approach them even when they flirt but the white men do. I know this for a fact because I’ve had the same experiences and I know I’m not looking for a white man.

      It’s too easy for us to generalize about each other, we’d be better served to look at the conditions that have created this ‘disconnect’ than to keep pretending those conditions don’t exist.
      6. Do black females have latent desires and fantasies and fetishes about sleeping with white males? Of course, many do. Who wouldn’t when all the powerful men on TV and in movies when we were growing up were white? It is the same for all non-white females who have been subjected to white supremacy entertainment. And the ones who seem to be the most affected are Asian women.

      7. AS far as your claim that black females fantasize more about white males, that is NOT backed up by FACT or LOGIC. All you have to do is look at the type of females most black males seem to find the most attractive and overwhelming she is light with non-black-looking hair. Often she is not attractive but the closer she is to white females in appearance, the more she is PRIZED and I don’t think anyone can deny this is true.

      Of course, BM have been brainwashed, too. All of us have.

      But a prime example I’d use is our dear departed Michael Jackson and the woman he picked to bear his (artificially inseminated) children: Debbie Rowe. It took one hell of a lot of fantasizing about white women to make that choice.

      My last point, Mr. Mitchell, is if you want to have a balanced dialogue, you and more black males should participate. I’m sure we can all learn a lot from each other if we STOP bashing each other.

      • Mr. MItchell says:

        @ Trojan Pam:

        Trojan Pam, you say this:

        “1. I don’t think it’s logical to assume that black females who criticize black males are dating interracially themselves. I am not and many on this blog do not. In fact, my blog seems to REPEL black females who want to date WM.”

        Then you said this:

        “2. Do black females want to have their cake and eat it, too? Yes, indeed, and so do black males. In fact, so do most people.”

        Did you just contradict yourself? Yes, you did. And, as “these women are speaking from their own personal experiences, as [you] do,” I am speaking from my own personal experiences and observations, too. What I have noticed is that black females will have no issue, whatsoever, dating white males, yet said black females will express disapproval of black males who date white females. Now, perhaps said black females want to indulge their master/slave fetish/fantasy with their white male partners or perhaps said black females want to be graced with the white supremacist-crafted white male power/status because of said black females’ low self-esteem/self-hatred harbored within their own beings–I don’t know–but what I do know is this: you, said black females, cannot be taken seriously because of your hypocrisy!

        When it benefits you to be with white males, you’ll do your all to optimize that benefit, and when it benefits you to be with black males, you’ll do your very best to optimize that benefit; when you want to indulge your interracial fantasies with white males, you’re open minded. When you want to settle down with a black males, interracial dating destroys the black community. And said black females will date inter-racially while in their sexual prime, but will want to settle with a black male when their fertile days are closing in on them. Why is that? Could it be because white males were using these black females as sex objects, and now said black females fear growing old alone and childless and their best possible bet is to settle with black males? You want to have your cake and eat it too? I don’t know if that’s possible, but try it. Just keep in mind that your double dealing ways are blatantly obviously. Sleep with all the white males you possibly can, but save yourselves the embarrassment and do not whine and complain that black males prefer white females over you because at one point in time you preferred white males over said black males.

        As per your point #3: AGREED!…And you can count me in on boycotting Halle Berry’s works; females like her are very LETHAL and DEADLY to black males(!)…and that’s no exaggeration.

        As per your point #4: A female is in her sexual prime between the ages of 18-25; by that, I mean she is most sexually desired by males. Older females do not have that same sexual power that females in their sexual prime have; older females are least sexually desired. It’s not for me to say who deserves what, but what I will say is that males prefer sexually prime females over older females.

        You ask:

        “Let me ask you a question. Should black males who are past their youth and who indulged in sex with white females be cast out of the dating pool?”

        I answer: Males past their youth are usually more attractive to females. The males who indulged in interracial intercourse and relationships, like the black females who have done the same, in my opinion, should be cast out of the dating pool. Let them stick with their white females.

        Point #5: The successful black males who do not date black females are in the right. Here is why: when those black males were struggling in school, they were invisible to black females–they were utterly ignored. And it is likely because they weren’t thug/gangsta enough or because they weren’t white. Particularly in college (when black females leave home to study out of state and are exposed to white males), a black female will rather date a white male “nerd”/”dork”/book-smart individual over a black male “nerd”/”dork”/book-smart individual; usually, before college, she may have been solely interested in the thug/gangsta. In a system of white supremacy, the book-smart black male is tend to be perceived as weak (compliant and accepting of white culture) by the black female, and the gangsta/thug black male is tend to be seen as strong (rebellious and disapproving of white culture) by the black female, so she gravitates towards the strong; further, in the same racist system, all white males–whether nerd or not–is perceived as having power (for the system is designed to facilitate white male success and social status) by the black female, and the book-smart black male is still perceived as weak by said black female. It is when the black male has developed muscles and acquired a well-paying career that said black female wants him…now that he has a semblance of power. But why reward such females with love, security, attention, and any resource? When it benefits black females to be with whites, they’re open-minded; when it benefits black females to be with blacks, interracial dating destroys the black community.

        Black males are put off by successful black females just as successful black females are put off by black males who are not as successful as said black females. Those black females are attracted to males who are their “equals” or “better”. The black males who are their “equals” or “better” are dating white females–as they very well should! And any white male, in a system of white supremacy is automatically “better” and definitely not “equal” to successful black females, so said black females will gravitate towards any white male (blue-collar or white-collar) over any blue-collar black male. And it is understandable that black males don’t approach successful black females when flirted with because of what was aforementioned: the white-collar black female may eventually put down the blue-collar black male once she finds out his occupation and income level. Any self-respecting black male would avoid such black female.

        Point #6: AGREED! But the problem arises when this fact is ignored.

        Point #7: May contradict point #6. The black females may not be able to act on this desire/fetish/fantasy because most white males don’t find most black females attractive; whereas, white females are more willing to experiment with black males and vice versa.

        • Trojan Pam says:

          @ Mr. Mitchell

          Rather than get into a tit for tat with you (I’m far too busy for that) you are free to believe that black females are the lowest things on earth. I suspect your attitudes are causing you more pain than any that you attempted to inflict here.

          To be frank, your gross and reckless generalizations about black females as though ALL black females are having sex with white males (OR want to) among all the other generalizations you’ve made about older black females, successful black females, etc — tells me that your issues go deeper than anything I can address here.

          SO, I will only address one thing.

          I did not contradict myself when I said ALL people want their cake and want to eat it, too. That is a HUMAN thing. Human nature. It has NOTHING to do with someone having or not having sex with white people. Absolutely was not a logical conclusion on your part

          I will REPEAT what I have said many times on my blogs.

          Ladies, if you encounter a black male who makes it CLEAR that he does NOT LIKE black females, who prefers to heap blame on us, who never takes responsibility for HIS role in the problems he has with the opposite sex,

          please, please, please head for the nearest exit. Do NOT debate with him. Do NOT try to convince him. Do NOT try to change him. Keep your distance for your own psychological and physical safety.. I speak from EXPERIENCE.

          The issues that black people face today are so critically dangerous that NONE OF US can afford to waste any time with those who have turned their fear and hate for their oppressors against other black people, which to me is a form of COWARDICE.

          I said it and I meant it. I think it is COWARDLY for black males to turn their anger and rage against us. I think it is COWARDLY to make black females into the monsters that white people have made black males out to be.

          I have lost patience for this nonsense because the same ones that demonize me (and other black females) don’t say BOO to their white oppressors. It’s like the man who goes to work for an abusive boss and comes home to beat the wife and kick the dog.

          It is sad, indeed, and a GUARANTEE that any male who thinks like this will NEVER RECOVER HIS MANHOOD because he DOES NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT MANHOOD IS.

          Mr. Mitchell, you have illustrated the very points I made in my blog about the sexism and misogyny (hatred of females) within the black community. I would thank you but it is too tragic a condition for that.

          It is unfortunate that you are angrier at black females than you are at the white people who are oppressing you. I would strongly suggest you get used to greater oppression from the white supremacy system because you are playing RIGHT INTO THEIR HANDS

          Since this is not my first “rodeo” about this topic,

          over the years I have discovered there are usually many underlying reasons for anti-black-female attitudes:

          Self-hatred and inferiority issues
          Abusive childhood/mother
          Hidden homosexuality
          A need to justify involvement with a non-black female
          lack of sexual and social success with females
          Haven’t gotten over a relationship that deeply wounded them
          Other psychological issues that haven’t been addressed professionally.

          I try to be courteous to my posters but I refuse to debate with another black person who comes to the table loaded with hate.

          Just won’t do it.

          Have a good evening.

          • Mr. Mitchell says:

            @ Trojan Pam

            1. Every single woman I have ever been involved with was black. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. From the very first to the very last. NEVER have I dated outside my race. NEVER DID; NEVER WILL.

            2. NEVER have I ever abused (physically, psychologically, emotionally) any woman I’ve been with and never will.

            3. I DO NOT HATE ANY WOMAN–black, white, brown, whatever–for any reason.

            4. My friends, relatives, and acquaintances can all confirm that I speak out against white supremacy; in fact, I stopped doing many activities I use to do when I was more confused about white supremacy than I do now.

            5. I point out the issues I notice with black females here because I thought this was a platform where we can discuss, amongst ourselves, issues that happen within the black community. I can see I was wrong.

            6. My intention was not to inflict pain. I will be more mindful about my thoughts, attitudes, and words.

            • Trojan Pam says:

              @ Mr. Mitchell

              I suggest you read your previous post. Look at the gross generalizations, the accusations, NOT just of the women you’ve known personally but the ones you’ve never met.

              I want you to read it and replace the word black female with black male and imagine that I had written it. Perhaps that will help you understand MY view of what you’ve written.

              For example,

              “…When it benefits you to be with white males, you’ll do your all to optimize that benefit, and when it benefits you to be with black males, you’ll do your very best to optimize that benefit.”

              Is this directed at ALL black females? It certainly sounds like it.

              And you wrote this: “Just keep in mind that your double dealing ways are blatantly obviously. Sleep with all the white males you possibly can, but save yourselves the embarrassment and do not whine and complain that black males prefer white females over you because at one point in time you preferred white males over said black males.”

              Again there is NO qualifications as to who this is directed at. One black female, two black females, most black females or ALL black females? And the part about ‘black males prefer white females over you’ — what “black males are you referring to? Are you saying most black males?

              Your entire post is a CONDEMNATION of black females, in particular, “older” black females, even to the extent of being contemptuous when they march in protests to protest the death of a black male they are STILL CONDEMNED (??)

              Your list of who and what you are and do and don’t do may be accurate. Then again, it may not be. In my experience most people are NOT in tune with who they really are. Most people give themselves far too much credit and far too many accolades they do not deserve and have not earned.

              So, I never go by what someone TELLS me they are, I look at what they SAY and what they DO to see who they are.

              When I look at your previous post it literally REEKS of anger and contempt. And if someone described your daughter or mother or sister in these terms, I think you’d be offended or at least I hope you would be.

              As far as inflicting pain, there wasn’t ONE THING you said that wasn’t intended to wound and hurt any black female reading it — including me.

              Nothing you said was the least bit compassionate, understanding or kind. It was harsh, mean, and hateful and definitely not something a person who UNDERSTOOD WHITE SUPREMACY or the EFFECTS it has on its victims would have EVER written about another victim.

              I’m being frank with you because it is tiresome, this endless black female bashing. It MUST STOP IF WE ARE TO SURVIVE AS A PEOPLE. And if it does not stop THEN WE WILL DESERVE WHAT WE GET.

              Black females are NOT all the same anymore than all black males are the same. We do NOT all do the same things or like the same people.

              We are NOT all double-dealing and yes, some of us are “older” which isn’t a crime (to my knowledge?) since I suspect from the tenor of your post that you are a bit “older” yourself.

              And let me assure you, most women prefer a man in his ‘sexual prime’ especially younger women. What I have found is for an older man to compete with younger men he must bring something to the table–money, power, fame or material things.

              I have never understood how the older men who are used by younger women (and I have seen this happen many times) — think this is a compliment. I am also amazed that some think these young women would choose them over a younger man if all things were equal — but that’s neither here nor there.

              Again, I will say as I have said many times about the people who come here as well as myself.

              We would all be better served if we were as critical of our own shortcomings as we are about those of others.

              Otherwise, “speaking out against white supremacy” won’t mean a damn thing when in fact, the truth is, we are still laying in BED with it when we condemn and stereotype and demean other black people — while the white supremacists laugh all the way to the bank and our cemeteries.

              • Mr. Mitchell says:

                @ Trojan Pam

                Thank you for the constructive criticism; I needed it. Yes, I will reread everything I’ve written in addition to your and Timothy’s response. And as stated before, I’ll do my best to be mindful of the causation of my anger and frustration–white supremacy and not black females–when I think, speak, and act because I have misdirected my hurt and pain.

                I will be mindful to not generalize.

                Finally, your points are truthful and accurate, and I’ll be sure to reflect on and internalize all that you’ve said. Thanks.

              • Trojan Pam says:

                @ Mr. Mitchell

                Thank you for accepting some constructive criticism. I can’t tell you how impressed I was by your response. I don’t know if I could have risen to the occasion had I been in your place. I give you much respect for that.

                NOT because I’m right (because my opinions are no more valid than anyone else’s) but it gives me HOPE that one day, the male and female victims of oppression–can step back, put our own agendas on the back burner, and actually listen to each other.

                We have to stop blaming each other for what this system has done to ALL OF US. We (black females) are just as guilty of stereotyping black males without LOOKING at our own behaviors to see how we contribute to this problem.

                The thing that most concerns me is how easily we LOSE FOCUS on the real problem: WHITE SUPREMACY

                This system DELIBERATELY pits us against each other, when it comes to who gets jobs and it feeds us all kinds of black treachery in movies, TV commercials and TV to distract us from the real problem: WHITE SUPREMACY.

                We are a people without a country, always on the run, trying to escape our oppression, to find a place, a job, a home, even a restaurant or a store where we won’t be mistreated or brutalized by the police simply for BEING BLACK.

                It’s enough to drive anyone to the point of exhaustion and it’s enough to drive the average person insane. And that is what we’re dealing with on a massive level: black mental illness caused by the trauma of RACISM.

                The black man doesn’t feel respected as a man and the black woman doesn’t feel protected or cherished as a woman. There is PLENTY of pain to go around. Why create MORE for each other?

                In my book, ‘Black Love Is A Revolutionary Act” I explained to the best of my ability how black relationships have been severely damaged by 500 years of slavery and oppression. I think if we really understood the extent of the damage and trauma we’ve experienced that we would be more empathetic toward each other and would put our focus where it belonged. NOT ON OTHER BLACK PEOPLE.

                That being said, dealing with other black people can be very, very, very difficult. I know black females can be dishonest, difficult, selfish, narcissistic, immature, and disrespectful.

                I know black males can be dishonest, difficult, selfish, narcissistic, immature, and disrespectful.

                Our highest priority should be what can WE DO as a community to help the next generations become better black men and women than we are. and we can’t do that by teaching them to hate each other.

                I hope you’ll continue to come to my blog and participate.

          • Mariama says:


            You could not have said this any better. I for one, hate to bash other black people. I refuse to do it. But there are times when such blatant lies and half-truths are spoken, that I cannot resist. I too have learned over the years to stay far, I mean very far from these “Mr. Mitchell” types, both male and female. Most of them are wounded beyond any kind of help or healing. They would really have to look inward for there to be any glimmer of hope.

            • Phazex_Female says:

              @ Mariama:

              I agree with Sista Pam and yourself as well. Negativity can only feed on itself and as Sista Pam states, to stay as farrrrrrrrr away as you can from individuals filled with {irrational} rage. It does our people and our communities “no good.” We are all (well most of us) seeking pro-active solutions for the plethora of problems that we encounter daily.


              • Mariama says:


              • Trojan Pam says:

                @ Phazex_Female

                We are all works in progress. Getting “well” in a sick society is like getting rid of tuberculosis while you’re living in a TB ward.

                White supremacy is a SICKNESS that infects white and non-white people. That’s why understanding it is CRUCIAL to our recovery

            • Trojan Pam says:

              @ Mariama

              I think we’re all guilty of bashing the opposite sex and often, the same sex. We’re frustrated and so we take it out on each other. Sometimes, our frustration is justified, sometimes not, but we have to be just as careful not to play into the hands of our enemies. They WANT us to hate each other. They WANT us to raise damaged, low-self-esteemed children and what better way to GUARANTEE another damaged generation but by adult black males and black females spewing hate at each other?

              If my mother despises my father and my father despises my mother HOW CAN THEY LOVE ME? HOW CAN I LOVE MYSELF?

              We have to STOP and THINK about the lessons we are teaching our children.

    • reality_check says:

      @Mr. Mitchell. I know a LOT of black women and most of them are not open to dating/mating with white men. They almost overwhelmingly prefer black men. Where are you getting this from? You don’t even believe what you are typing.

      • Trojan Pam says:

        @ reality_check

        I believe most black males and females prefer other black people but the white supremacist programming by the media and the relentless attack on our relationships have created a lot of MISPLACED confusion and hostility toward each other.

        Read Mr. Mitchell’s last post. I see it as an opportunity for black males and black females to dialogue on a more respectful and constructive level.

  16. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of this?


    I go to this website from time to time to check out articles. Some of them — especially dealing with the accomplishments and achievements of Black women in history — are really interesting. However, other articles contain a lot of Black man-bashing. (This blog promotes interracial between Black women and men of other races.)

    I would like some feedback. Thanks. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Hello Sister 🙂

      I will show my commentary on the link soon.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Good Afternoon Sister 🙂

      Here are my views. The Beyond Black & White website is correct to condemn the sick group called “The Infectors.” That group should not only be banned of their Facebook account for their hate speech against black women. The Infectors should be monitored by various legal authorities for their nefarious actions. No black woman should experience hate speech, threats, or demonization of any kind. The agenda of the Infectors is demonic and totally evil. Members of the Infectors are traitors to the black community and they should be investigated by legal authorities. The FBI monitors Facebook all of the time, so I do believe that the Infectors are monitored by the FBI right now. The sick person Aaron should be ashamed of himself. If he is guilty of infecting others in that way, then he should be arrested, tried, and convicted. We have to discuss about misogynoir and we must end misogyny once and fro all. During this 21st century, we must fight against racism, misogyny, and other injustices in our communities. Tommy Sotomayor is a notorious anti-black woman extremist. He is not a real man. Sotomayor has cursed people out, he said that he is inspired by the smear merchant Rush Limbaugh, and he has violated his child support. He has been arrested for assault. There are a lot of other stuff about Sotomayor that is totally shocking. D.L. Hughley have made disrespectful comments about black women for years. Some Hebrew Israelites (not all of them) have cursed out black women and issued vile words about black women too. Their words are found in Youtube. Only sellouts will issue vile words against black women.

      So, I’m not surprised that Sotomayor and others have liked the page of the evil male Aaron (who is a member of the Infectors). Any Facebook group that preaches hatred against black women and threaten the lives of black women must be combated. I’m glad that the Infectors page has been removed from Facebook too. Now, it is important to note that not all black men are like this, but we can’t ignore the problems found in the black community. We have to solve our problems. The BeyondBlack&White website is great to show the achievements of Black women and Black history. I disagree with their site on the stereotypes that they have made about Black men. Some of their rhetoric is Black man bashing beyond just legitimate critiques of many black males. Therefore, the link showed great information on the reality of anti-black women hatred being an epidemic and we have to end misogynoir once and for all. Yes, the blog promotes IRs between BW and non-BM. We have every right to promote Black Love as well.

      Thank you for showing the information Sister. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Brother Timothy:

        Good afternoon, Brother. 🙂

        Thank you for response. I agree with everything that you said.

        The Infections are indeed evil and sick! The are not menough at all
        I will not call them out if their names, but I will say that they are men, that’s for sure.

        This website does have good articles about Black women in history. However, the comments section to this article shows that a lot of Black women have stereotypical attitudes towaRd Black men. We need to condemn anti-Black men in our community, just like we should condemn anti-Black women hatred.

        Again, thank you for reading the article, and for your comments.

        May you have a blessed weekend! 🙂

  17. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of these videos?

    Be warned — these videos contain some profanity. Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I have finally watched all three videos from Sister Lashid4u.

      First, Sister Lashid4u is a very intelligent black women. She is involved in artistic types of endeavors and she gave elaborate, eloquent analysis on Scandal, No Good Deeds, and other issues. It is very honest for the Sister to admit that she looked at Scandal as a way to investigate the slick, anti-black propaganda from such shows. She is right that there is a massive anti-black male propaganda shown in Hollywood and throughout the entertainment industry. From Birth of Nation to modern movies, many black men have been portrayed in a negative light. The Papa Pope character on Scandal shows strength and determination at times, but he gets involved in illegal activities throughout the episodes. The character of Olivia Pope is used by the white President throughout the series. Olivia Pope trying to go against her own father and the show presents the stereotype of black families as being dysfunctional. Her analysis of the No Good Deeds movie is very accurate and she did her thing.

      She described the characters, the social behavior of the people in the film, and the “brute” black male stereotype. Idris Elba plays a criminal who abuses a black woman and kills many people. No Good Deeds shows white saviors (like Taraji P. Henson’s character having a white best friend, who was killed. The white officer was killed too). It definitely tries to glamorize the slander that black males can’t protect anyone and the lie that black males are naturally abhorrent, selfish, egotistical, and violent.

      I’m very happy that Lashid4u promotes Black Love and Black Unity. The Sister has a great sense of humor and her personality is very positive too. We need more Black Unity in our time. She is right to condemn black male bashing and black female bashing (which has been promoted by evil Youtube folks). It is one thing to date people. Yet, it is totally immoral and wrong to demonize and degrade black men and black women. We have to stand up against the evils of misogyny and black male bashing too. She has been courageous to show videos in exposing black women bashing and she has outlined videos on black history, black music, black culture, spirituality, etc. So, she is a very well rounded Sister. There is no freedom and liberation in our communities without black people among black genders uniting and fighting for justice together as Brothers and Sisters. We have to do what is right, stand up, and help our people. I have watched many of Sister Lashid4u’s videos before. She is a very conscious Sister.

      Thank you for showing the three videos Sister.

      Have a Great Week as Well Sister Courtney 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy:

        Good evening, Brother. 🙂

        Thank you for watching the Sister*s videos and responding. I really like your insight! 😉

        I agree with what you said about the videos and Lashid4u*s analyses of the TV show **Scandal** and the movie **No Good Deed**. I have watched only a few episodes of **Scandal**, and have not seen the movie **No Good Deed**. When that movie was released last summer, Trojan Pam rightly condemned as **anti-Black proproganda**. Sister Lashid4u went into more detail about the movie and explained, piece by piece, all of the anti-Black male propraganda in that movie (as well as on the series **Scandal**.

        Last week, the ATL area has been showing trailers for this movie called **The Perfect Guy**, with Sanaa Lathan, Michael Ealy, and Morris Chestnut. The storyline shows Sanaa liking Michael and dating him, and that when she sees how violent (here we go again!) he really is, then when she breaks up with him, he begins stalking her. This is obviously a rip-off of **No Good Deed** from last year. Since that movie was a hit, this new movie was made. Again, both movies show the Black **brute** stereotype. Have you seen the trailer for this movie yet?

        Like you, I am glad that Sister Lashid4u speaks out against both Black-male and Black-female bashing within the Black community. All wrongdoers need to be called out.

        Again, thank you for your viewing of the videos and thorough response!

        May you also have a blessed week! 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          @Sister Courtney

          I have not seen the trailer of the Perfect Guy yet. I have seen the trailer of No Good Deeds though.

          I agree with your words too Sister.

          Goodnight. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I have the read the article. The article was interesting. As black people, we should be strategic. There is a difference between being strategic and being “respectable Negroes” (which we shouldn’t be. I reject respectable politics). In other words, we should use discernment, be wise, and follow commonsense. Yet, we should never submit to a corrupt cop. If a cop is abusing my relative in an unjust fashion, then I will do any means necessary to handle my business. People know what means. The article is right in mentioning that some in the younger generation are naive about racism. Just because a black man is President, doesn’t mean that we live in a post racial society. That is true. It is also true that black people begging for white acceptance will never cause us to be free. The article is correct to make that point. We have love ourselves and work with our people including building our institutions. Jewish folks have done this action with great success. Also, we have to advanced more pan-African unity. There are many African Americans marrying Africans and vice versa. That’s beautiful. Also, we have to reject the negative stereotypes about African Americans. Not all African Americans are lazy criminals. We, as African Americans, have done a lot of contributions in the world in terms of law, medicine, civil rights, economics, engineering, construction, etc. We need more slef-determination, which the article is also correct on. I disagree only slightly on the article on its pessimism. There is no solution in pessimism and the article seems to try to stereotype AAs on the low, which I don’t agree with. So, we as African Americans and all black people must unify and fight for the prize.

      Thank you for showing the link. A Brother is getting sleepy now. LOL.

      Goodnight. 🙂

    • reality_check says:


      I’m very familiar with Khadijah’s blog at Muslim Bushido. Most of what she writes is intelligent “common sense”, and she speaks hard truth about the black community. HOWEVER, she is the antithesis of this blog. She advocates for “progressive” black women to separate from the black community and,most importantly, she is a STRONG advocate for black women to marry interracially.

      Having read several of her posts, I can seriously say I don’t know where she’s coming from. Some posts appear pro-black calling for black advancement, while others seem to advocate complete disbanding.

      She calls for black women to disconnect from the black community and integrate into “other” communities. I wonder if she really thinks this is truly feasible, as I don’t see many “others” that are welcoming black people into their fold en masse. I also wonder if she really believes integrating into others’ cultures/communities will really shield black women from the realities of white supremacy and racism. There is no disconnecting from being black.

      I don’t know. What do you think?

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy & Sister reality_check:

        Thank you and you are welcome. Also, thank you so much for reading the article and responding. That article was a link to another article that I was reading the other day.

        I agree with everything that you both have said about the McKinney thug-cop situation. We need to stand up for ourselves and forget about **respectability politics**, because it has gotten us nowhere. I also agree that the younger generation has been misled into believing that they are accepted by the larger society, and that they will be treated the same. These kids are unfortunately learning the hard way what it*s like to be Black in America.

        I think that this may be only the second time that I have been to Khadijah*s blog, so I am not as familiar with its content like you are. However, from what you have told me, her blog is similar to that of Cristelyn Karazin, who runs the blog http://www.beyondblackwhite.com, which also promotes the idea that Black women are better off with non-Black men. She also talks a great deal about the faults of the Black community, including OOW births, and refers to inner-city Black neighborhoods as **Blackistan** (like how some people refer to Chicago as **Chiraq**). So that is all that I can say about the blog **Muslim Bushido.** Thank you for the further info about Khadijah*s blog.

        I hope that you got your rest, Brother. May you both have a blessed day! 🙂

        Oh, and here is this:

        Remember that Harvey uses a lot of profanity. Enjoy! 😀

        • Courtney H. says:

          Oh, and here is also this:


          Again, may you all have a blessed day! 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

          It is very sad for some folks to justify the officer’s mistreatment of the black little kids. These black kids were cursed out by the officers, which is highly inappropriate. Harvey is absolutely correct on that point. I respect how Harvey made the great point about the evil of the cop sitting on the young girl’s back, which is highly perverted and sick. Many black people know that black people are held onto different standards in Western society. What the officer did was completely wrong. The cop putting a gun on 2 young kids. The officers could of enacted tons of alternatives like interviewing multiple people in the area to find the truth, etc. In real life, many non-black people come into the black community to get drugs, do crimes, and other evils. Harvey is correct to mention that some “bourgeois” blacks will blame black people for the incident instead of the officer. Megan Kelly is a reactionary from FOX news. She is wrong to compare the teenager to a young woman when teenage is not a woman. The victim is 15 years old girl. I’m disappointed that some black people interviewed in the area have denied any racial aspect of the situation. Even white kids said that white grown neighbors have used racial slurs against black teenagers. These kids were having a pool party and we know sick society is.

          As Malcolm X have said, society readily blames the victims instead of the oppressor.

          I have read the article on Clutch that talks about the war on black girls. The article is absolutely right. Clutch did a great job in outlining an eloquent synopsis of the issue, showing the stats about how black girls are unfairly suspended, and describing the necessity for real change to transpire. The Clutch article talked about how many white men and many white women have oppressed black people in society historically (from falsely blaming black people of rape to permitting outright discrimination). The good news is that more and more people are discussing about the necessity of fighting against misogynoir. Black girls in our society are harassed, assaulted, and abused in other vulgar ways. That must be condemned and opposed. We live in an unique time and we have to continue to fight for the changes where black people of both gender live in a society filled with justice.

          The cop resigned and I hope that he is charged and convicted. Every black child should not be vilified or scapegoated at all. We have to be educated on responding to oppression and we need to be strategic too.

          Thank you for showing the video and the link from the Clutch Magazine website. It is always a blessing for us as a people to learn about real issues.

          Have a Great Day Sister 🙂

        • reality_check says:

          @ Courtney

          I don’t understand these black people that advocate disconnecting from other blacks. They have some serious unaddressed issues.

          Although I do advocate for empowering and exalting black women, I am indeed a black man. I read black women websites to get an understanding of issues that are important to them. Realizing that we’re all victims of white supremacy, the focus should be on working together for solutions that are beneficial to our collective advancements (male and female).

          • Courtney H. says:


            Thank you for your comments! I am sorry that I called you the wrong gender! I greatly apologize for that! :O

            Anyway, I agree with you about Blacks who put down the Black community and advocate dropping the Black community altogether and joining up with other communities. You are right that other communities are not too eager to join up with us.

            Thank you for reading Black women*s websites to get our perspective. There are a lot of good Brothers like you out there, and I am glad.

            Have a good day, Brother. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Thank you for showing the story. It is very important to note the positive stories in the world. There is a lot of drama, but there are many black people who are contributing a great deal in living their lives in a positive direction. The teenager Cameron is blessed and he is humbled about his opportunity to go into a culinary institute. That is certainly great news. Homelessness can be very challenging, but on many occasions, some of the most surprising, great events can happen to homeless people as well. We all wish the best for the Brother.

      Have a Great Day Sister 🙂

  18. reality_check says:

    Hey all,

    this police case in McKinney is causing quite a buzz in the blogosphere and social media. It’s sickening to see all the brainwashed black police officer chime in to offer their “objective” analysis *end snark* These people annoy me because they indirectly fault the victims in this situation and offer nothing but excuses for that blue pig’s behavior. Black police officers really have some sort of psychosis. I always wondered how they reconciled being a black officer and protecting these racist whites knowing that they are but one off day away from being the next Eric Garner. It must be a soul-crushing position to be placed in on a daily basis.

    I’m just getting a feeling that this summer is going to be one for the history books. There is a spirit of discontent simmering beneath the surface right now in America. We are witnessing the white supremacy machine that Trojan Pam writes about in FULL operation and on FULL display for the world to see. We blacks have found ourselves squarely at a social precipice. It’s up to us to decide how we’re going to play this. Will we continue with business as usual, or will we make the necessary sacrifices to obtain true liberation? Our very freedom is at stake here.

  19. anonymous says:

    @ Timothy, Courtney, Miss Pam

    What do you all think of what is being said in this video? Thanks.

    I did have a similar discussion with a friend before I came across this (she is a conscious Black woman who is highly intuitive) and she said pretty much what this guy is saying.

    I think one of the Black communities greatest strength lies in the fact that despite suffering so greatly, those who would oppress us could never completely subjugate us. Perhaps part of the backlash we are seeing is not only fear of us retaliating but fear of us as a people who cannot be totally subjugated or destroyed.

    • Timothy says:


      Hello Sister

      I will certainly show my commentaries on the video that you have shown soon.

      Have a Blessed Weekend as well.

    • Timothy says:

      Hello Anonymous

      I have listened to the entire video Sister. Here are my thoughts. The video is very spiritual and religious. It shows a man claiming that God told him visions about the future of African Americans. First, we must realize the chronology of our history. We are the first humans. We have suffered unspeakable crimes by vicious racists. We have made inventions, civilizations, and other great contributions in the world (then and now). Our people survived the Maafa, the Civil War (which was about heavily dealing with slavery. The South and the North economically benefited from slavery. I’m happy that the evil Confederacy lost the war), Jim Crow apartheid, and other evils in our world. We have strong resiliency as a people. It is true that white racists are not only jealousy of our beautiful melanin, but they abhor our resilient spirit. They hate the fact that despite us going through so much that we are sill here. Nature, the Universe, and the Creator are on the side of truth. Karma is nothing to be played with, so we see Karma in real life. For example, after WWII, the empires of European nations (who brutalized black people and other people of color for centuries) immediately started to end. The massive pollution and ecological harm done by multinational corporations (who are owned mostly by white males) has caused climate change to increase worldwide. I have faith for the future. I have no other choice, because there is no liberation without faith and action. Therefore, I have faith and we have no choice, but to use action. Not all black people will wake up. Some black people will not be saved, but there will always be a remnant of black people who will wake up and will finally go into the Promised Land. It may not come in our generation, but it will come in future generations.

      I believe in God and I believe in the Holy Spirit. I believe that the powers that be allowed President Obama to be selected as a test (to see if people would support a neoliberal black person despite him being funded by the CFR, the Trilateral Commission, and other corporate banking interests. The powers that still control the President via political groups and think tanks). After this test, many indicators in America have worsen for the black American people (from housing, employment, racism, etc.) while the white racist backlash against black folks have grown. This is shown by police brutality. So, we can’t be deceived by political figures who don’t have our interests. What we can do is to organize, mobilize, and help our communities. We have to be educated further in our history and culture. Yet, I do believe that in the end, black people will experience justice. Justice is a strong word. Justice is not just about freedom. It is about ending the bonds of oppression and the strengthening of our society, so humanity can see real liberation. So, the video is very interesting. I agree with the video that black people will see true freedom in the end (and only us as black people can free ourselves. No one can cause our freedom totally, but us). I disagree with the video on other issues. Yet, the video was very interesting.

      Thank you for showing the video Sister.

      Have a Great Weekend.

      • anonymous says:

        Thank you Timothy for reviewing the video. I appreciate your honest and thoughtful response. I think you are one of the people being referred to. I still worry about what will happen to us as a collective, but as you stated Faith with action are key components to moving toward justice and freedom. Have a blessed weekend.

      • Shanequa says:

        @ Timothy
        I agree with everything in your post. I believe we are at the time now that justice for our people will come. What we are witness now is the new age of Jim Crow. Caucasians are no longer hiding there racist feelings they are letting it be known right in front of our own eyes that Caucasians hates BLACK AFRICANS. We have already seen on social media evidence of innocent black men, women, & children being brutalize on camera or killed by police and other non blacks an no justice have been serve. Bad things are happen to BLACK AFRICANS around the diaspora an its getting worse. The worse our situation get will be the time BLACK AFRICANS will realize we only have each other & we need to fight for our liberation. I see the future race war happening in this generation an it is coming soon.

        • Timothy says:


          I agree with you Sister. What you have mentioned deals with the guilt complex of the white collective. Malcolm X said it best. He said that the guilt complex of the American whites is so profound that we shouldn’t be surprised at the situation that we face today. Malcolm X told too much truth about the psychology of the white collective. He told many of the inner motivation of white racists. That was one of the reasons why he was assassinated (along with the fact that he wanted to promote independent pan-African unity among all black people internationally. Liberation is not just a national deal. It’s an international deal too. The more that I learn about the black African Diaspora, the more spiritually strong I feel as a black man). You’re right that there is a worsen condition in our society. Since 1980, the prison industrial complex has expanded. Since 1980, there is a massive growth of income inequality. Since 9/11, we have seen a further militarization of even the local police. When cops kill innocent, unarmed black children in broad daylight with impunity, then we witness how demonic and brutal white racists are. More and more Caucasians are coming out of the closet so to speak in expressing their evil hatred of black people. Certainly, we need more unity as black people. Seeing each other allies is important. I wouldn’t be surprised if a race war comes about, but I hope a race war never occurs. We can be prepared as other folks have mentioned. We can learn about survival training, various forms of techniques to promote more charity to our people, advance more mentorships, and constantly learning about our black cultural heritage. We love our Blackness and we have every right to stand up for our human rights. Bless you Sister.

    • Courtney H. says:

      @ anonymous, Timothy, and Shanequa:

      Thank you for posting this video/audio. It is very interesting and tells it like it is, especially how he ties in President Obama*s election and our **time has come as Black people** in this country.

      I also appreciate your comments about the video. White supremacists are showing more and more how evil and hateful they are against us. Because of this, a lot of Black people are waking up from a sleep in which we believed that we were accepted when in fact we are not. WE ARE HATED! The more we realize that, the more realistic we will be about our situation. I agree that a lot of Black people will never wake up because they are delusional, just like the Whites who hate us. However, more of us have awakened and are thinking of and planning ways to help our people. This backlash against us is, in a strange way, benefitting us, because we now know where we stand.

      These following three videos that I am posting deal with why we as Black people need to stick together:

      Lashid4u really breaks it down! Beware — these videos contain some profanity. Enjoy! 😀

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        Thank you for showing the videos. I will certainly look at the 3 videos from Lashid4u. She always shows gems and she just breaks down truth is a great fashion.

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        I have watched all three videos from Sister Lashid4u. She is a genius in describing these important issues in our communities. She touched on many subjects like respect, authority, and police brutality. First, what the police officer did was wrong. He assaulted a non-threatening black woman, he cursed out kids, he pulled out a gun on unarmed black males (I’m glad that she showed information as it pertains to the video). The officer disregarded the words of black kids who called him “Sir” too. Respect is a two way street. Many of the black teens respected the officer, but the officer didn’t respect the kids in the pool party area. Also, Lashid4u touched on the cultural actions of many whites. Some white children call their parents every name under the sun. That of course is not right. People should show dignity and respect to their mother and to their father. The 2 white women assaulting a black female should be ashamed of themselves. Also, some of the whites who called black people slurs and made other disrespectful comments ought to feel shame too. The cop has guilt and that is why he acted in a irrational fashion. Later, he issued a token apology and he resigned.

        Cops in America as of now have killed over 500 people in 2015 alone. Cops kill more people in America than any other nation in the industrialized world. I completely disagree with the women (named Kisa) who defended the actions of the officer. That women was condemning the victims instead of criticizing the officer who done mistreatment against black youth. I won’t call the brainwashed woman out of her name, but she has a slavery mentality and she needs to wake up on racial justice issues. It is interesting that she quoted Malcolm X, but Malcolm X condemned police brutality and advocated self-defense not just being courteous to people. I loved how Lashid4u gave a point by point refutation of the brainwashed woman’s (who is Kisa Jackson. It is ironic that Kisa Jackson says those words when white racist reactionaries are adamantly opposed to her occupation completely) words. Kisa Jackson talks about black on black crime when black organizations have fought black on black crime for decades. The black crime rates have declined in the past forty years in America. This has to do with the officer in question not black on black crime.

        The real issue is that we have a problem of police terrorism in America and we must find ways to end this problem. It is common for the white racists to slander the witnesses and the victims of police terrorism in McKinney, TX. Just because a grown, beautiful black woman wears a bikini (as shown in a Facebook page), doesn’t mean that she’s a criminal. The reality is that there is a difference between respect and submission to evil. We should treat our neighbor as ourselves and be strong. We don’t have to curse officers out, but we should always stand up for our human rights. Some folks confuse standing up for human rights with outright nihilism, which isn’t the case at all. If someone is being questioned by the police, that person has the right to ask questions. Cops are not gods and they should be treated as fallible people (since we pay their salaries with our tax dollars). Cops should serve us not vice versa. Thank you for showing your words Sister Courtney.

        God Bless You. 🙂

      • anonymous says:

        thank you Courtney and Shenequa for your response to the video I posted.

        Ms. Courtney
        I was able to watch some of the video. I think that it was on point. I was disappointed in the response of the woman who was in agreement with what happened. Her take on the situation reminds me of the thinking of older Black people who grew up during The Depression. Black people are not a monolith, so I was better able to sit through her explanation. The Cop behaved in an extremely inappropriate manner, as did the women who were caught on camera beating on a 14 year old child. So many people do not have their facts straight and racist are already weighing in with lies and attempting to twist the truth around. Objectivity is important, but the truth is even more important. I believe that no matter what Black people do or Don’t do racist attacks will happen. If I were talking to the woman who supports the Cops actions, then I would have to agree to disagree. It broke my heart to see him mistreating that young girl, and those two barbarian women beating on the one girl made me angry. This has got to end. This country cannot continue to go in the direction it is going! I think this summer is really going to be interesting.

  20. Shanequa says:

    @ Timothy & Courtney H thank you. Courtney H. I enjoy watching Lashid4U videos the sister is always on point.

    • Timothy says:


      You’re Welcome Sister.

    • Courtney H. says:

      @Shanequa: Thank you and you’re really welcome. I just started watching Lashid4u’s videos recently. I Agree – she is always on point. I’m glad that enjoyed the video.

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        Have a Great Day.

        A lot of people are talking about Rachel. We have to keep our eyes on the prize, which is the liberation of black people.

        • Courtney H. says:

          @ Brother Timothy:

          You have a great day, too. 🙂

          I believe that Rachel is a distraction. I agree that we need to be more concerned about Black liberation.

  21. Courtney H. says:

    @ anonymous:

    I agree with everything that you said. The people who are trying to condone this behavior are and delusional racists. We’really damped if we and damped if we don’t. The racist double standards are so obvious now that people can’t ignore them anymore. This HAS to stop! I also agree that this will be a very interesting summer.

  22. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of these videos?

    I know that these videos are a lot to watch, but they are VERY interesting! Enjoy! 😀

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I will certainly listen to the videos. I probably won’t be finished listening to all of them today though. LOL. Yet, I will listen to them. Sister Lashid4u is a very intelligent person. I love how she shows her own experiences as a means for her to make the important point that single black mothers have been made scapegoats in our society. We shouldn’t disrespect single black women. We ought to express much more understanding and realize that black single mothers are trying to survive in this world just like the rest of us. It is also a fact that teenage pregnancy rates in our communities have radically declined since 1992. Likewise, sexuality is beautiful when it’s used in the right way. We shouldn’t play around with sex. Sex is beautiful, but sex shouldn’t be treated as a game. It is brave of Lashid4u to tell her stories in public as well. She has the right to advocate abstinence and celibacy before marriage if she wants to. She has the right to raise her daughter in that way. That’s her business.

      Having a child is a blessing and there is nothing wrong using preparations before couples have children. She is a religious and spiritual person. She is right that too many people have given up on the youth. The youth need guidance, hope, and inspiration. I certainly respect the Sister’s honesty.

      Thank you for showing the videos as these videos are very thought provoking. 🙂

  23. Courtney H. says:

    @ everybody:

    Here is a really interesting video about White feminists:

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I will certainly listened to the Sister’s video and make a commentary on it.

      The Sister is very wise.

      Bless You. 🙂

    • Courtney H. says:

      Here is another video about White feminists:

      Beware — this video contains a lot of profanity. Enjoy! 😀

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        I have listened to the other Sister’s video entitled, “Black Feminists Stay Away from White Feminists.” First, the beautiful Sister is very smart. She knows about history and culture. She is right that many white feminists want control in the growth of white privilege, even control over the black women. White privilege among white people is not limited among white people based on class or gender. Therefore, black women (regardless if she is a feminist, a womanist, or otherwise) must have freedom and justice. No woman should experience injustice. The white population is declining in many nations worldwide. Black women are very feminine. It is just that tons of non-black people are intimidated by the strength of a black woman and the strength of a black man. When a black woman and a black man speak, we means business. Tons of people are afraid of that. So, we should express our power in helping our people.

        She is right that these white racists have a distorted view of sexuality. The topless women protesters were fighting against police brutality and they don’t deserve to be slandered. Also, African culture is filled with topless women. So, many people have to be emotionally mature and have some sense of self-control without having some immature reaction to topless women protesting injustice in Los Angeles. I’m sorry that the Sister experienced harassment from a perverted white male while she was protesting. She is right that the gender war nonsense must end. She’s a strong Sister. She is not pulling any punches. She called out Tommy Sotomayor and Tariq Nasheed for their misogynistic rhetoric. We have to be aware that many whites act as culture vultures and we must advance or own independent thinking and our own self-determination as one black people.

        Have a Blessed Day. 🙂

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        P.S. I don’t agree with the Sister who made “Black Feminists Stay Away from White Feminists” on every issue though. So, I want to make that clear. 😉

    • Timothy says:

      Good Afternoon Sister Courtney 🙂

      I have listened to the whole video Sister.

      The Sister is right to outline much history that many people don’t know about. This history will not be shown in our mainstream history books. I heard of this history years ago. While white women have suffered mistreatment and misogyny by white males and others (which can never be justified), white women are still direct beneficiaries of the system of white supremacy. Many early white suffragettes were overtly racists and they rejected any social equality for black people. Some of these white suffragettes expressed slander and false stereotypes against black men. Many white women are very smart and know about their situation in society. This doesn’t mean that equality among both genders should not exist. This does mean that many people give white women a pass in terms of the system of racial oppression. I also liked how the Sister exposed the deception of Rachel, who lied and claimed to be a black woman. I respect how the Sister used books, quotes, and other forms of evidence to validate her own points. The white males sought power and control from the early Greek Empire to the present, but white women also wanted power too. Some white feminists were racists too. This is why many black women call themselves womanists. Many feminists (both white and black) don’t know about the history that the Sister gave in her video.

      Black women suffer both racism and sexism, so black women experience more oppression than white women. I don’t believe that all feminists are racists, but it is true that some feminists are racists and want to benefit in the capitalist oppressive system. There must be a fight for racial justice and economic justice in our world. Elizabeth Cady Stanton, etc. were known racists. Ida B. Wells was a hero too. She opposed lynching and wanted freedom for black people. I have learned about Ida B. Wells traveling to the UK to get support against lynching against black people. Many white people (among both genders) ignored the plight of black people. Also, many white women were complicit in oppressing black men and black women. It is a shame that Willard and Somserset slandered Ida B. Wells, but Ida B. Wells stood her ground and fought back against white racism. Margaret Sanger’s racist words were evil. Sanger was wrong to ally to the eugenicist movement economically. Eugenics is not only a racist philosophy, but people have used the eugenics movement to forcibly sterilize and kill black people, Jewish people, and other people of color.

      It’s a known fact that Gloria Steniem has CIA ties. Gloria’s comments about the President were wrong and inappropriate. Yet, I do believe in gender equality politically, economically, and socially.

      This video proves that we should not worship whiteness. We need to love our black people and stand up for black liberation without compromise.

      Thank you for showing the video Sister. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy:

        Good evening. 🙂 Thank you for watching both videos and commenting. I greatly appreciate it.

        I have to admit that I did not see all of the video about the Sister telling Black feminists to stay away from White feminists, since I was cleaning my bathroom at the time. However, I have watched Sister Lashid4u*s video twice. I agree that it is very informative and she breaks a lot of stuff down very well, as she always does. I already knew that Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony were racists; I had read about them during the 80*s. They were feminists but they were also white supremacists. Color ALWAYS trumps everything else. Anyway, the video tells the truth about how White feminists often use Black women to support them while they are stabbing us in the back and bashing Black men. Harvey talks about this often as well (even though he is misogynist, we know).

        I liked what Sister Lashid4u said about White feminists did not support anti-lynching legislation because they felt that lynching did not affect White men, and that this legislation only protected Black men, so they felt the legislation did not need their support. Ida B. Wells is a shero for sticking to her guns about anti-lynching legislation despite White feminists not supporting her. It is a shame that she had to go to the UK to get support.

        Again, thank you for your thorough responses! Have a blessed evening! 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      i have read the article about the growth of black women owning businesses. This is good news. The recession stripped much of the wealth away from the black community and this news proves the resiliency of black women in the midst of a racist, classist, and sexist society. This news is inspiring and it proves that hope including positive action not pessimism is the key for justice. We have to continue to use social action and realize that the journey for justice isn’t easy, but we have to be on the road of justice in order for freedom to occur. Congratulations to the Sisters with their businesses. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Thank you for showing that great link.

      The Sister is blessed to live so long. I find that many of the older people say that their secrets of a long life deal with having connections with family and community, eating healthy, not sweating the small stuff, and being active.

      Thank you for showing the link. Sister Susannah Mushatt Jones is a great person and she lived through so many eras of America.

      Life is a blessing and we have to use it wisely. God Bless You. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        @ Brother Timothy:

        Thank you and you are welcome. I agree with everything that you said about the Sister. She is indeed blessed to have lived such a long life during many turbulent eras in American history. I thought it was such a sweet story.

        Life is indeed a blessing. God bless you, too, Brother. 🙂

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  25. Courtney H. says:

    I posted this video on another post, but I feel that it belongs here. This is a good video about Black men and Black women:

    Beware — this video contains a lot of profanity and sexualized images.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Good Afternoon Sister. 🙂

      I will certainly listen to the video. Have a Great Day. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I have listened to the video from the Brother about Beyonce and black women. From the video, let’s just say, he’s not a Beyonce fan. LOL. He won’t be listening to any of her records.

      First, I will show where I agree with him on and then show where I disagree with him on. He’s right that we have to promote integrity and morality in our community as black people. There is no liberation in social nihilism. Black women and Black men must express dignity in society. We all know that Beyonce has great ballads and she can express herself in a more progressive fashion without the extra stuff. He’s right to say that we must develop better relationships among black men and black women. We must end the gender war distractions, so we can fight for equality and justice. He’s right to expose the corruption found in the music industry, which seeks to exploit human dignity for the sake of the growth of corporate profit (and this profit doesn’t enhance the masses of the people, but the oligarchy. Music back then heavily promoted love, grace, and joy more from the Dramatics to the Emotions. Today, some mainstream music want to advance selfishness, greed, and the lust of money). He is right to criticize some black men who use their experiences as an excuse for them to demonize black women or they want to exclusive date non-black women for illogical and ignorant reason. To me, that is a form of cowardice. The truth is that tons of black women are filled with great character, inspirational strength, and great love. Therefore, I have no issues with his words on those issues.

      I disagree with him on his excessive usage of profanity. He’s a very smart man and he can express himself without using vulgarity. Harriet Tubman, Marcus Garvey, WEB DuBois, Malcolm X, Paul Robeson, Ida B. Wells, and other leaders of our people expressed themselves courageously without profanity in public. Also, I disagree with him in saying that if a woman doesn’t respect herself, then we should just have license to call her out of her name. I don’t care if a woman is walking down the street naked in public, I will not call her out of her name or disrespect her. This problem has nothing to do with black women. This problem existed from the system of white supremacy/racism. Black men and Black women are victims of this system. We have to not only criticize black people who are doing evil. We have to help our black people, so that they can do good and improve their own lives. It is not enough to condemn evil. We have to advance goodness too.

      Thank you for showing the video Sister. 🙂

  26. Courtney H. says:

    Here is a video about Black people and gay rights, per the Supreme Court gay marriage decision. It is very interesting.

    Beware — the video contains some graphic images, sexualized images, and a lot of profanity.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney.

      I have seen this video before. My point is that our agenda of black people have been ignored by mainstream society. Supreme Court decisions have existed to give gay people marriage and other things, but we are still oppressed by white supremacists because we are black. So, we have to develop strategies in developing our infrastructure, pooling our resources, and standing up for economic justice. The Supreme Court has not ended injustice, so we have to fight injustice. Our black people certainly have had our struggle exploited and we should affirm our right to stand up for our communities.

      The video was interesting.

      Bless you Sister 🙂

  27. Courtney H. says:

    @ everybody:

    What do you think of this? I would like some feedback, please.


    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Good Evening Sister Courtney 🙂

      The link obviously wants to promote black women to have IRs. My belief is that people can love who they want voluntarily (as I am not a fascist. I don’t believe in tyranny), but my romantic preference is not white peopel. I love black women. Now, this site is geared toward primarily black women who desire to expand their options romantically. Obviously, I don’t agree with the site on every issue since I believe in Black unity to solve as one way to solve our problems. The stats of more black women dating and marrying interracially than a few years ago is not surprising. There are many black women who want to expand their options from a romantic standpoint. Still, black people mostly date and marry each other. One way to ease tensions in our community on this issue is for people who desire to date or marry interracially to be left alone. Those of us who want Black Love and Black Unity in our communities (like I do) should be left alone as well .That can end many tensions. Also, I do believe that this gender war distraction must end. We have to move forward and black men and black women deserve dignity, respect, and liberation. I do acknowledge how that has shown great historical information on great black women heroes (which is great), but that site should acknowledge the many black men who are heroes and made great contributions in the world as well. Not all black men are thuggish, brutish, and unintelligent. I have great black female and great black male relatives who are strong, studious, and hard working. Black women bashing and Black men bashing are both wrong and evil. There are tons of black women with great character, intelligence, and courage as well.

      Thank you for showing the link Sister.

      Have a Blessed Day. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      Also, I don’t believe in viewing IRs as superior to Black Love. There is not a single relationship on this Earth which is superior to Black Love as Black Love is the first part of human love.

      The following link showed how Dr. King told the truth about how Black is Beautiful.

      God Bless you Sister 🙂

      • one minute conscious videos says:

        This was the comment that i posted on her youtubepage:

        One minute conscious videos 1 seconde geleden

        You asked the question: ” When will Black women declare their independence to date who they want?”The answer: A STRONG black woman recognizes that dating a NON-black man is a COP OUT for weakminded black women who have given up all hope on building a REAL black family, and because of her STRENGTH she will not allow herself to be WEAKMINDED like YOU.

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good evening, Brother Timothy 🙂

        Thank you for reading the article (I have to admit that I just glanced at it). I agree with everything that you said about the article and the website.

        Thank you for posting the MLK video. I have never seen it before it. When he mentioned the definition of **white** and **black** in the dictionary, it reminded me of that scene in **Malcolm X* when Baines told Malcolm to read how the dictionary described both **black** and **white** and how the colors are perceived. Thank you again for showing the video.

        Have a blessed week, Brother, and God bless you, too. 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          @Sister Courtney

          Good Evening Sister Courtney 🙂

          I agree with your words as well. Dr. Martin Luther King said those words in 1967. Also, many people said that Dr. King was sounding like a nonviolent Malcolm X before he died. In other words, Dr. King was starting to understand what Malcolm X was talking about. Both of them opposed the Vietnam War too. We are walking in the steps of giants. Brothers and Sisters shed blood and died for us to live during this generation. We honor our ancestors and we express the love for the sacrifice of our people as God would want us to do. I appreciate your wisdom.

          Have a Blessed Week too Sister Courtney 🙂

    • kowaba says:


      The author of the blog makes it seem like dating interracially actually helps eradicate racism. The truth it does not. If anything it erodes culture and causes more confusion making things seem like they are okay. It’s similar to how schools or workplaces are integrated; there is this image that everyone is getting along when in fact black people are still getting screwed over. The power dynamics is still in place. It is not resolving the core issue in any way. I see this country going the way of Brazil.

      • Courtney H. says:


        Thank you for response. I agree with everything that you said. A lot of things are being used to make us think that everything is okau, when in many ways, things are worse and we are catching h*ll all over. Again, thanks for your response.

        • kowaba says:

          @ Courtney
          You’re very welcome. This would also push aside the concerns that the black community has for yet another group(interracial couples and their families) and in turn be detrimental to the black family unit.

        • Courtney H. says:

          Oops! Sorry about the typos! 😉

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  29. Christelyn Karazin thought that she was gonna get lots of pats on the back from Jesse Lee Peterson (a certified coon) and his white supporters but got a RUDE awakening!‏

    • Courtney H. says:

      @ one minute conscious video:

      All I have to say is . . . WOW!

      • Timothy says:

        @Sister Courtney

        I can say wow at the video too. I don’t agree with the agendas of Jesse Lee Peterson (who said Thank God for slavery and other ignorant views) or Christelyn Karazin at all.

        Goodnight Sister Courtney 🙂

  30. Courtney H. says:

    @ everybody:

    What do you think of this?


    Read the comments section as well. I would like some feedback. Thanks.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney.

      I have look at the links and many of the comments.

      Obviously, the male in the video is a punk and a coward by harassing a grown black woman. This story is why people need to learn about integrity and treating your neighbor as yourself. The Sister was just in McDonalds trying to get some food and this male was disrespecting her. We have to promote respect for black people. Some black people just want to glamorize disrespectful mistreatment against black people. This should change. There is no justification for the male’s actions. As for IR couples, people have the right to live in peace. My philosophy is to allow IR couples to live in peace and for black couples to live in peace as well. Black Love and Black Unity are beautiful expressions of human existence. That will solve much of our problems on this issue. There are many black women and black men who are honorable, strong, and filled with great character. One disrespectful male is not representative of all black people. Likewise, black men in a higher level have to check these disrespectful black males, who make it their duty to degrade a black woman. More black men have to step up and silence misogynist people in public. A black woman has the right to wear what shoes that she wants to. This is a serious problem in our community and we have to defeat misogynoir once and for all.

      Thank you for showing the link Sister. 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        Good afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for watching the video and reading the comments. It is very interesting to watch and to read. The reason why we as Black people are not getting anywhere is because of the gender war among Black people. We have discussed so-called conscious Brothers who call for Black unity yet at the same time, bash Black women (we know who they are). This article discusses this aspect of the Black gender war as well:


        It is a long read and contains some profanity, but it is very eye-opening and important.

        I agree that we need to stop generalizing about one another. These videos are turning us against one another, though it is important that we need to see what is going on.

        I would not have talked back like the woman in the video, but like some of the commenters stated, ignoring misogynists makes them even bolder. In some cases, it is d*mned if you do, d*mned if you don*t. I guess she felt like she had to stand up for herself. I*m glad that those men of different races stood up for her against those idiotic-acting men. People who act like that have serious personality issues.

        You are welcome, and thank you for watching the video and reading the comments. 🙂

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I have read the site’s views on NWA.

      To be honest, this article is one of their greatest articles. I don’t agree with that site on some issues (we know the issues), but that article is accurate. NWA tried to present themselves as revolutionary, but they weren’t. They claimed that they wanted to accurately report on the streets, but they used vulgar language, and anti-women slurs throughout their report. Members of NWA have beat on women, cheated on their girlfriends, and used other forms of evil in society. That has nothing to do with promoting justice. That is promoting nihilism. The truth is the truth. The truth is that no self respecting woman and no self respecting man for that matter should pay money to watch that movie. I have no problem with boycotting the film since misogynoir has no place in our society. They glamorize gang life. Hip hop artists can easily expose police brutality and expose poverty in poor communities without using racial slurs and anti-women slurs. the recent events document that we are against white supremacy and the system of white supremacy have made artists rich who degrade their own people, especially women via music. Degradation of black women and black people in general should end. NWA is one reason why conscious hip hop has been readily suppressed by the powers that be. No black person should be called the N word and we deserve justice as human beings.

      Have a Blessed Day Sister Courtney 🙂

      God Bless You.

      • Courtney H. says:

        God bless you, too, Brother Timothy. 🙂

        Thank you for reading the article. I will not add to what you have said, because I agree wholeheartedly with everything that you said. I will add that on other blogs that I have perused that people have placed links to articles about how hip-hop was hijacked by executives who decided to use hip-hop music to promote misogyny, violence, and drug abuse within the Black community. Supposedly, a secret meeting was held and that those who attended had to sign a no-release form to keep the identities of those attending the meeting secret (this happened during the 1990s). I do not remember the link, but I am sure that you can Google the meeting. So it is not just the rappers and hip-hop artists who are responsible for all of this destructive gangsta rap and its effects on the Black community.

        May you have a blessed day, too, Brother. 🙂

        • Timothy says:

          @Sister Courtney.

          P.S. Yes, I heard of the story of the corporate executives. Also, the prison industrial complex is heavily privatized too. Also, music alone is never totally responsible for our oppression. Music can be used for good and it can be used for evil. Music that promotes upliftment and righteousness should be promoted and corporate-sponsored anti-black music should be rejected. Misogyny should be eliminated. Yes, these misogynists are blatant cowards.


          is one link that has this story.

          Thank you for your wisdom. You’re a very wise Sister 🙂

          • Courtney H. says:

            Good afternoon, Brother Timothy. 🙂

            Thank you and you are welcome

            You are wise, also, especially since you took the time to Google the article that I described. I remember reading that very article in the link you provided (thank you!). I also read some of the comments, and they were really interesting. Some people obviously believed the letter, while others didn’t. However, it cannot be denied that since gangsta rap became popular, crime has increased, and the prison industrial complex has exploded. Sure, people have to responsible for their behavior and shouldn’t blame entertainment for committing crimes, but entertainment does have an influence on people (copycat crimes are an example). I don’t believe that this letter should be dismissed. I believe that this meeting took place; this stuff happens all the time.

            Again, thank you for the link. May have a blessed weekend, Brother.

            • Timothy says:

              @Sister Courtney

              Good Afternoon Sister Courtney

              I do agree with you that some music can have an influence on bad behavior. We have to always stand up against injustice.

              Have a Blessed Weekend Sister Courtney as well 🙂

              I will look at the other link today as well. 😉

  31. Courtney H. says:

    @ Everybody:

    What do you think of this?


    I would like some feedback. Thanks.

    • Timothy says:

      @Sister Courtney

      I have read the article and looked at many of the comments. The article from Beyond Black and White exposes the misogynoir of an anti-black women site that praised Tommy Sotomayor (who is known for his anti-black women hate and he has said hateful comments about black people in general. haters like Sotomayor use the nefarious 1965 Moniyhan Report as an excuse to demonize Sisters). The truth is that black single women are not monolithic. Many black single women raised children because of divorce, death of a spouse, abandonment of one spouse, and for many other diverse reasons. To say that black single mothers are inferior to white mothers is racist, disrespectful to black women, and is abhorrent. I’m glad that the comments exposed the biases of that fraudulent study (many of such studies shown in public have an agenda to demonize black women and black people). Black single mothers need respect and adequate resources to help them and their children. Black single mothers are not to be blamed for racism, crime, and other problems that we face as a community. Many misogynists view white women as better suited to raise children which is a lie and it represents a slavery mentality among many in our community. I love black women and I will never marry a white women. White women aren’t my romantic preference. My romantic preference is black women. So, the BBW site is correct to expose misogyny in their article. Of course I disagree with the Beyond Black White on some issues, but the site is correct on this issue. We want families to exist based on love without scapegoating black single mothers. We want black women to voluntarily make their own choices and to have total freedom. Black women must have freedom in order for all black people to be free. We all give great respect to single black mothers who are raising their children and being courageous too.

      Thank you for showing the link Sister Courtney.

      You’re a great person.

      God Bless You 🙂

      • Courtney H. says:

        God bless you, too, Brother. You are also a great person. 😉

        Thank you for reading the article. I agree with everything that you said in your response. The only thing that I will add is that Malcolm X said many years ago that Black women are the most disrespectful people in the world. This article that BBW exposed proves it. I am also glad that the website is exposing this hate-filled trash! Again, thank you for reading the article and the comments.

        May you have a blessed weekend! 🙂

  32. I have another suggestion that wasn’t even hinted at: stop limiting yourselves to ‘black’ men in your own country. There are literally millions of ‘black’ men all over the world, so there’s no need to stick to Americans or English or French or whatever! Fuck language & culture, they’re no issue at all!

  33. 44_shooter says:

    How about find someone who loves you for you, that would include the color of your skin regardless of the color of theirs.

    Find someone who respects you as a human being, as a woman, as the mother of their children. Always, not just when it’s convenient.

    Find someone who will stand by you, in all times, support you mentally, spiritually and even financially (if you both agree THAT is the role one of you plays).

    If that person who does all this is Caucasian, Latino, Asian or a damn Martian – does it matter?

    Our time on this earth is too short to not take every opportunity to be happy and treated like we deserve by a PARTNER in a relationship (not just a man or a male who calls himself that).

    I pray that everyone out there seeking his finds it. God bless every one of you beautiful women looking for a REAL man.

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